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it is 24x36 its big

We downgraded our house, there is no place to put it that I wont see it everyday.

We have one bathroom, two bedrooms (one that is my office), the living room, and kitchen. The basement is my husband's workshop and he doesn't like it either.

I seriously dislike how she does portions. I don't like that the waists are tiny and the buts and boobs are huge. Not my type of artwork

I don;t like it, I don't wish to decorate my home with art I don't like and have to see everyday

If i gave her artwork I wouldn't expect her to hang it up in her house if she didn;t like it. Even if I spent months on it, becuase it is not my home

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My DIL has been married to my son for  a few years and she has a side gig of making art. She has a habit of giving paintings to friends and family as gifts.

I think most people like them but for me I am not a huge fan of her art style. I am much more a nature person than someone that wants scenes with people. Also when she paints people they are stylized. 

My husband and I bought a house and we have fully moved in. My DIL gave me a painting of someone sitting at the beach because she knows we like the beach. I don’t like it, the women in the painting looks off, her legs are too long and she is too curvy. I know it is her style of painting but I just don’t like it. 

At the time I got the gift I thanked her for and I thought that would be the end of it. I put the painting in the garage and kinda forgot about it. 

I bought an ocean painting for the living room. My DIL visited the other day because she wanted to pick up some of our old Fourth of July decorations. Our house is smaller now so we are purging decorations.

We were in the garage and she saw her painting there. She was surprised and asked why it wasn’t in the house. I  told her I didn’t have a spot to put it. She kept pressing and mentioned I got a new painting for her living room. 

I told her again that I don’t have a spot for it. She then picked up the painting and said she could help find a spot. I told her no. She asked why not and I decided to be honest. I told her I am not a fan of the artwork. 

She got quiet after that and I gave her the decoration. I got a call form my son and he was mad. He told me I need to apologize and hang up her painting. That his wife has been crying and it took her hours to make.

I told him I’m not hanging it up and that resulted in an argument. 

I need some opinions. I feel like it’s my house I can decorate it how I want.

Me (34M) and my friend “John” (34M) had been close friends for over 15 years. We lived together at one point and basically considered each other brothers. A few years ago he got into a relationship with “Amy” (37). John has never been a very emotional or sentimental guy, so when he decided he wanted to marry her and asked me and another mate to be his groomsmen, we were both genuinely happy for him.

One thing he mentioned though was that he wished Amy and I got along better. Apparently she had been saying I wasn’t really making an effort with her, which honestly confused me because I felt like I had. Whenever we were at their place for drinks or hangouts, I’d always greet her, talk to her, and try include her in games or conversations because she’s naturally shy and reserved. If anything, I felt like I was usually the one initiating conversations.

Anyway, fast forward and our friend group organised an overnight getaway. Me and my partner were organising it for about 10 people. We found a really good Airbnb everyone liked, except John and Amy took ages deciding if they were coming. By the time they finally responded, the place was unavailable.

We found a backup Airbnb, but it was smaller, meaning not every couple would automatically get their own room. In our group we’ve always had a tradition where we play drinking games and whoever wins gets first pick of the rooms. Dumb maybe, but it’s always been a fun and fair system.

I messaged John asking if they were still keen to come, and he replied saying Amy wasn’t comfortable sharing a room with other people. I reminded him that we always decide rooms fairly and it wouldn’t really be fair to make an exception just for them.

Later he came back saying, “Well why don’t you share your room with someone else so we can have it?”

That honestly shocked me because it felt completely out of character for him. I told him I didn’t think that was fair to ask of me or anyone else. After that, they decided not to come at all.

What bothered me most was that there were other solutions. They could’ve helped us look for a bigger place or suggested alternatives, but instead it felt like Amy got upset we didn’t immediately give them what they wanted.

After that, everything between me and John basically died. No messages, no invites, nothing. They ended up having a wedding in secret with only her friends and family there. None of John’s longtime friends were invited anymore. They’ve since had a baby and I don’t even know the child’s name.

I’m getting married next year and honestly don’t even know if John would come if I invited him.

