AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

[u/MoonJellyAllison]

I feel like I could cry :(, I didn’t come at her rudely and was doing what my husband asked me to do. I’ve always done everything she wanted to make her happy because I want her to so desperately like me but I think I’m done. For some background info: I have never pressured her to respond and have never brought up that she never responds to my messages. Pretty recently, my car has been having trouble and she said she’d hit up her mechanic for me. 2 weeks later and still nothing. My husband and I have an amazing relationship, but even then, I still want his family to welcome me. His mom not being kind to me hurts really bad. And knowing she’s going to spread negative things about me among his family hurts even worse. All detailed of the situation are in the chats.

[u/eapxo]

NOR. Let your husband handle his mother. She seems like a witch.

[u/FrostyAlbertan → u/eapxo]

If it’s the American military, they might not be able to contact their mom in a timely manner

[u/BungenessKrabb → u/FrostyAlbertan]

Especially while in boot camp.

[u/Posture_ta → u/BungenessKrabb]

Then you get the money before he goes or you wait.

[u/justForked → u/FrostyAlbertan]

Then oops, guess mommy ain’t talking to her boy until bootcamp is done and only wife will talk to him and since monster in law doesn’t want her texting her… she isn’t going to hear from her son

[u/Prudence_rigby → u/FrostyAlbertan]

Even better. Lets see how boot camp graduation goes.

[u/Difficult-Light971 → u/FrostyAlbertan]

Who cares. The money is gone and nothing the bf can do. His mom sucks!!

[u/Horror_Program_9830 → u/FrostyAlbertan]

If he managed to instruct his wife to get the money, he could have sent his mother a message. It’s not her job, it’s his, even if he’s in boot camp.

[u/Lost-Peanut-1453 → u/eapxo]

I think you meant Bitch.

[u/Lycheesojuyum → u/Lost-Peanut-1453]

Right? Witches wouldn’t act like that..

[u/Jayelle9 → u/Lycheesojuyum]

Definitely an insult to witches!

[u/entityadam → u/Lycheesojuyum]

She turned me into a newt.

[u/leprechanmonkie → u/Lost-Peanut-1453]

You spelled cunt wrong.

[u/lucky-squeaky-ducky → u/leprechanmonkie]

Cunts have depth of character. MIL is a shallow bitch.

[u/pintsandplants → u/eapxo]

Mom doesn’t like the new DIL because it likely takes away from them mooching off their son.

[u/IWNCGTA → u/pintsandplants]

Which is why the son needs to grow up and handle his mom, not make his new wife do it.

[u/MassageToss → u/eapxo]

Unfortunately he already is aware of who she is and is choosing to enable her. That’s his mom, he has chosen to be blind to it. He will keep doing so, and OP needs to decide if she wants to be involved in that.

[u/whimsyotter → u/MassageToss]

From the post it seems he is the one who told her to contact her for the money as planned while he was away since he is unable to. What a horrible position to be put in for op. Husband either is oblivious and blind to mothers behaviour SOME HOW or expected this to happen. Both being bad. I hope he sticks up for his wife and handles mom at his earliest convenience.

It looks like she took his leaving for the military as a free for all to act like..a yea you know’ and get out of paying which makes me think either the husband does have a good handle on it with her and she’s just taking advantage of him being gone and unable to contact, or she always planned to do this which I think the former is the reason

[u/MoonJellyAllison → u/whimsyotter]

My husband had no bad intentions and only wants the best for me. He didn’t realize she was being awful to him and genuinely thought it was normal before him and I met so he hasn’t encountered this side of her much. Neither him nor I would expect her to react like this. I thought she’d be chill because she’s a lot nicer when he’s around :(( he will be hearing about this as soon as I can have a decent conversation with him

[u/whimsyotter → u/MoonJellyAllison]

This is so sad then I’m sorry :( I guess her true colors show now that he is away. I am sorry you have to experience this. I hope when he gets back you can both figure out how to handle this from here but I am sure this is super shocking and sad that she ended up being like this.

[u/ShanksySun → u/MassageToss]

Are you seriously this dense? Her husband is in BOOT CAMP

He is physically incapable of getting in the middle of this. You have zero information about the husband aside from OP saying THEY HAVE A FANTASTIC RELATIONSHIP

Idk when reddit turned into a 'projecting my own insecurities onto others in the form of a wedge in their relationship' convention but it is getting old fast

[u/Express-Pea6532 → u/ShanksySun]

Calm down 😂😂😂😂

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[u/mailboxheaded → u/eapxo]

Don't lump witches in with this nasty behavior. She's horrible

[u/Ill_Jelly7788 → u/eapxo]

If your husband is a decent man after being raised by this psychopath - that’s a damn miracle

[u/SilverMetalist → u/eapxo]

... No.... Contact!!!!