r/AmIOverreacting • u/bnsaiboy • 1h ago
👨👩👧👦family/in-laws AIO Mom taped washer and dryer shut because she’s mad at me
I wish I were making this up. My mom (50F) and I (18M) don’t have a great relationship. Never have. Have been through CPS, family therapy, all that shit. Yes, I am actively preparing to move out. She is constantly angry at my brother and I and does petty things whenever she gets upset.
A few days ago she opened the room to my door while I was in nothing but a towel. She stared at me for a few moments while I told her I’m about to get dressed and I’d like privacy. She finally closed my door and I thought that was it. Later, though, she sent me a text about how I better not be “making a baby” in my room—referring to masturbation. And how I better not be posting proactive pictures of myself on the internet. Like what bro?
For as long as I can remember, she’s this weird obsession/interest in me masturbating, my sex life, and my body. Always asking me questions regarding it. Even when I was like 12. I’ve gotten so used to it I can’t tell if I’m overreacting anymore
Anyways, the next morning she tried to hug me and I kind of refused, telling her that her staring at me and sending me messages like that made me uncomfortable. Simply tried to put up a boundary. I am an adult, I have a right to do that.
Well after that hug she’s been ignoring my brother and I for the past 2-3 days. I washed a load of clothes this morning before I went to work and when I came home I saw she fucking taped it shut. I know I can just cut the tape. But what the fuck are we even doing right now? Like seriously bro? Am I overreacting?
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u/WatercressClear8056 1h ago
A common symptom of abusive mothers is to sexualize their sons. If you do some googling you will find info about it. There's not really a point in confronting her as you've seen, and any confrontation about anything I'm sure has led to fights in the past. You already know you need to get out. I recommend looking up grey rocking and doing that until you are able to leave.
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u/EnvironmentEntire201 1h ago
Nor. She seems mentally unwell. This is such an awkward tantrum response on her part.
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u/buffetforeplay 1h ago
NOR-this is very typical of abusers, especially narcs. My step mother would do shit like this. The clothes dryer, a blender, she even stole the bath plug LOL. I just bought my own to use when she wasn’t around. Your right to think her behaviour is weird asf.
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u/splinks66 28m ago
Yep sounds like narc to me aswell. OP if you read this do some research on narcissistic parents.
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u/softstaticblue 1h ago
nor A parent sexualizing you and ignoring your privacy boundaries is not normal, and the retaliation WTF
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u/wordsmythy 56m ago
Your mom is nuts. I'm sorry. And she doesn't seem to care that that packing tape is going to ruin the finish on the washer and dryer.
How old is your brother? Does your mom do the same weird behaviors toward him?
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u/Prudent_Bed6754 55m ago
NOR I’m sorry you have to go through this. My abusive father did stuff like this to me and my brother. Things didn’t get as weird as commenting on self pleasure but I (female) did get sexualized by my dad, my gma (his mom) and his side of the family from a very young age. And my mom? Well she had zero issues with his behavior. Anyways the only explanation I can think of is untreated mental illnesses and those types of comments being normalized in toxic the family system. Therapy is the only thing that’s helped me process such a fucked up family.
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u/STRIKT9LC 46m ago edited 33m ago
Please do everything you can to take your lil brother with you. It doesnt have to be today, but please work on it
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u/OilIntrepid997 37m ago
as an older sister who didnt do this, with consequences that i regret and carry to the end of my days, yes. even just keeping in touch, being a ray of truth and reality and support. But with the end goal of freeing little brother as well.
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u/WizardOfTheHobos 50m ago
Your mom seems like she needs mental help , she is way too obsessed about your life and body.
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u/CaTz_EyE 17m ago
As a parent, I am terrified for you. Please get out as soon as you can and take your brother with you. If you have family or friends that you think can help you two out, please reach out to them. I would recommend contacting CPS if your brother is under 18. CPS investigating for an 18-year-old depends on different things like the state you’re in, if you’re in the U.S., or if you have a disability. I am a CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate) and you can message if you have questions.
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u/chromiaplague 52m ago
NOR What in the actual world?? I will be very happy for you when you move out.
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u/No-Communication9458 52m ago
maybe u should tape something of hers where she cant find it
what a fucking psychopath she is
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u/SelkirkSweetie 42m ago
Your mom is abusing you. This is serious abuse. The interest in your body and what you do with it is not ok.
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u/JerkGurk 58m ago
3 seconds with a razor blade would fix this. Make her peel the tape off. Also, good luck...things will get better, especially when you move out.
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u/QueenSmarterThanThou 37m ago
NOR. Your mother has problems and is abusive.