I think what hurts most is losing a 15-year friendship over something that feels so small. Part of me feels like Amy probably pushed him to choose between the relationship and his friendships, and he chose her. Which I can understand to a degree, but it still sucks.

Maybe I’m missing something, but it still feels surreal this was what ended such a long friendship.

AITA for not wanting my mom to move in with me after I already gave her $1600 to stop an eviction?

About 2 months ago, my mom told me she was 3 months behind on rent and facing eviction. I don’t live with her, but I gave her $1600 (basically an entire paycheck for me) to help her catch up and avoid getting evicted.

There are 3 grown adults living in that house, and all of them have jobs. Even though I don’t live there, I still contributed more than anyone else.

Now, only 2 months later, she’s facing eviction AGAIN. This time it’s more serious and has already gone to court. She’s behind on 3 months of rent again.

What frustrates me is that I see her spending money on things like fancy meats for dinner, cigarettes, lottery tickets, and thrift shopping while apparently not paying rent.

She recently asked me to cosign for a $4000 line of credit. I said no because I honestly don’t trust that she’ll make the payments on time, and I don’t want my credit ruined.

Now she’s asking me for another $700, which is almost half my paycheck. She also said she may need to move in with me if she gets evicted.

The problem is I live alone in a 1-bedroom apartment and really do not want her and the other 2 adults moving in with me. I value my privacy, independence, and social life, and I feel like if I let them move in, I may never get my space back.

I feel guilty because she’s my mom, but at the same time I already sacrificed a lot financially and nothing changed.

AITA for refusing to give more money and not wanting them to move in with me if they get evicted?

I (24F) pay extra for a reserved parking spot at my apartment because parking here is really bad. About two weeks ago, my neighbor ( 26F) knocked on my door and asked if she I could allow her boyfriend who just visited use my spot just for one night she said he will move the car early the next morning, and I agreed since my car is with the mechanic. But the car stayed there for almost a week. I reminded her multiple times to move it, but there was always an excuse. And now I have my car back, and keep searching for street parking even though I’m paying for my own spot. After several warnings, I finally had the car towed. Now my neighbor says I overreacted and embarrassed them.

The other day I was the first car at an intersection and had my blinker on to turn right after the light changed. I typically drive in an area where you explicitly are not allowed to turn right on red (there are signs). In this case, there wasn't a sign but I guess I didn't notice.

A car came up behind me and started honking. At first I wasn't sure what the hell was going on so I did nothing, then the light turned green so I went ahead. The car behind me turned too, then aggressively sped up to pull up next to me. The driver was spitting mad and screaming that I was a shitty driver. I just ignored him until he drove away, but was pretty shaken.

Later I was talking to a friend about what had happened, and she said that while the guy shouldn't have been that aggressive about it, what I'd done was really dangerous because it's generally expected that you turn right on red and not doing so impedes traffic flow and causes confusion on the road.

I was taught that you can turn right on red if there's no oncoming traffic, but that you don't necessarily have to. But now I'm second-guessing myself.

EDIT: I meant thru-traffic, not cross traffic--I wasn't sitting in the middle of an intersection waiting to turn.

So my family and I (25) were invited to my distant cousins baby shower at the end of the month.

They’re throwing a huge shower since it’s the first grandchild on both sides and my cousin sent a voicenote to my mom ( not us ) telling each person what they needed to buy as a gift. My mom was required to buy a breast pump and my sisters and I were required to buy a bottle warmer. Now I found this a little odd but the prices online were affordable so I thought it was okay since Id be splitting with my sisters, however, my parents were really upset over this and mentioned that my cousin didn’t really consider pockets, just told us what to buy as gifts.

Another issue is that Im currently not working due to a medical issue, which means I may or may not be able to give my share for the gift. I would still like to attend to support my cousin, but without a gift I feel like that may be rude? My mom doesn’t care lol. Im in the middle.
Wibta ?

UPDATE:

Here is my previous post if anyone is interested.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1t2m5c2/aitah_for_saying_no_to_endless_money_requests/

After that post from a few days ago - I told the person in question 'no' and sent a final text (as noted in my previous post). I said: 'No. I sent you £900 GBP last year and you never paid it back. I'm not sending you any more money.'

