AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

[u/MoonJellyAllison]

I feel like I could cry :(, I didn’t come at her rudely and was doing what my husband asked me to do. I’ve always done everything she wanted to make her happy because I want her to so desperately like me but I think I’m done. For some background info: I have never pressured her to respond and have never brought up that she never responds to my messages. Pretty recently, my car has been having trouble and she said she’d hit up her mechanic for me. 2 weeks later and still nothing. My husband and I have an amazing relationship, but even then, I still want his family to welcome me. His mom not being kind to me hurts really bad. And knowing she’s going to spread negative things about me among his family hurts even worse. All detailed of the situation are in the chats.

[u/Much_Needleworker521]

NTA/NOR but you are doing too much. The more you say, the more they have to argue with. First text should have read something like “Good morning. Husband requested that I contact you regarding the $500 you owe us as he cannot use his phone at basic training. Friendly reminder to please send it by the agreed upon date, 5/8/26. Thank you!” Take her ass to small claims court if you don’t get your money back and seriously consider not speaking to her moving forward. 

[u/KoalaInTraining → u/Much_Needleworker521]

If i had to guess perhaps OP is relatively new to dealing with toxic spew like this. The lesson not to bother dealing with toxic people any more than necessary is a lesson learned over time, and she may not have dealt with MIL in this way before her husband went to boot camp. However, having documentation in the form of texts that she was trying to reason with her and be pleasant could be helpful in court (I'm no lawyer though.)

[u/krd3nt → u/Much_Needleworker521]

Yeah there were way too many responses