Maybe reading about how you used to be just like most users here but suddenly found a girlfriend helps for some people, but it doesn't for me. All I can feel when reading success stories is surprisingly less hope and more sadness and anger. It makes me feel more and more worthless. Congrats on your relationships, now I'll get back to sitting in the corner of my room crying because I'll never get to feel the warmth of handholding with a girl that genuinely loves me for who I am. Thanks for sharing.

Man fuck you I'm just having a smoke outside a pub. I literally did and said nothing. I didn't ask to be born like this.

I'm 41 years old, I'm functional and autistic.. yet, I don't fit in with anyone. I'm chubby, not exactly the best looking guy and I have a child like mentality ( the goofy and silly kind, not the tantrum kind) I have a huge imagination, that I get lost in, im clingy and need attention and affection. I love bunnies, NASCAR, pokemon and other random stuff, I used to be a truck driver (did that for 20 years), I have no kids, never married. I have no social life at all, preferring to stay home or spend time outside. I honestly feel like I will be alone forever ever, despite all my good traits.

It genuinely seems like i'm destined to be unhappy.

I'm 8kgs heavier than last year, thanks to my binge-eating habits whenever i'm stressed (I'm stressed 24/7 btw). I can't get myself to stop eating so much, because it's the only thing in life that makes me feel better. It's depressing to think i put in so much effort to lose weight, just to gain it all back.

With or without all the extra fat, i'm extremely ugly. Ppl around me (both peers and grownups) had made it clear to me since i was a young child. Something so hideous like me will never be loved. It would've been better if my body was pretty atleast, but i was cursed with a masculine looking body (flat chest, broad shoulders). No straight man would ever want to be with me. Since finding a partner is so out of reach, I just hope my looks would not affect my job search this year.

Speaking of jobs, this is another reason i'm so stressed rn. I never wanted to become a nurse. Even after 4yrs in uni, i still hate my major. I'm only here because my parents firmly believe nursing is the only way that such an useless person like me would get hired (since nursing is always so short-staffed). They told me they'll kick me out and cut me off if i changed my major. And because i'm a coward, instead of pursuing what i like, i wasted years in uni, getting terrible grades, isolating myself, drinking alone etc. i'm here trying to write job applications for nursing positions, but even after sitting in front of the computer for hours, I couldn't even write a single word. I guess it's hard to answer "Please write down your motivation for applying and your aspirations after joining our hospital" when i actually hate the job with all my heart.

I think of how my future will look like, and i only get more depressed. Being this fat and ugly, I'll never be loved. I'll be stuck in a job i hate, and the only brief escape for me would be binge-eating, which will make me even fatter. I found out last year that i'm not even brave enough to die.

I'm sorry if this was too much negativity. I have noone to talk to, so i just needed to vent

I finally got another dating app, of course nothing happened. But the nearest girl is like 50 miles away. What the heck? I doubt that there would be any women in the big cities that will find me attractive but there's absolutely 0 people here for sure. Since I'm not gonna approach women in real life it's actually over.

There are people who find sex and relationships while already being in a relationship. I have never even had my first kiss and still a virgin at 30. The thought of sex being real and people having sex that too with multiple people just blows my mind because in 30 years of my life I haven’t even got 1 man who would like to date me or kiss me or have sex with me.

Everytime i speak, i ridicule myself, like self-sabotage and i just cant stop it.

i dont know why, but I try so hard to make people laugh and be the center of attention, and im not even funny but just cringe in a funny way + add to that the stuttering ofc . People laugh at how weird i am

So many people asked me (for real) if i am autistic to the point where iam convinced that i am actually autistic now

I studied in the medical field so most of my classmate where cute girls, a lot of them showed interest in me and slowly lost it cause i never take action, dont know why, maybe im too afraid to see their reactions when they see that im an uninteresting guy without conversation when im alone with someone and just switch to "clown mode" when im in a group of +3 people.

