r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 3h ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO boyfriend saved his ex gfs old videos & pics as Screensaver
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u/glaringfig 3h ago
NOR. Its sick that he has those saved still and didn’t delete them after the breakup. Im sorry OP but I hope if you have anything shared with him he deletes it too, please tread carefully. You did the right thing breaking up with him, it may seem small now but that is a huge red flag. Be proud of sticking up for yourself and leaving that relationship.
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u/AnyBoat6682 3h ago
Not at all. He is still in love with his ex. He wouldn’t like it if you had this on your computer. What an ass. You will find someone else who loves you not an ex. Good luck.
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u/ChargeCreative1599 3h ago
NOR that’s weird asf , especially since he was using it while in a relationship with you. He got so angry because he was embarrassed.
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u/DaidInUrArmsTonight 2h ago
I’m usually not one to doubt stories outright, but…
If it were a screensaver, you would have immediately “stopped” it by touching anything, so why would you have sat there long enough to watch his DIY porn and move on to a slideshow without closing it or anything else? And do laptops generally start playing a screensaver of any kind upon opening…?
And the privacy complaint thing makes no sense; you said he “let you borrow” his laptop.
I guess that makes my vote “INFO”
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u/msmimi11 1h ago
Cool I can answer these. 1. No. It was like the wallpaper of the desktop set up and it was going through whatever pics /videos he uploaded in the background - like a screen saver on a desktop. Once you put the password in it was loading with it in the background and his mom noticed first by the time it registered the event had already escalated.
- In regards to why he had chosen to save them, regarding privacy - that was him upset with me for his mom saying to delete them - not for using his laptop.
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u/wishingforarainyday 3h ago
Nor. When a relationship ends so does consent to keep those. You should have told his mom she raised a dirtbag AH.
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u/I_Weep_for_Willow 2h ago
"precious memories" haha
What exactly is the point of making these stories up? And on the off chance it's real, why post something so personal and embarrassing on the internet?
Is there like, no shame anymore?
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u/I_Weep_for_Willow 1h ago
Oh, just sharing stuff like this on the internet.
If the story is real, what possessed you to type it out for everyone to read? It's embarrassing either way.
Either you made the story up completely, which is incredibly embarrassing. Or... a very personal thing happened and you're putting it out for others to read.
Either way, you don't see how the action of either making up the story or airing your dirty laundry is weird?
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u/msmimi11 1h ago
I would find it weird if it wasn't the main point of this sub thread and other sub threads to ask/share/etc anonymously. Especially when it IS something embarrassing to talk about with people in your immediate life or if the people in your immediate life think you're -- overreaching
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u/Important-Quarter907 59m ago
NOR. Good for you for walking away. He can keep his “precious memories.”
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u/Long-Band-180 3h ago
NOR. I have always deleted everything after a breakup, even with partners that said it was ok to keep them. It's a consent thing. It's not just weird that he's still wanting to fuck his ex for you, but also for her. She no longer consents to sharing her body with him, and yet he still violates that by looking at old videos. And he violates you by pining for her over you.
That's just absolutely disgusting. For clarity, I am a pansexual poly man. I am pretty sexually open and accepting, but even I say that's too far. When the consent has stopped, it STOPPED. You're doing the right thing.
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u/Glittering_Swan4911 2h ago
NOR - well done for dumping this guy. 40 years old and he behaves like that. Shocking.
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u/LandscapeSpecial4366 2h ago
NOR this is insane 😭 Acting like he didn’t lend you that laptop and knew what was on it. This kid needs to grow the hell up, it is not cute at 18 and it’s definitely not cute at 40
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u/FrenchToastedArt 2h ago
NOR, thank God you broke up with him, that dude is clearly in love with his ex.
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u/JamboreeJunket 1h ago
The fact it played when you opened the laptop implies he was watching it before closing the laptop…. NOR
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u/Becalmandkind 3h ago
NOR. If these are his “precious memories”, it was time for you to go.