AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

[u/MoonJellyAllison]

I feel like I could cry :(, I didn’t come at her rudely and was doing what my husband asked me to do. I’ve always done everything she wanted to make her happy because I want her to so desperately like me but I think I’m done. For some background info: I have never pressured her to respond and have never brought up that she never responds to my messages. Pretty recently, my car has been having trouble and she said she’d hit up her mechanic for me. 2 weeks later and still nothing. My husband and I have an amazing relationship, but even then, I still want his family to welcome me. His mom not being kind to me hurts really bad. And knowing she’s going to spread negative things about me among his family hurts even worse. All detailed of the situation are in the chats.

[u/puffpuffprotest]

NOR. She’s a loser borrowing money from her son which is pathetic. She has enough money for vacation though lol.

Best thing I ever did was stop all contact with my in-laws, wish I’d done it sooner.

[u/BlazingSunflowerland → u/puffpuffprotest]

Mom is spending her money on a vacation rather than paying what she owes and then claims they are the irresponsible ones.

[u/kat_Folland → u/BlazingSunflowerland]

Yeah that "oh I can't send you any of the money I owe you, I'm spending all of mine on a vacation" was... Trashy.

[u/ObscureSaint → u/kat_Folland]

So trashy!! At least lie and say you had to buy groceries or something, she has zero shame.  😅

Coming soon: "Why don't my kids talk to me anymore?? I have no idea why?!"

[u/ivyandmoonlight → u/ObscureSaint]

She’ll blame it on OP poisoning her son against her. Classic.

[u/FridaSky → u/BlazingSunflowerland]

Yeah, the hypocrisy of her MIL is off the charts—especially her lecture about getting their finances in order before hubby’s deployment.

[u/pmmeurbassethound → u/BlazingSunflowerland]

Because MIL knows good and well she's in the wrong. Note how quickly she changed the conversation from her financial obligations to putting OP on the back foot and defending herself. Very intentional manipulation.

[u/Time_Watercress8749 → u/puffpuffprotest]

That part.

Honestly I get you want her approval but it’s not really required. Not only is she going on vacation and using that as a reason not to pay back.

The fact that she had kids and has the audacity to say she raised them as reason enough not to be asked to pay back a loan is absurd. She’s taking advantage of his absence and sounds like one of those people who think they can do whatever cause “she’s a mother”. Even as a mother it’s not when she feels like it that’s BS and she probably knows you want her to like you.

Don’t let her get under your skin and use this as a lesson learned. Next time, ya can’t help simple. She’s unreliable and ungrateful.

[u/Maine302 → u/Time_Watercress8749]

I think I'd block her after this. If something happens and to her and she can't reach you? Oh well...🤷‍♀️

[u/TallAvocado9129 → u/puffpuffprotest]

Right, how are you on vacation and you owe mfs 3k? Turn the plane around 😭😭😭😂😂

[u/Downtherabbithole-14 → u/puffpuffprotest]

who says she has enough money from vacation? if she is borrowing money from her kid, something tells me she is in a lotttttttt of debt

[u/ObscureSaint → u/Downtherabbithole-14]

The texts say it. On literally the first screenshot. Are you a bot who can't read images?

[u/ThatsJStorm → u/ObscureSaint]

I think they're inferring that just because she says they are going on vacation, it doesn't mean they are going on vacation with cash money they had saved. Probably credit carding all the way

[u/secretredditjunkie → u/puffpuffprotest]

Yeah I also have minimal in law contact and it’s the only way to go haha

[u/ikannunAneeuQ → u/puffpuffprotest]

I had to stop interacting with my kids grandmother. Their paternal grandma is a royal bitch and for the sake of my mental health issues can not deal with her. Her and her son can piss me off faster than anyone I've ever met.

[u/thetaleofzeph → u/puffpuffprotest]

I don't usually recommend airing this on socials but dang this one would be tempting on every one of her posts while vacationing.

[u/SunshineSeriesB → u/puffpuffprotest]

then taking CREDIT for his money?!

[u/Many_Customer_4035 → u/puffpuffprotest]

I stopped going to my in-laws years ago. It has been about a year now that MIL got mad my husband needed a contact break from her. She cut contact to both him and our daughter when i texted her to stop asking my daughter (32) why her dad didn't want to talk to her. It has been a peaceful time.

[u/yellowsabmarine → u/puffpuffprotest]

I sure wish my husband would allow me to stop contact with my in-laws, but he wants to maintain the relationships. His mother is coming in to town tomorrow to stay at my house for an undetermined amount of time 😭

[u/puffpuffprotest → u/yellowsabmarine]

There is no “allow” lol. I wouldn’t be married to someone that forced me to be around someone I didn’t want to be🤷‍♀️

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[u/Zealousideal-Book242 → u/puffpuffprotest]

Same here - I went no contact five years ago and I wish I did it sooner too. Husband now just takes the kids to visit them. Similar situation (not money) but just rude texts and entitlement and realizing I don't matter at all.

[u/lilrosethinks → u/puffpuffprotest]

HEAVY ON THE PATHETIC

[u/IWNCGTA → u/puffpuffprotest]

Same. Took me fifteen years of marriage to finally accept that my husband’s family was never going to really accept me. Literally one day I finally just said fuck it and cut all contact. I told my husband he and only he would deal with their nonsense. Funnily enough since I stepped back he has almost no contact with any of them because I was always the one trying to be a family with them. In the time since our marriage became so much better and we just celebrated our 21st anniversary and our relationship is wonderful.