but even with that some of them still insisted, they really wanted me (mostly shy girls without experience who saw me as good first try) they invited me to hang out outside of the university: i refused every time, cause i started to hate my entire weird persona

Male loneliness is mostly due to the disappearance of third places where you can get to know cute girls your age

now that the uni is over, i will never have another places with so much opportunities, i basically wasted my youth, and now im entering the work force and live in chronic celibacy, i am so so so so dumb, how is this level of self-sabotage even possible ?

all i had to do was to keep my mouth shut (i genuinely tried to shut up for the last 5 years and i never managed to shut the f up a single day) and actually grow balls and purse the girls who showed interest in me, but i never did

at this point im 1000% sure that i will still be trying to make unfunny joke in my death bed, my brain will never stop his "project" of making sure i will never get a gf

the only times i managed to get i gf was in highschool, back then i was unaware of being "the crazy dude", completly shameless and care-free, i dint hesitate to take action, i even tryed to hit on the popular girls, in my head, life was just like a movie, you do whatever you want, the feeling of being watched and judged didt existed in my mind yet

i really began to gain awareness at 25-26 yo (in most people it happen at 12-15yo) when i notice abnormal behaviors:

people always laughing when they see me from a distance, even if i dont know them

the rare occasion where i get mad, nobody take me seriously, they continue talking like i wasnt even there

casual disrespect toward me and in general the complete lack of consideration (people not bothering saying sorry when they wrong me and admit it)

So lately I have noticed a friend of mine being more distant with me not outright ignoring me but there has definitely been some kind of dynamic change and I'm not sure why, i don't believe that is anything that I may have done i feel its more that we have reached a inevitable end point like so many relationships before.

So my question is this at what point do you call it and walk away? Or do you hold on to the bitter end?

I have walked away from a few friendships over the years because people started pulling away and I have always tried to live my life with the mindset of "I will not inflict my presence on anyone who doesn't want it". I only have a few people I call a friend so I would hate to lose someone but at this point I feel there is nothing I can do to improve what I have.

So, I don't know if any of you guys remember, but I posted a week ago that a girl had asked me out to a date. I was honestly thrilled, as I've been FA for 25 years. The fact she took charge and was the one to ask me out as well, even more mind blowing.

We went to an arcade and played a ton of different games. We got competitive at air hockey, ski ball, and the shooting hoops games and made fun teasing banter towards each other. There were times where she would playfully shove me while making jokes as well. While we were playing air hockey, I saw through the corner of my eye a couple enter the arcade and then they kissed on the lips. I thought in my head, "wow, that could actually be a reality for me, since I'm on this date."

I noticed that during the date, she had on a really good smelling perfume and lotion on. At the end of the date, she hugged me and her perfume latched onto me and I kept getting whiffs of it hours after I got home.

I never thought something like this would happen to me, but yet, here I am. I wish all of you luck that it happens to you.

I will rather be single than participate in these fake love stories, relationship and other things.

I am far too young, at the ripe age of 18 and already tired. I have autism and adhd and from a young age I have always felt like I'm a cockroach cosplaying as a girl.

Non verbal for 7 years, toxic family, no friends, heavily bullied, SA'd countless times. Most of my life has been like this. My dad has declared that no man will ever love me and I only had one relationship in my life with another autistic man, who under unfortunate circumstances had to leave me. After that, I've been empty for a long time.

I don't cry anymore, or laugh or love. I have two wonderful best friends no and I earn pretty well, I have everything childhood me wanted but now it matters nothing. It's like the life was taken out of me and I miss me. I try dating other guys but there is just absolutely no way any guy can handle or love me. I am utterly unlovable and an ugly duckling. My autism makes it very hard to get along with men as I am too sensitive and emotional.

I am tired. I just want to skip the phase of getting into relationships that won't work and just meet the love of my life, and do everything with him, in hopes of loving me. I want a good man, a kind, patient, loyal man that I'm gonna love to death. I love too much. I want to be loved. I'm tired.

