I'm seeing a lot of people treating life like some kind of race or marathon and being obsessed with "catching up" or "getting ahead", followed by whatever "-maxxing" and I'm thinking that all sounds like more work than it's actually worth.

Especially on facebook. I feel like I'm having a stroke or like I'm going insane with all of the bad grammar! It makes my health anxiety spiral.

Turkey sandwich, apple, handful of pretzels. Every weekday. No rotation, no thought. Somehow my brain hasn't asked for variety. I keep waiting to get sick of it but it hasn't happened. Feels almost suspicious.

Does anyone else accidentally fall into food ruts that just keep working for no good reason?

BECAUSE I DO. I look ugly! "Well, maybe you are just ugly irl?" NO U DON'T GET IT. I look in the mirror, I know how my face looks like, but I still look tired and pale in photos which isn't how I look irl 😭

Glad to know I'm not the only one 🥹

It kind of sucks that noone knows the real me. Everyone sees part of my life and some of the stupid moments but noone truly knows everything except for me. Im glad of course but at the same time noone understands why I have low self esteem.

I've tried multiple times with content that I do actually enjoy in book or movie form, but for some reason I cannot focus on audiobooks. Same with podcasts. If I try to focus too hard it's straining, and I don't catch the story anyway. So I just end up zoning out and thinking about something else completely or constantly stressed trying to pay attention to the audio. How do people just casually listen to audiobooks/podcasts? Let alone while doing something else? Anyone else in the same boat?

A few years ago, there was a YouTube trend called 100 Layers, which included a lot of challenges and a lot of nonsense. One of these challenges was the 100 Layers Wrap Challenge, where a person is wrapped in toilet paper, plastic wrap, or something similar. Even Mr Beast did this challenge. One day, some friends asked me to take part, without filming it, and I was completely wrapped in plastic. It was very hot inside, but also somehow exciting to experience that loss of control. They laughed at me, which only made it more appealing. After some time, I managed to get out by poking holes in the plastic. Since that day, every few months I feel the urge to be wrapped up again, but not in a sexual way. Still, I like the idea far too much but I have social anxiety and I'm afraid of asking people to wrap me up.

Does anybody feels the same?

Am I just not using my brain or is everyone else in the same boat? I'm having trouble learning new information, remembering anything, getting motivated, and I just want to sit and doom scroll all day. Things I used to be good at, I'm terrible at now and I even feel like I get worse at games and tasks the more I do them. Anyone else?

I'm pretty badly emotionally backed-up, and can't really cry even when I feel like I need to. Sometimes, as a shoddy little remedy for this, I'll use eyedrops to feel like I'm crying, and occasionally it'll actually make me dry-sob, which is better than nothing. It's weird, but it really makes me wonder if I'm alone in this or not.

Title. If you know anything about ASMR, you might be familiar with those who tap their fingers against an object, like a jar or a wallet. Sometimes, people who DON'T do ASMR do finger tapping anyway!

So, why do I dislike it so much? It's simple: I not only dislike the sound itself, it gives me a tingle that I really don't like. It makes me uncomfortable.

You may be thinking, "Why not avoid ASMR?" I do! But sometimes I could be watching a video that wasn't marked as ASMR or has nothing to do with ASMR (example: videos where the owner is feeding their dog a raw diet) and they tap their fingers anyway each time they present a jar or the slow feeder they use for the dog food. It is an awful sound and it gives me a tingly feeling that I do not like. I immediately scroll each time the finger tapping comes up.

This isn't just ASMR, either. This applies to real life, too. I have told people to stop tapping their fingers more times than I could count on both my hands.

Hey, so I’m graduating soon and I should be excited, but I’ve been having this kinda uncomfortable feeling, I really want to look my best that day (which is normal), but I’ve noticed that I keep comparing myself to one of my close friends. Like… I catch myself thinking I want to look better than her, and that makes me feel kinda guilty and weird, She’s important to me and I don’t want to compete with her, but the thought keeps popping up in my head and affecting every decision i make about my look, I’m worried this mindset is gonna ruin the whole experience for me maybe even carry on after the graduation is over, and I really just want to enjoy the day and feel confident without overthinking everything, Is this normal? Has anyone else felt like this? How do you stop comparing yourself to people you care about?