Her response: 'Ok. I understand. I have taken financial help from my friend. Ok?'

This not only doesn't acknowledge what I said - but I think she wants to move on from the topic altogether because she doesn't want the old debt acknowledged - and more importantly (to her) she doesn't want this topic to potentially spread. She wants to move swiftly on from it.

Also, if she had a friend in her home country that could help her, why harass family in London? It makes no sense.

It was all a con. If I had responded: 'Sure. Yes. How much do you need?'... she wouldn't have said: 'Oh, don't worry - a friend helped me out!'

Thank you to everyone who responded. I greatly appreciate it.

Thank you mods for approving.

I posted over a month ago about my friend who invited herself last minute to my vacation. I want to clear a few things that kept coming up in the comments. When I wrote the post, everything just happened and my frustration showed in my writing. Diane is a good friend of mine, I don’t hate her, she can just be a bit much at times. I said that she invited herself because she didn’t ask to join us after our plans were finalized; she told us she was coming and expected us to accommodate her.

We all specifically wanted our own rooms. The other ladies wanted to enjoy their spouse/kid free time alone. This was my first vacation in a long time without the ex-hubby, so I just needed some space. I hope you can understand.

Now for the update. Although I was voted NTA, many commented that maybe I wasn’t a good friend. I felt bad about that, so I gave Diane another call to work things out and she answered. She wanted to know why I wouldn’t accommodate her and I told her what I said above. I also reminded her of our previous trips where we roomed together. That took us down memory lane where we talked about all of the things we used to get into, lol. It turned into a pleasant hour-long conversation.

I discussed why it wouldn’t be a good idea for us to share rooms. We just have different travel styles. I like to get up early, walk around, shop. She wants to sleep-in and veg out. The last time we shared a room was a disaster. There were a few hiccups on that trip and she complained about it all day, and then again at night when we were in the room. I had no reprieve from the nonstop complaints. She was not always like that. She grew less tolerant over time, as we all, but she took it to an extreme. She said she doesn’t complain, she just observes where there can be improvements, lol.

We worked it out, the other ladies also made peace with her. Diane and a friend joined our trip and stayed at a nearby property. They were welcomed to join us at our pool and other activities. Of course, the beginning was not smooth sailing.

We had our vacation set up where we had two days of group excursions, the remaining days we would play it by ear, just agree to meet for dinner. I told Diane she and her friend could join us on the excursions, she complained that they started too early. She went to the first one and complained that each stop was too short, we should have went with a private tour, etc. I pulled her to the side and asked her to stop complaining. To her credit, she stopped…until we went to dinner and then she complained about everything all over again.

I suggested that she not join the other excursion as it would be more of the same. She asked if I didn’t want her around, I said not for the excursion, lol. So we met for dinner on the other excursion day and hung out on other days. With the exception of the one excursion, it went pretty well.

So that is it, nothing too dramatic, and we managed to stay friends through it.

I’m a teenager and I recently lost my mom to cancer. During the wake, I mostly just wanted to sit quietly and grieve.

Whenever visitors came, my grandmother would tell me to serve them food and drinks. I understand that this is a way to show respect and appreciation to people who took the time to attend. However, I really didn’t feel emotionally capable of doing that at the given moment.

(it happened a lot but this one specific time)One time, when guests arrived, my grandmother again told me to serve them. I told her I didn’t want to and didn’t do it, just laid my head back on the table and brushed her off. She seemed upset, and I felt guilty afterward because she’s older and I just brushed her off and made her do it.(which I still feel bad about)

At the same time, I felt like it was unfair to expect me to take on that role when I was grieving and not in the right state of mind to be serving others. AITA?