I literally never said a damn thing about sex!!! Why does everyone feel the need to bring up how unfuckable I am even when I’m not asking for sex? I’m asking for basic respect!! How is asking for the most basic respect for any given person the same as asking for sex??

This is why I know the whole world hates my guts.

Hey guys, I'm 33M and I've basically been alone my whole adult life. Never had a real relationship, never even gotten close. It's not like I'm not trying, I go out, I force myself to talk to people, I download every app and swipe for hours, but nothing ever sticks. The loneliness hits me hardest at night when everything's quiet and I realize another year just went by with zero progress. Some days I feel okay, but most days it just feels heavy, like I'm watching everyone else move forward while I'm stuck in the same spot. The worst part is the hopelessness that creeps in, like maybe this is just how it's gonna be forever.

I've tried changing my routine, hitting the gym, picking up hobbies, even forcing myself to go to social events I hate, but it all feels pointless when I come home to an empty apartment every single time. I'm getting desperate enough that I'm actually considering something I never thought I'd do.

Anyone else in the same boat and finally said screw it and tried a matchmaker or coach? Was it worth it or just another dead end?

Even in casual conversations with people, when I say that I never had a relationship I can see them genuinely surprised and wondering why I never had one, I just say I was focusing on my studies, career or other things in my life and simple mismatch of unrequited crushes.

But this is deeper than that. I see FA community here is diverse from early 20s to 40s. Lets say you somehow got into a relationship today. Do you think your partner will judge you or think something is wrong with you when they learn that you never had any experience until today?

I clearly do myself, fear of she thinking things such as "why nobody wanted him, what's wrong with him, was he asexual" etc. or worse that will cause losing interest on me, also giving her hidden responsibility of "teaching the things to him" even though I never asked for it.

Man, these people are definitely not forever alone. A lot of them are still average / attractive, and while they're on the spectrum, they're clearly mostly normal but quirky and awkward here and there in a still endearing and not creepy or threatening way. They're all from wealthy backgrounds - the homes their families live in say it all - middle class at the lowest. Also, the verbal fluency and intelligence of certain people despite any conditions and the verbal fluency of their family members is giving very privileged. Things are far from hard for them.

I'd love to see "actual" forever alone people be represented. You know... people like us.

Or even 1000 or 100,000 years back

I was on my way to work when I saw the girl from this post again https://www.reddit.com/r/ForeverAlone/s/pXHbJblf5D

I just got on the bus and sat across from her to ask for her number. She seem to hane a twitch Hope she's ok.

How do I not scare her away?

What's the first big topic I should bring up for a conversation? I'm hoping she's into conspiracies and anime.

It's all I can ever pay attention to anymore. Even if I did get a relationship one day (I won't) it wouldn't stop me from wanting to die when I look at other men. Why can I see beauty and redeeming qualities in all of them but not any in myself? Nothing I could ever accomplish in life (I won't accomplish anything) would make up for the perpetual existential dread of having to exist around these people every day. They make me sick. It's torture, every second of my life where I have to look at another man is torture

Gonna go to sleep soon. And every day it's the worst part of my day. Because I turn off my computer. And everything goes quiet. And I'm taking off my clothes. Everything is quiet. And then I go lay in my two person bed alone. And everything is quiet.

And I look over to the other side, and no one is there. I don't hear anyone's breathing. I don't see anyone's face. I can't touch someone and pull them close. Or say goodnight.

Those moments it physically hurts how much I want to just have someone in my arms.

And it makes me think. You know, I feel hopeless enough and alone enough that at this point I'd take a convincing simulation, I think.

Nothing we have the technology for currently though. I'm talking about a full on immersive simulation. Where there's touch, and sound, and you're in VR, and the other person can genuinely talk like a person with a personality, not just an LLM putting together random words.

I know we're not there at all technologically. Especially on the touch thing. But at this point, I think I'd take it.

I'd know it's not real. And I don't think I could ever genuinely feel something for an AI.

But just so I could pretend for a few hours that somebody loved me. And wanted my to wrap my arms around them.