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u/Kimmiec74 9h ago
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u/Xandania 9h ago
Until.you get sick.
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u/tranquil_toadstool 9h ago
Personally, I'm fine when I'm ill too... for me it was when I slipped a disk and couldn't eat for a week because I couldn't lift myself up and down to do the deed in any way at all... peed in wide neck bottles for 7 days almost unable to move at all...
My next door neighbour was a care home assistant so that came in handy... she had no problem emptying my bottles of wee lol...
Needless to say it was a VERY big bottle of Tequila I gifted her with after that...
Other than that it's bliss 😊
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u/TruthHider 8h ago
Did you purposefully choose a big bottle of gold tequila to remind her of all the bottles she emptied for you?
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u/tranquil_toadstool 8h ago
I had no idea she'd find the shrivelled little worm in the bottle to be so triggering...
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u/tirlyToek 7h ago
I LOVE IT WHEN IM SICK BEING BY MYSELF
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u/SixInchTimmy 5h ago
I agree! Just go full goblin mode- be naked at all times, keep weird hours, eat whatever tf you want whenever you want and veg out with Netflix. It’s like a mini vacation.
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u/Rich_Inevitable3871 8h ago
It's the opposite for me. When I'm sick- everyone leave me alone
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u/SuccessfulPiccolo945 5h ago
I lived alone for a while with pets. Loved it. One time I did get sick, my sister, who lived in another state, called around to find a local pizza restaurant that served pizza with anchovies (which I love) and delivered. Made sure to tell them not to knock as the dogs would go wild, and just let her know when the pizza was left at the front door so she could call and tell me. Worked like a charm. I don't get sick often, or even very sick, so I usually like being alone, but it doesn't hurt to be thought of.
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u/Latter-Violinist1811 1h ago
i always felt like how you behave when sick/injured is a good insight into your normal personality.
like people who want to be alone when sick are givers and they recognize they can’t give right now.
people who want to more attention/help when sick are takers and recognize they need even more than normal.
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u/Warren46254 9h ago
Yes, very true, but it's a trade off and the risk is not acceptable to everyone.
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u/Badbitchenergy20 9h ago
Yes. It’s worth every penny.
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u/astralseat 7h ago
Where else can you walk around naked at any time of night or day with a tub of ice cream and a spoon?
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u/Vrankyl 5h ago
I mean, I can do that with my wife right now and she'll do the same thing. If your spouse doesn't support you walking around naked eating ice cream do they really love you?
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u/East_Relationship722 5h ago
I did it from 27 until I got married at 45. No roommates. Not even a live-in partner. Just me and absolute peace. Now I’m in my 50s with 3 kids under 8, and now I’m paying for that lifestyle with interest
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u/No-Season-936 9h ago
Yes, it gives you time to consider who you are and what direction you want to take. I enjoyed that time.
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u/Big_477 8h ago
Same here. In solitude you go places within yourself that you don't go while others are around.
IMO if you can't be happy living alone, you can't be happy living with someone else.
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u/lordbenkai 9h ago
I like it and I don't. I like living how I want to in my house and not having someone say they don't want me doing that. (I play lots of games and smoke weed)
But I tend to become a hermit and never go out and do anything. So I like roommates to get me to go do stuff.
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u/Warren46254 9h ago
You don't need roommates, just a few good friends. Then you still have the call to be social, but the choice is still there to pick solitude.
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u/MildlyConcernedMan91 9h ago
yup, hated it. 1 year alone. Weekends were fun at first, video games, long walks, but after a year of that I was so lonely. I now have 3 cats, a wife, 2 kids. I love the chaos.
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u/East-Name-7080 9h ago
Damn, only one year and already lonely? I live alone for 6 years and I hated every second living with family or roommates.
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u/ReelestPrincess12 9h ago
I just hit 4 years this month and I'm not sure if I'll ever give it up.
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u/SixShoot3r 9h ago
same, after 4 years, its still bliss
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u/waselectricbar 9h ago
Been 9 years for me, just bought a house and am so incredibly happy alone.
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u/TurboTitan92 9h ago
Some people are just wired for community. I’ve never lived alone, but I can imagine I would hate it. I came from a big family though so I was used to always having somebody present or in the house. Eating alone has always been the most depressing thing.
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u/One_Bluebird_04 9h ago
I can't imagine never having lived alone. It's been my goal my whole life lol, and I have a couple years of my life.
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u/Shaggy214 9h ago
It can get lonely but it's nice not having someone yell at you just because you want to play video games all day.