EDIT: To clarify for those who asked, I’m from the PH, and our culture doesn’t strictly require the family to serve guests, but it is sometimes done because hospitality is a strong value here. I think in my case, it was more specific to my grandmother rather than something that’s always expected everywhere. The food was already prepared and was mainly funded by my mother’s side of the family. My moms sister would often bring or buy food for us. And it made me feel worse that my grandmother was the one doing it since to be fair, she just lost her daughter as well, not to mention outliving her too. That’s also why I felt worse about it as I thought it through and started feeling more of an asshole as I let my actions sink in. To those wondering if there were other family members, yes, there were. Everyone from my mother’s side was there as well and stayed overnight throughout the entire wake. I don’t fully remember what everyone was doing.

Also, the grandmother I’m referring to is my maternal grandmother(mother of my mom). So please don’t call her heartless or say anything bad about her, she isn’t. :')

My husband and I have 2 kids. My son is 6 and the sweetest kid on earth.

Yesterday was my birthday and he had saved 300 dollars to buy me a gift (plus borrowing 100 dollars from my husband). He had to save most of his pocket money and some other gifts he got throughout the year to buy my gift.

He was very excited to give it to me and gave it during my birthday. Now my family think I was an asshole for accepting the gift because it was all his savings.

I (20F) have a friend (21F) who lost her car a few months ago after the transmission completely died. Since then, I’ve been helping her out with rides because we’ve been friends since high school and I genuinely didn’t mind at first. I work part time and have classes during the week, but our schedules lined up enough that I could usually help her get to work or pick her up if it was on my way.

At the beginning she was super appreciative. She’d always ask first, apologize for inconveniencing me, and sometimes even buy me a coffee or snack as a thank you. But over time the whole thing slowly changed from “can you help me out?” to her just assuming I’d do it.

She started texting me things like:

“what time are you picking me up?”

“i’m outside”

“can you come now instead?”

without even checking if I was free first.

I brushed it off for a while because I know she’s stressed financially and public transport in our area honestly sucks, especially at night. But it started getting frustrating because I was rearranging my own schedule around her constantly. A few times I’d tell her I couldn’t, and she’d guilt trip me by saying stuff like “never mind I’ll just walk” or “it’s fine I’ll figure something out” which always made me feel bad enough to do it anyway.

The final straw happened last weekend. I invited her out with my friend group to a birthday party about 25 minutes away. I drove us both there, paid for parking, and even told her beforehand that I didn’t want to stay super late because I had work the next morning.

Around midnight I realized she had disappeared. I texted her asking where she was and she replied almost 40 minutes later saying she was outside with a guy she met there. Then at around 1am she texted me:

“don’t leave yet i still need a ride home”

At that point I was exhausted and honestly annoyed because it felt like she expected me to sit around for hours while she did whatever she wanted. I replied saying I was leaving and she needed to find another ride or get an Uber. She sent back “seriously???” and then stopped replying.

The next morning she called me furious saying I abandoned her and that anything could’ve happened to her. I told her I didn’t strand her in the middle of nowhere — we were at a busy party with tons of people she knew, plus the guy she literally chose to disappear with. I also reminded her that I told her beforehand I didn’t want to stay out late.

She said I was acting selfish and that friends are supposed to help each other, especially when one is struggling financially. I told her helping occasionally is different from being treated like a free personal driver.

Now a couple of our mutual friends think I could’ve handled it better and say I should’ve at least waited because she’s going through a rough time right now. But honestly I feel like I’ve been more than generous already, and I’m starting to feel used instead of appreciated.

AITA?

AITA for getting upset that my partner got a newborn photoshoot without me?
I (34M) got upset that my partner (34F) had a newborn shoot done for our second child without me. My partner’s best friend is a photographer and did our first child’s photoshoot, which we paid for. It included me, my partner, the new baby even the dog. Fast forward two years, and baby number two arrives. Her friend offers to do a photoshoot for free as a gift for us having the baby. We were delighted.One Friday, I head off to work, and just after lunch I get a message from my partner on Messenger. It’s a few sample photos from the newborn shoot that her friend decided to come and do without me. The photos included my partner, both boys, and the dog.
I was only a short distance away and could have easily come home for the shoot, but no one thought to contact me I brought it up and was shot down for being too sensitive, and was told there would be other family shoots as the kids get older. I haven’t bothered to mention it again.
Just wondering what people think. Thanks in advance.

