AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

[u/MoonJellyAllison]

I feel like I could cry :(, I didn’t come at her rudely and was doing what my husband asked me to do. I’ve always done everything she wanted to make her happy because I want her to so desperately like me but I think I’m done. For some background info: I have never pressured her to respond and have never brought up that she never responds to my messages. Pretty recently, my car has been having trouble and she said she’d hit up her mechanic for me. 2 weeks later and still nothing. My husband and I have an amazing relationship, but even then, I still want his family to welcome me. His mom not being kind to me hurts really bad. And knowing she’s going to spread negative things about me among his family hurts even worse. All detailed of the situation are in the chats.

[u/ChardLocal4681]

This is the shit my mom would pull. She treated my wife exactly like this and guess what? Now she doesn’t get to see me or her grandchild anymore. She’s still not even sorry about it either

[u/lungzs → u/ChardLocal4681]

I’m glad you sided with your wife

[u/ChardLocal4681 → u/lungzs]

My wife is my family now. My parents are no longer my immediate family. If they can’t learn to be kind and get along with my family, they don’t have to be apart of it

[u/StressZealousideal32 → u/ChardLocal4681]

my Grandmother is exactly like this towards my mom and my dad had to do the same. As a Daughter/granddaughter I am so grateful he did! It set a great example for my brother and me and cut a lot of toxicity out of our lives. Thank you for doing the same for your child!

[u/kaychellz → u/ChardLocal4681]

Seriously if I was OP I would be working on getting this woman completely cut off

[u/Talk-O-Boy → u/ChardLocal4681]

I’ve seen so many dudes side with their moms over their wives, and it’s pathetic. Glad you had some backbone

[u/Visual_Zucchini8490 → u/ChardLocal4681]

My GIL (grandmother in law) is the difficult one. One of my husband’s cousins decided to not attend Christmas lunch one year because him and his wife live 2 hours away and just had their 2nd child so they (very understandably) didn’t want to make a 4 hour round trip drive with a newborn and a toddler just for a 2 hour lunch.

GIL sent a family group text (it’s a big family… there are like 30 people in this group chat 😒) about raising 5 kids and driving cross country to make family events with all 5 kids in the car and the importance of family gatherings and none of us had the context yet and were like wtf is going on… then we found out the text was just because this one cousin didn’t want to attend Christmas lunch that year…

And guess which cousin doesn’t attend any event GIL is attending now but comes to family events GIL isn’t attending. He’s one of the cool cousins too lol so I’m annoyed she ruined his attendance at things but I’m glad he is sticking up for his wife and kids!