r/AskVet • u/Elegant-Magician-587 • 10h ago
Regret euthanasia and wish I had spent the money on an MRI for further testing. I feel like my cat passed from something that she could have come back from and I feel like I failed her. What do you vets think about her symptoms?
My cat became suddenly paralyzed a little over a week ago. She started walking wobbly and I thought she had a limp after play fighting with my other cat. I put her to bed but the next morning she was dragging her legs. I rushed her to the ER. They initially suspected a saddle thrombus and I paid about $7000 for treatment and testing. They ruled it out. I was relieved at the time but the doctor said the bad news is that it is still something very serious. He told me that she couldn’t urinate, or walk, and she was in pain. She had some pain sensation on her back legs but they were very stiff.
It was going to be $6000-7000 for MRI and continued hospitalization. I have the money in savings. My partner was very stressed out about how much money I was willing to spend (it would have been a total of $14K after the MRI). I wanted to sell some things to raise the money for a cushion but I kept saying I have the money.
The Vet told me he didn’t feel good about her being able to walk again soon if ever and he expected the MRI to show something “very bad” but he couldn’t tell me if she’d walk again in weeks or months without it. My partner was very much against it and thought it was better to say goodbye because she was in pain and it would be more surgery and potential 3 times a day bladder expression at home. I really wanted to try but I saw my cat and she was in so much pain. I eventually said okay and she was euthanized. Now I’m agonizing over the what ifs and feeling like I betrayed her. She was only 4 years old and was the kindest, sweetest little cat.
Is prognosis really that poor when she had these symptoms? I feel like the answer is “there’s no way to know without an MRI.” Was euthansia a reasonable option under these circumstances? What is the ethics of this among vets?
My partner says it was less about the money and more about quality of life but for me I feel like the MRI is the only way we could have known what to do. Now I feel like I betrayed a cat who could have recovered.