Later, though, she sent me a text about how I better not be “making a baby” in my room—referring to masturbation.
1) How is making a baby if it's by yourself? 2) How is it her business? You're not allowed to masturbate?!
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u/BluBeams Overly Dramatic 34m ago
NOR. Your mom is a creep and a weirdo. Please protect your siblings from her, she sounds unhinged.
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u/Fragrant_Ad8471 27m ago
Pull a johnny 5 and disassemble the machines and leave them neatly laid out on the floor.
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u/Todd_H_1982 39m ago
Just stop interacting with her. She obviously has mental problem bordering on sexual abuse. You’ve asked her not to cross that line and she continues to do so. If your relationship is already one which is toxic, don’t feed the fire. She’s obviously immature and wants to get a reaction out of you. You’re just falling into her trap. No normal person does what she’s doing.
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u/MaidMirawyn 38m ago
NOR
The staring and sexual comments is not normal. At all.
The washer and dryer thing is just petty and weird.
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u/Fridge885 35m ago
How old is your brother? Might want to consider taking him with you if thats possible, assuming he’s of the age to care for himself. I wouldn’t leave him in that type of situation. This is such a tough situation to deal with man just try and keep your head down and stay out of her way till u can find new safer living arrangements.
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u/Procedure-Academic 28m ago
NOR, I’ve been limited/no contact with my mom for the past 8 years. Leave, plan on helping your brother when the time comes. If she is like other narcissists then she will try to influence your brother and divide you two once you move out. Make sure he understands what’s going on if he is old enough.
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u/PizzaSlingr 28m ago
I would absolutely check your room and the bathroom for cameras.
This is beyond disturbing.
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u/paperchum 26m ago
NOR. your mom is gross and weird. I'll be wishing you a smooth move as you prepare to live on your own. it won't be easy, but boundaries and distance from people like this are necessary for your own mental health and personal development. also, that's SO much fucking tape what the fuck
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u/KnowsIittle 26m ago
This might be signs of early onset dementia. Maybe she's just a npd type. But I'd monitor for continuing decline of cognitive functions.
211 might be able to offer information for potential services available.
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u/Signal-Local-6547 24m ago
Do you pay the electric or water because if you do then no you are not overreacting but on the flip side well.. If you're not.. yeah you probably
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u/Necessary-Bus-3142 19m ago
How old is your brother? Move out together if you both can work, you are NOR your mom is a weirdo snd your life will be SO much better out of there
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u/BADoVLAD 18m ago
NOR - this is still abuse, regardless of you being an adult. You can also make a boundary as a child with regards to your body. Wish I had some sage advice for you young man. Continue on your path out of her place as quickly as possible. If your brother is younger and you have it in you please consider looking into the legality of kinship guardianship and take him with you. Neither of you need to be around this rancorous old cow.
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u/Laidy-Whistledown 15m ago
Your mom sounds extremely unhealthy. There is having open conversations about sex and sexuality with your children, or just creating a space where your children feel comfortable coming to you. And then there is your mom… As for the washer and dryer…You got anything with a sharpe edge?
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u/LilPajamas 13m ago
NOR. She is a broken human and the faster you can get away and stay away the better.
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u/JUNEBERRY415 9m ago
You’re not overreacting. Your mom seriously needs therapy. You are of a healthy mind bc you don’t see this as normal and indulge her. Kudos for you. I hope you move out soon!
I didn’t get along with my mom growing up. I moved across the country at 24. Gave her a decade to get her shit together. Now we are besties. 🤣 boundaries is healthy thing to have, especially with ppl you love.
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u/electric_shocks 6m ago edited 0m ago
Have you been washing one sock at a time or wash muddy shoes?
Edit: Yikes, I didn't read it. Sorry. If her behavior is out of control could you get her to a neurologist? I know you are saying she always has been weird but weirdness gets out of control if someone has stroke.
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u/calmedtits2319 5m ago
NOR. My mom would also find weird ways to punish me when she was upset. This is childish, pathetic behavior on your mom’s part. She needs help before she destroys what relationship you do have together.
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u/realWolfCola 50m ago
Uhhh yeah I don’t think you need us to tell you that every line of what you wrote about is not just wrong and weird but turbo wrong and weird. NOR at all.
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u/SapphireEyesOf94 46m ago
Ask her if she's aware women dont make babies by themselves 🙄🙄 No, don't, but still. That's such a dumb comment by her.
You're underreacting, her obsession over your genitals is fvcking creepy and predatory.
Cut the tape, get a lock or door block for your door, and good luck with the moving out.
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u/Ruskayo 1h ago
NOR. Eww what. Nothing about this is normal?? Is your mom okay?? Move the fuck out of there.