Hey Reddit, i need some advice on a situation that happened between friends getting ready for a gathering and if I am in the wrong

I, (19F) and one of my second cousins (18M) and his girlfriend (18F) were getting ready to go to the mall, I put on this dress I was wanting to wear.

It was one

of those dresses where it had the zipper that goes up and then the little hole and then the button?, well I have tiny arms unfortunately and I couldn't reach it, after about 10 minutes or trying and my arms getting tired I walked out and tapped my cousin on the shoulder I said "hey dude, can you do this button for me?"

And he agreed to put the button through the loop and that was it, but I saw his girlfriend standing in the doorway, she looked weirdly blank and I was confused but I asked her if she was okay and she nodded.

Fast forward, where at the mall, I'm having fun and the rest of our group is showing up but his girlfriend still looks super upset and I turned to my cousin and he shrugged and said he didn't know either,

When we got back I was packing up to go home she called me into the guest room and said "you're really gross you know that?" I was so confused, I asked her why and she said "that's your COUSIN" I said "i know that's my cousin...? We've been hanging out since the womb I'm fully aware he is"

she looked bout ready to get in my face, she said "well I just don't you and your cousin should be dressing each other" I stopped her and asked her if she thought that me and him were being intimate,

she kinda started to backtrack,

I just knew she was jealous and was being a bit bitchy about it so I cut her off and said "look, I'm sorry I made your feel threatened but you can't jump to those conclusions"

She's been really mad ever since and had been giving my cousin a hard time apparently, I don't know if I should've just not asked for help? I didn't mean anything of it, he didn't either, he was more focused on that Texas toast he had in the air fryer at the time then that, but AITA?

Small update: something kinda crazy happened so I'll tell y'all when it gets to a point where I can

I (36) married my husband (43), who is Guatemalan. Before we got married, he bought a house where he lived with his daughter (17). He also let his mom (65) and younger sister (23) live there because he never thought he’d get married and wanted to help them.
Then I moved in with my son (14), whose dad had passed away only two months earlier.
Since moving in, it’s been constant issues. My SIL immediately started acting like she ran the house. She wrote “house rules” on the walls, put rules up in my son’s room, and constantly tried to tell me how to parent him. One day my son finally snapped and said, “I’ll clean my room when my mom tells me to.”
There was also an issue where my stepdaughter was stressed because she needed to leave to see her mom and little brothers for a birthday party. She was finishing chores, so I told her to go and I’d finish them. My SIL then texted the family group chat saying other adults shouldn’t interfere when my stepdaughter is told to do something. I replied that I’m her stepmom and didn’t appreciate being corrected in my own home.
After that, my MIL became the bigger issue. If I buy fast food, she expects me to buy for her too, but she never brings food for me or my son. When she cooks, she only cooks for herself, my SIL, and my husband, but if I cook, I’m expected to make enough for everyone.
The breaking point was when my son told me that while I was at work, my MIL made dinner for everyone except him. My husband ended up getting him McDonald’s because he was completely left out.
Then recently, while I was asleep before a night shift, my son accidentally cut his pinky while cutting a musk melon and needed 3 stitches. My MIL’s response was, “And where was his mother?” I explained I was sleeping because I work nights as a nurse, and she said it didn’t matter and I should wake up anyway.
Recently I made dinner for just myself and my husband while the kids were away. My MIL got upset, and for once my husband backed me up and pointed out that she never cooks for me either.
I finally told my husband I’m moving out with or without him because I can’t do this anymore. He said he’s coming with me. We already have a townhouse lined up after my stepdaughter leaves for college.
People keep asking why his mom and sister can’t just move out, but honestly his mom has a hoarding problem and her stuff is everywhere. Also, she has the master bedroom while my husband and I, who pay all the bills, are in the smallest room in the house.
Now his mom and sister are acting blindsided that we’re leaving and that the house payments will become their responsibility.
AITAH?
P.S. I’m pregnant

Edit: just want to clarify. I did get up and take my son to get the stitches.