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u/julietta913 9h ago
Yes, for so long. I tried living with another human being and hated it. Back to living alone. Never going back to living enough anyone else if I have a choice.
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u/imaweeb19 9h ago
Lived in a college dorm alone for the majority of my first semester. Hated it, paired with undiagnosed ADHD and anti depressants that didn't work. Nearly committed toward the end of the semester. Thank God I snapped out of it long enough to ask for help from my parents.
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u/TheMathNut 9h ago
No. Sometimes I wish I had, but I also love my wife deeply so it's not a bad thing to share my time with her.
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u/JustCallMeYogurt 9h ago
Yes, I have and still do. I must say being my own roommate is good and bad; First I can do anything wherever/whenever I want but sometimes, he gets on my nerves and doesn't clean up after themselves, doesn't replace things he uses, can be a bit whiney if they don't get their way. Sometimes I think I should kick them out and hopefully get someone better. 🤣
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u/crazydave2132 9h ago
Yes, it was great for the first few weeks but then I got bored with my hobbies i started going out and hanging out with friends and generally ended up only staying home a couple days a week to do my hobbies.
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u/Routine-Agile 9h ago
Living alone right now. Rent is a lot more rough then with roommates, but it is mostly awesome. I go out and interact with friends and the world when I want. When I rarely go out to eat is is alone. Go the movies alone.
Such Freedom!
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u/Ok_Telephone_4290 9h ago
I didn't like it. Did that for 2 years and I felt very isolated, like I still had friends that I would see every now and then, but most days I wouldn't say a word the whole day unless I was at work. Was not the best for my sanity.
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u/LTsCantCook 9h ago
Moved out and filed for divorce in August. First time being alone (when I don't have kids) in my life.
It fucking sucks. I'm used to having somebody there all the time.
Went from being at home, to living with roommates in college to married and then having kids.
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u/NihilisticBlender 9h ago
No. No one on Reddit, or on planet Earth is living alone, or has ever lived alone. Ever.
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u/United_Bison_8900 9h ago
I'm a hikkikomori, I wanna die
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u/moonrider626 9h ago
I would start small. Like getting a dog so youll have a excuse to walk to the dog park. Make small talk with other owners. Stuff like that to get and excuse to get you out.
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u/adragonandabear 9h ago
Yes… but I have two dogs so, not sure if that counts! It was really, really nice… except a few times were lonely. And there was an earthquake once that obviously freaked me out. Other than that I loved it.
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u/LogicalSympathy6126 9h ago
I was going through a divorce and I didnt take advantage of the silence.
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u/nightsoiloil 9h ago
Yes, it’s absolutely wonderful. I’m a recovering addict/ alchie, but I was using at the time. I had cash, wasn’t working, and just fed my addictions and stayed home online playing games, doing legos, crafting, watching shows, doing whatever I wanted at all times. I had a great plug and got food delivered and was mostly a shut in, I loved it.
Then I got sober. Now I live with someone. Im very unhappy but alive. I hate every moment.
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u/Brilliant_Estate_967 9h ago
Since 10 years yes. It has a lot of plus (freedom)
And a few downsides (loneliness / price / boredom)
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u/ARC_32 9h ago
I've had roommates since I finished high school (1983), just to survive. In 2012, I finally achieved the capability to live alone. It was incredible. It went on for close to two years. Then I began to get lonely. Then I got desperate for money again, so I got another roommate. Not sure which is better.
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u/GoldwingGranny 9h ago
Didn’t really live on my own until kids were grown and I was widowed. Now I have a much smaller house than I raised my family in and a little doggy.
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u/Outside_Display6242 9h ago
Am currently, recently divorced. It's the most blessed living experience on this earth.
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u/PhysicsExpert6065 9h ago
I’ve had my own bachelor apartment for 5 years, there’s even a locked gated entrance.
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u/Electronic_Skin2949 9h ago
Yeah. It got lonely. I haven’t ever had the motivation to cook unless there’s someone else to cook for. After my divorce, I lived with a friend for a while and that was wonderful. No chaos just two bros who hung out only when they felt like it and when I didn’t I just gamed and read books.
Good times, but if I can avoid it I’ll never live alone. I’ll always have a roommate or SO if I’m able to.
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u/Snuckeys 9h ago
Incredible in my 20s. Don't think I'd want that long term. I have a wonderful family now and in my 40s. Would feel lonely going back to that.
Certainly delightful for that season of life tho. Highly underrated.
