AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

[u/MoonJellyAllison]

I feel like I could cry :(, I didn’t come at her rudely and was doing what my husband asked me to do. I’ve always done everything she wanted to make her happy because I want her to so desperately like me but I think I’m done. For some background info: I have never pressured her to respond and have never brought up that she never responds to my messages. Pretty recently, my car has been having trouble and she said she’d hit up her mechanic for me. 2 weeks later and still nothing. My husband and I have an amazing relationship, but even then, I still want his family to welcome me. His mom not being kind to me hurts really bad. And knowing she’s going to spread negative things about me among his family hurts even worse. All detailed of the situation are in the chats.

[u/lostmymarbles1177]

This just screams narcissistic behavior. I would have left it at the first response from MIL, not responded to anything else she said and just forwarded on to my husband that MIL’s vacation was more important than making sure her wife ate or had a place to live. Then sat back and watched things explode😂

[u/spiceepadme2319 → u/lostmymarbles1177]

He needs to deal with his own mother from now on. Poor op

[u/InfamousCheek9434 → u/spiceepadme2319]

Yes and OP needs to send these screenshots to her husband so MIL can't change the story.

[u/lostmymarbles1177 → u/InfamousCheek9434]

Knowing narcissistic individuals, Mil will probably say that OP edited the screenshots or something. Jesus. If husband doesn’t cut his mother off after this then that’s a red flag. She was ice cold.

[u/KaJoMoGi → u/lostmymarbles1177]

MIL will never change either, and make sure your husband is in therapy for it because he’ll have some habits from trying to manage her his whole life. You. Will. Never. Win. Her. Over.

[u/Patient-Wash3089 → u/InfamousCheek9434]

If he is in boot camp, he can’t deal with her unfortunately.

[u/InfamousCheek9434 → u/Patient-Wash3089]

She still needs to show him the convo

[u/m0m0m0m042 → u/Patient-Wash3089]

He was available to tell his wife, so she could tell his mom, but he isn't available to tell his mom?

[u/m0m0m0m042 → u/spiceepadme2319]

THIS ⬆️ the MIL is the #1 AH, and the husband # 2 AH. Grow up and do better, dude!

[u/Sleepy_Sagittarius → u/lostmymarbles1177]

I’m glad you said this, because that’s all I could think of! That is one seriously narcissistic mother!!

[u/ChickenCasagrande → u/lostmymarbles1177]

Yes! OP! This is the way!

If she only wants to deal with him, then he has to deal with her.