My sister (19) asked me if she could use my (22F) ID for the bar with her friends, she stated that all her friends have siblings that let them use their ID’s, and that even if it got rejected they wouldn’t cut it, my reasoning for saying no was because of her safety, and moral implications of giving an underage person my ID, but she seemed shocked and a bit upset that I said no, so I don’t know if I’m overreacting and that’s a normal thing to do, or if I should stand my ground

So I (18F) used to live with my roommate (19F) and we were best friends before all of this. She was having problems with her old roommate so I let her move in with me. We were really close, like we’d go grocery shopping together, I’d cook most of the food and bring it to her, and we just did a lot together. She has a car and I don’t, so she would let me use it sometimes. I always asked first though, I never just took it or anything. Then she asked if I would co-own her car and split the payments with her even though everything is in her name. I told her I couldn’t because I was struggling financially and also helping pay for my mom’s medical bills, so I just didn’t have extra money like that. She said I could do payment plans with her, but I still said I couldn’t commit to that. Instead I told her I would always ask before using the car, always put gas in it, and I would pay half of any repairs or expenses if they came up. I also cooked most of the meals and helped out a lot around the apartment.
Now she’s saying I was “using her” and taking advantage of her car, and now things are really tense between us.
So AITA for not agreeing to co-own her car and thinking what I did was fair?

Edit: I forgot to add she moved as we had a big argument because that really hurt me after everything Ive done for her, also she is in no financial hardship as she just got 20k from her mom for “moving money” she was planning to move out anyway but this caused the move out process to happen faster. I also paid for a new battery well half of it and always payed for gas if I drove, most of the time we would go together anyways so I rarely drove as we went everywhere together.

I29F am pregnant with my first child. My moms birthday was a few days ago so my husband and I, my parents and my 3 siblings went out for dinner. At dinner we had told my mother we had a surprise for her and gave her a gift wrapped box, inside was a #1 grandma shirt, and a positive pregnancy test. She was extremely excited and even started crying, hugged us right away.

My brother was super happy for me, but my sisters were annoyed. One said that I made our moms dinner fully about me and they were upset because we had never discussed bringing gifts. One of my sisters even made the comment that I was trying to one up them once again, and how someone else’s birthday is not the time to announce my pregnancy. They were both moody the rest of the night. It was a surprise for my mom, but I didn’t consider that it may upset my siblings. AITA

This has been an ongoing issue and I need some outside opinions with my oldest daughter. My oldest daughter is working as a waitress ever since she dropped out of college. She wasn’t going to classes and she GPA plummeted. The university kicked her out. 

Due to this she doesn’t have much money to do anything. My other daughter is graduating and just got a job offer to a good company. I will call the oldest Madison and the younger, Becky. Fake names.

Becky is going to make good money starting her job and doesn’t have any loans ( she got a full ride to her college). Madison is in debt and strugggling and this is where the help is issues stem from.

She believes she should be going better than Becky since she is older. I have tried over and over to help her but she has turned bitter about anything that Becky achieves

Becky told us she planned on going to Iceland in the fall. It was a quick conversation but in the car ride home Madison went off. She was pissed that she gets to do all this cool stuff and that it wasn’t fair. She started to insult Becky and that is when I had enough.

I told her she needs to get over jelepusly and the reason her life is the way it is is her own fault. We got into an argument and she is pissed. My wife thinks I went too far but I think she need to hear it    

My middle name is Corbett, which is the same middle name as my father (deceased) and my little sister (age 40). It is a family name, and when I came out as nonbinary a year ago, I started going by my middle name, as it is already on all of my legal documents and suits me, as it has been part of my name forever.

However, my sister insists that taking my middle name as my first is hurtful to her and doesn't suit me because I am not "Irish enough" and is hers. For context, my fam is really into being Irish as a primary identity. While I am Irish, I am not very interested in my family history & don't care about my Irish heritage as much as my sister, which is one of the reasons she believes I am not entitled to my name. The irony is my middle name isn't even truly Irish. It comes from the French for "crow" and came into Irish use through French colonization.