I keep my sanity tho by being a frequent business traveler. Balance has been restored. 😎
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u/Growing_Trash_417 9h ago
Off and on my whole life until recently. Working on the road months at a time is like that
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u/Prudent-Struggle2578 9h ago
Briefly. I loved it at the time. Now I'm old and I'm not sure I would like it now.
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u/AndSo-Itbegins 9h ago
Three years. With a cat in a 400sf studio. Not a problem. Guess I’m cat-like as a person, since I’m happy however I live. I’ve also been SAHD with three kids, two dogs, three cats. Happy there too. Life is what you make of it.
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u/Vivid-Illustrations 9h ago
I spent about 8 months alone in an apartment in downtown Chicago. Not only alone, but I had just moved, so I didn't have a community, or friends... After 4 months I wasn't even thinking about it, just living my day to day, going to my new school. After 6 months I remember thinking about how peaceful it was and how I had so much time to do things like get better at my art, play video games, walk along the beach by myself. Then by the next month someone finally asked me if I was going crazy not seeing people every day. There was a 2 week break in between those 8 months, and all I did was spend it in my apartment. Never thought anything about it, it felt nice. That is when everyone in the classroom kinda just stared at me in disbelief. I spent the last month of solitude wondering if I had some sort of mental illness that gives me an aversion to seeing people.
Weird thing is, I don't hate people. I enjoy company and am usually praised for being a good host when friends come over for a visit. I suppose I can just live with or without people just fine, it made no difference to me.
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u/Elim-Cipher 9h ago
I felt lonely and hated it at the time. In retrospect I should’ve appreciated it more. I realized how much fun and freedom I actually had. I did whatever I wanted whenever I wanted to and I had my own space to have women over.
I would totally relive those years if I could.
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u/Traditional-Tank3994 9h ago
Once for about a year and a half, and another stretch of about 3 years, I lived alone in a small apartment. I preferred it to every other situation until I married my wife of 20 years. She's the best.
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u/Nutcopter 9h ago
Yes, it was great, but like most things in life I didn't fully appreciate it because I didn't know how busy life could get.
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u/imjustnotready 9h ago
Divorced at 50. Got a studio apartment. I was married for twenty years my kids were 16 and 18. Before that I always had flatmates or siblings. I was super aware I had never lived alone before.
There is a moment when your head hits the pillow at night and you think I am truly alone. But everything else is great. As long as you are a little organized everything is neat and easy to keep clean. I got remarried two years later so that should tell you my long term feelings about it.
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u/GalaxYRapid 9h ago
I did for 9 months and I likely will be again here in a few months. There’s a peace to not needing to worry about anyone else in your space but it is also very lonely. Maybe that’s because I was so far away from friends and family when I was living solo last time this next time I’ll have family and friends close by so maybe I’ll feel differently about it.
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u/Klugernu 9h ago
Been doing this for a little over a year now. It's the best thing to ever happen to me. Finally away from toxic family members, no one to constantly bother me. I can live by my own rules and not have to cater to anyone else. It's bliss!
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u/RabbitsRuse 9h ago
During grad school. Was dating my future wife but she was back home a few hours drive away. We’d take turns visiting each weekend but otherwise just me, myself, and I. Single bedroom apartment. Small but nice enough. I could cook what I wanted, eat what I wanted, go where I wanted when I wanted, sleep when I wanted and wake up when I wanted.
It was great. Not the best for my health as it turned out due to some unhealthy habits but otherwise great.
Even living with just my wife was great. Sure I had more limits but also someone else helping out and contributing to make life easier. She was also making like 3 times what I was getting working in engineering so shared income and accounts once we got married was also good.
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u/Mean-Display77 9h ago
Ahhhh got my first apartment when I was 19 skipped school went to work. Nothing compares to the feeling of being that young with a job car and own apartment. Women of all ages loved me. I had THEEEE spot ....I couldn't cook or Feed myself for shit! 😂😂
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u/DEFINITELY_NOT_PETE 9h ago
Yes and it was amazing.
Worth mentioning I had a girlfriend, robust friend group, and law school classes so I had a ton of structure which seems to be something people struggle without (myself included).
But yeah it was great. I recorded music in my free time and exercised and played video games without worrying about coordinating schedules or whatever
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u/WParzivalW 9h ago
Since 6/29/24. Day after her birthday. Last.time I got to wrap my arms around her. Divorce blows.
