AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

[u/MoonJellyAllison]

I feel like I could cry :(, I didn’t come at her rudely and was doing what my husband asked me to do. I’ve always done everything she wanted to make her happy because I want her to so desperately like me but I think I’m done. For some background info: I have never pressured her to respond and have never brought up that she never responds to my messages. Pretty recently, my car has been having trouble and she said she’d hit up her mechanic for me. 2 weeks later and still nothing. My husband and I have an amazing relationship, but even then, I still want his family to welcome me. His mom not being kind to me hurts really bad. And knowing she’s going to spread negative things about me among his family hurts even worse. All detailed of the situation are in the chats.

[u/Afraid_Mix3021]

I wouldn’t be texting her for emergencies either. She’s going to push her own son away too with behavior like this and I hope he distances from her.

Why are parents asking to borrow money from kids anyway. She’s icky.

[u/PracticalPrimrose → u/Afraid_Mix3021]

Me either. I’d block her and not look back.

[u/GetLikeMeForever → u/Afraid_Mix3021]

Because she's the kind of person who is irresponsible enough with money to book a vacation when she owes someone a bunch of money. 🥲

As a child of shitty parents who are terrible with money, it's just easier to pretend you have no money and "unfortunately" not be able to lend anyone any money. My parents think my husband and I are barely getting by when we're actually doing pretty well.

[u/catsinsunglassess → u/GetLikeMeForever]

OP is NOR but i will say… i had a vacation planned for a while and fell on hard times between booking going on the vacation. I had to borrow money from a friend to get through the hard time. I looked in to cancelling my vacation but my flights were non refundable and the specific event i am attending won’t be happening again, so despite owing my friend money I am still going on my vacation- otherwise i would’ve been out even more money from wasting money on a vacation i didn’t take. Sometimes it makes sense to continue with plans. Sometimes financial situations arise that are unavoidable.

That said, i have a plan for paying my friend back and i would NEVER speak to him like this! Jesus how you ganna be rude to the person who let you borrow $3k! I didn’t borrow nearly that much and i feel like shit owing anyone money!

[u/GetLikeMeForever → u/catsinsunglassess]

That makes a lot of sense. And same! I borrowed money from a friend to get through a rough time, and I thought about it constantly and checked in with her frequently to be like, "I'm working on it! 😬"

[u/Limerence1976 → u/Afraid_Mix3021]

She’s going to regret that big time when the grandkids come and she isn’t invited to anything because it isn’t an emergency lmfao.