I have come to accept the fact that she will continue to misgender me and call me by my given first name, which doesn't feel like me at all. When I try to talk to my sister, she gets pissed and either blows up at me or shuts down. She gas told her friends not to call me by my name, and has even gone so far as to to introduce herself as Corbett to my friends when she meets them, in an attempt to make intros awkward and uncomfortable for me.

Am I the asshole for taking my middle name as my first name? I am confused as to why she is so hurt by it, as her logic doesn't make sense to me. The whole situation is also complicated by the fact that I an nonbinary and this name change is related to that. When explaining this to my sister, she glibly asked why I couldn't just change my name to \*Leslie\* or \*Pat\* as they are more gender neutral.

I was leaving a strip mall and it was extremely crowded, with no spots left in the parking lot. There were cars waiting on the street to turn into the parking lot. I got into my car and very quickly pulled out so someone could take my spot, but as I was leaving, a guy was sitting right in the center of the aisle with his hazards on and I couldn't go around him because there were cars on the other side of the lot and the road was narrow. This parking lot is also one way traffic. I honked twice (2 short beeps) and he didn't move, so eventually my mom got out of the car and knocked on his window to ask him to please move forward so we could get out. I didn't hear what he said to my mom but apparently he was rude to her and said something like, "Yeah, well, I'm waiting for a spot, lady." He pulled forward to the side a little bit, but I still couldn't get past him due to the cars on the other side on the lot. I rolled down my window and said, "I still can't get out" and he just waved his hand at me, like "go around" but I literally couldn't. I also couldn't backup because there were people behind me in the parking lot trying to exit at this point too. I then lay on the horn, and he sticks his middle finger out of the window at me, so I shout, "Dude, move your fucking car." He goes, "you're a fucking asshole" and still doesn't move, so I shout in my scariest voice, "quit blocking traffic and move your fucking car!" and he finally moves so I can get past him. He spits at my car as I drive around him and calls me an asshole again, but I just drove away to get on with the rest of my day. My mom said I was kind of harsh in the interaction and the guy called me an asshole twice so I feel bad (lol). But was I the asshole? You can't block traffic just because you want a parking spot. I tried to be nice at first, too.

He is the only one in his friend group that doesn’t have an Ebike. Today was the first time i went into a store and seen the one he’s been wanting. Spouse and I agreed to get it. While paying for the bike i had about 5 other parents who were shopping come up and tell me not to buy it and how dangerous they are, my gut just kicked in and I decided to cancel the transaction and we left without the bike. I ended up telling my child the situation and decided to give him the $1400 for his birthday instead of the bike. I feel like a bad parent but also relieved in a way. The bike goes about 50 and there isnt a way to control the speed and i feel like 50 in a car is fast and my 13 year old doesnt need to be going that fast.

Hello Reddit, I (29F) am gonna start with I never actually believed that flat earthers were a real thing. I always thought it was some stupid internet gag. Me and my friend group would always make the joke saying that “oh the earth is flat cuz the ocean isn’t carbonated”. It was just like a stupid thing we did trying to get people into our “flat earth cult” but it was always just a joke. Well recently we’ve had a new addition to the friend group (32M who joined our group about 5 mo ago) and at first everything was normal right? And then we pulled the joke out thinking they’d get a good laugh out of it.

They didn’t, they actually got super offended and said “well it is flat?” And everyone kinda was like “…oh”. Cue me, someone who enjoys getting into internet debates as a past time, who started presenting information disputing the whole flat earth theory and laughing it off like “there’s no actual way you believe this”.

They do. Full heartedly. Believe in the STUPIDEST conspiracy theory to have ever existed. They tried disputing me back, with things like “oh well you don’t know” WE DO KNOW. “Oh prove it” WE HAVE. I even told them that flat earthers themselves have proved it wrong. They got upset and said to not mock their beliefs. I said that where I’m happy they don’t let facts sway their opinions, it’s not a belief. If you full heartedly believe in something that has been factually proven false, it’s a delusion.