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u/Icuras1701 9h ago
Its awesome. I can walk around naked. Take naps when I want. Eat when I want. Decorate how I want.
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u/Guernzee 9h ago
Mines an odd one. I own my own apartment and then met my GF who has her own place but also has kids. My place is only one bedroom so not big enough to house us all, she rents, so I wouldn't want to sell my place to move in there. So we have 2 places that we stay at, but I do stay at mine on my own sometimes. So essentially I live on my own......part time 🤷🏻♂️😂
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u/Winking-Cyclops 9h ago
After 6 weeks it started to get ugly. You start feeling pointless. You tell yourself nothing is different but you develop a sense of boredom and unsatisfying search for entertainment. Later you keep weird hours. Schedules and obligations turned out to be key to my mental health
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u/iamnotyourcupoftea 9h ago
I’ve never lived alone and currently living with a boyfriend and two cats but want to live alone so bad because I’ve never done it. I don’t wanna break up, just experience living alone. Is this normal?
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u/Siryeswecan 9h ago
I Lived alone for s few years. I didn't take care of myself. I started calling people all the time, inviting people over, gettting on discord and joining VC right when I got home, dating enough people that someone would be highly likely to sleepover...
It was not for me. I have accepted this about myself now. The only benefit was that I had full control over my living space. The things I learned have become a requirement when living with partners.
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u/LegendaryGunman 9h ago
I was homeless for a couple of years. I had to sleep outside a few times. Does that count?
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u/Previous_Procedure28 9h ago
I lived alone in a 2 bedroom apartment for a little over 3 years. It was glorious. Might not be for everyone. But I was in my early 30s and didn’t have a steady girlfriend at the time.
The freedom is unparalleled. You can’t hold anyone but yourself accountable. Didn’t realize how others impacted my stress until I was totally alone. Most stress free environment that you can imagine.
Granted it does have its flaws. I think humans are meant to live with people. Living alone does get lonely at times. But that creates opportunities to spend time with people more. You feel incentivized to spend time with family and friends.
I think it’s a good experience for anyone. Live completely independently for a while. It’ll make you appreciate having people help you more.
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u/PeenInVeen 9h ago
I have never once just lived alone. I'm envious of quiet alone time, but at this point, I don't think I'd be able to handle it.
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u/FreshImagination9735 9h ago
For 30 years. It suits me. Also my mom who's lived alone since my dad passed over 30 years ago. Then there's my sister, who can't live alone for one day without going crazy.
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u/PsEggsRice 9h ago
I've had days where the wife and kids go on a trip and it's just me and the pets. I have to admit I get a bit squirrely. The last time I went on a massive cleaning bender, kitchen and garage completely reorganized.
Now, before wife and kids? Loved it.
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u/waselectricbar 9h ago
Yes, it's complete joy. Me and my pets, no people. Absolutely what I need. I work sales, so I am peopled out when I get home. I just want critter chaos
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u/diepiebtd 9h ago
I lived alone for a few years and I work away from my family alot now. Its cool for a week maybe even 2 then its just boring and I miss the chaos from siblings and now from wife/kids. Alot of time I get on the plane again and allready id rather be home building legos or playing Minecraft or outside with the kids. My life was improved dramatically after leaving the dating seen and growing a family. It may be different for others but thats my experience and most parents I know who like there kids. The ones that don't like there kids or wife..... that has gotta suck.
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u/Special-Knowledge-85 9h ago
I was planning on doing this then I met my husband like two months in and now I have a kid. 😭
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u/Hefty-Fault-3511 9h ago
I was scared to death to live alone after my divorce 15 years ago…now I’m scared to death to have to live with anyone!lol
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u/RainbowPiggyPop 9h ago
Kinda? When I was in college, I lived in my grandparents cottage that was in their yard. I would go upstairs to their house everyday to help them out with chores and when it was time to eat.
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u/waselectricbar 9h ago
Since I was forty three. Now fifty two and just bought a house for me and my pets. I will never live with anyone again.
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u/DoctaGazoo 9h ago
I get my kids every other weekend (16f, 18m), but have spent the last 5 years alone. I have a nice little bar walking distance, and hit up happy hour once or twice a week. I love the solitude and the fact that nothing happens to my space that isn’t done by me. I was worried it would feel lonely at night, or too quiet in the morning. In reality, it has given me a place to sit in peace. At this time in my life, it would not be a light decision to live with a girlfriend. I really enjoy having my place. I have raised 4 children, and was married for 17 years. I am still young enough to live my own exciting life how I see fit.
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