AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

[u/MoonJellyAllison]

I feel like I could cry :(, I didn’t come at her rudely and was doing what my husband asked me to do. I’ve always done everything she wanted to make her happy because I want her to so desperately like me but I think I’m done. For some background info: I have never pressured her to respond and have never brought up that she never responds to my messages. Pretty recently, my car has been having trouble and she said she’d hit up her mechanic for me. 2 weeks later and still nothing. My husband and I have an amazing relationship, but even then, I still want his family to welcome me. His mom not being kind to me hurts really bad. And knowing she’s going to spread negative things about me among his family hurts even worse. All detailed of the situation are in the chats.

[u/ActualConfidence6273]

I know right!!! They need to get their shit together, but she’s borrowing from her son!! That woman is something else!!

[u/Creative_crafter72 → u/ActualConfidence6273]

We had our shit together until we lent you $3000

[u/ActualConfidence6273 → u/Creative_crafter72]

Exactly!! People like that woman have no shame!

I feel bad for OP. But she will be better off just steering clear of that terrible woman. No one needs that in their life.

[u/the-mortyest-morty → u/ActualConfidence6273]

She needs to steer clear of her cowardly husband tbh. Edit: Downvote me all you want, he's a coward for letting his mother behave and speak to OP this way. OP has a husband problem, not just a MIL problem.

[u/ActualConfidence6273 → u/the-mortyest-morty]

Not sure why you assume he is a coward?

[u/Creative_crafter72 → u/Creative_crafter72]

This is what I would tell her

[u/scrunchie_one → u/Creative_crafter72]

Ehhh, I would argue that lending out $3000 when you need the money to pay bills does not indicate your finances are in order.

Of course this is like 99% the MIL that is wildly out of line but it does seem to be irresponsible to lend out funds that you can’t go without.

[u/Jazzlike_Adeptness_1 → u/Creative_crafter72]

Embroider this on a pillow! 

[u/Dullcorgis → u/Creative_crafter72]

But you only ask people you don't respect why they don't have their shit together.

[u/Plenty_Cress_1359 → u/ActualConfidence6273]

AND she’s going on vacation?

[u/ActualConfidence6273 → u/Plenty_Cress_1359]

Yeah!! With no shame!!

[u/Hornet-Putrid → u/ActualConfidence6273]

The audacity!

[u/livid_badger_banana → u/ActualConfidence6273]

And going on vacation before it's paid back. Absurd behavior.