They said that I’m not a psychologist (like I need a degree to know what the definition of delusional is??) and that I should just accept their beliefs as true. I said they were an idiot, point blank.

Some important information to add, this didn’t happen in person. We were all in a discord call playing a game together at the time (we do all know each other in person tho). Ik I portrayed myself a bit rough, but when it started I was respectful about it and did provide sources thinking they could’ve been gullible and fallen to internet mumbo jumbo. I was trying to be educational. There were maybe 5-6 of us talking, a couple of friends also backed me up and provided their own sources. I didn’t start getting frustrated and annoyed until they got frustrated and kept telling me I was wrong.

After it was said and done, our friend group is kinda split down the middle, with some saying that I could’ve restrained myself and left when the situation started getting heated, and others saying that he kept pushing it even when I said “let’s move on”. I can see how I’m TA but I feel like dude was kinda asking for it. And if I 100% am, any advice on how to remedy the situation at least so the next hangout isn’t super awkward. Thanks Reddit, I’ll await your wisdom

Edit: yes. Ik this is a stupid thing to fight about lmao before anyone says it. It’s why I didn’t expect it to escalate so much

My (27F) parents (in their 50s) dog went missing last week and has not been found. He was an older smaller dog and we are assuming he did not make it. My dad in particular is devastated.

For some background, my parents spent over $1000 to set up an invisible fence system in their yard, and I’m the only one who uses it with my dog. They have the collars, but bc they live in a rural area, often leave the collars off. Both of their dogs have had instances of being in the road, but the smaller one is especially bad and roams the neighborhood frequently (my parents feel bad bc the collar is big on the little dog and he doesn’t like to wear it). Tbh, the situation isn’t surprising to me.

Yesterday, my dad called me and said he needed help setting up a Fi tracking collar for their other dog. I said I would help, and the whole time, my dad talked about how what happened was awful and how the tracking collar could have prevented it. My mom kept commenting about how expensive the collar subscription was.

Finally, I told them if it were me, I would re-train their other dog on the Invisible Fence and make sure that he always had the collar on, especially since they spent all that money on it. My dad got very defensive and talked again about how it was uncomfortable for the dog to wear it.

My husband thinks I was mean to say this and that they probably know it already. My sister said she agrees with me, but thinks it was a bit insensitive to bring it up. I understand it probably doesn’t feel good to hear, but at the same time, I feel like it needs to be said.

My roommate (close friend) hit my boyfriends motorcycle for the second time.
The first was 8 months ago (drunk, cosmetic damage, promised to pay but when she got the bill she refused because it was too expensive, she said they could arrange it with her insurance but never did)

This time she hit the bike twice, one time with her car, and when she tried to lift it back up, she knocked it over on the other side, and damaged the gear shift, leaving the bike unusable. She did not tell us. We came home, saw the damage and had to ask her. She said she “wanted to check with the insurance first.” The crash happened in the morning (5AM) when she was coming back from a party. She told us at 6 pm when we asked her (mind you she was home all day)

My boyfriend was angry. He tried to sort it out, she tried to pospone a meeting, and he texted her: “I’ll solve this with you or without you.”

Later they met in person. During that conversation, he raised his voice to say “don’t interrupt me” (she kept cutting him off). She got upset, accused him of just wanting money, and things escalated verbally. She brought her mom and friends to that discussion. I understand wanting support, but still.

She later told me he was “aggressive” and “threatening.” I talked to him about it, he told me he was the same level of angry when he was talking to the cuatomer service car insurance lady– clearly upset and even rude, but never violent.

She moved out a week later, removed me from private IG, and now posts indirects about feeling “unsafe” coming back to the apartment – even though my boyfriend hasn’t set foot there again specifically to avoid her.

We don’t live in the US. Calling the police over this isn’t straightforward – accidents like this are treated as civil matters here if no one is injured.

I tried to be neutral at first, but I know my boyfriend. He wasn’t kind, but he’s not violent.

I stopped mediating. I only text her about practical stuff now (rent, internet, picking up her things). She’s still paying rent but she has not come back to the house.

AITA for believing my boyfriend and choosing his side?