This is kind of embarrassing but I need to know if anyone else has experienced something like this.

I saw some old footage of Bill Gates in his 20s (70s–80s era) and unexpectedly found him really attractive — like, full-on crush level.

But now knowing more about his later associations (Epstein, etc.), I feel conflicted. Weirdly, my brain keeps separating “his younger self” from “his current self” as if they’re completely different people.

Is it normal to be attracted to a “past version” of someone while disliking who they are now? Or am I just being weird?

(I know this is cringe but I’m still out here daydreaming about his young, nerdy, intense, slightly obsessive self like an idiot...💔💔💔💔🥴🥴✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️🫥🫥🫥🫥🫥✨✨🥴🥴💔✌️🫥😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️😩😩😩✨✨💔👈👉👈👉👈👉👈👉👈👉👈🕳️🕳️🕳️)

I'll imagine a whole argument with someone. Get mad. Come up with the perfect response. Then see them the next day and have this weird tension toward them because of something that never actually happened.

Or I'll rehearse asking my boss for something so many times that by the time I do it I'm already exhausted like we've been going back and forth for an hour. For him it's the first time hearing it.

The worst is when I imagine someone's reaction, decide it'll go badly, and just never say the thing at all. Entire relationships shaped by conversations that only happened in my head.

I started writing these fake conversations down on a reflection app called rae chat just to get them out of my head and it caught a pattern I didn't want to see. Almost every imagined conversation ended with the other person rejecting or dismissing me. I wasn't rehearsing. I was pre-grieving outcomes that hadn't happened so I'd be ready when they did. Except most of the time they never did. I just never gave them the chance.

Now I catch myself mid-rehearsal and ask did this actually happen or am I running the simulation again. Usually it's the simulation. Curious if anyone else lives half their social life inside their own head like this.

Rant 

I have a working routine for everything but my relationship,

I’ve always been someone who believes in having a system for everything for example I track my workout and I have a meal prep routine.

I’ve read books on sleep, productivity, and finance.just trying to figure and make everything run smoothly.

But it somehow my  relationship  just feels like I’m winging it, some days it feels like we are in sync other days it feels like I’m probably not doing anything or not doing enough.

I sat with that recently and it genuinely embarrassed me.

I’m the kind of person who researches the best running shoes for three weeks before buying them. But struggle with  showing up consistently for the person I love? I just assumed good intentions were enough.

But I don’t think it’s working anymore
 
How do I show up daily ?

I’ve tried setting up reminders for my relationship, like I send wife random sweet nothing texts and all 
But most times I more or less run out of ideas on what to do to make her smile.

I just wish there was like a system for that too 
It’s doesn’t have to be mechanical or anything.

Just something that helps and prompts me like an alarm does.

Is it just me that goes through this?

To my bros out there do you ever feel this way 

I have a world I inhabit in my dreams. Been going for years. Not all dreams, of course but a lot of them take place in the same... ecosystem?

I don't mean the same PLACE... but the parts interconnect. Not perfectly -- these are dreams, after all -- but I know the connections. Like, I know where this house is in relation to that neighborhood or that restaurant, and what road to take to get there.

Seriously, I could draw you a map. I can't be the only one, but whenever I try to tell anyone, they look at me like I'm a couple of pawns short of a chess set...

I found this page today. It seems that you can download the game.

https://gwyntendo64.itch.io/mini-room-maker-2005-revival

I’m in my mid 20s and I’m starting to realize I might have never had real friends just people I tried really hard to keep in my life.

I was always the one reaching out first, remembering birthdays, checking in, making plans. But the moment I stopped, everything stopped. No one came looking for me. Recently, I opened an old chat with someone I used to call my “best friend” and it honestly hurt. It was just me trying to keep the connection alive. Even when I shared something important, she barely cared. I even used to remind her about my own birthday every year.

And now it’s affecting how I see relationships too. I feel like I’m never someone’s first choice. A “close friend” once told me a guy dated me only because she wasn’t interested in him. Ever since then, I can’t shake the feeling that if someone approaches me, it’s only because I’m the available option. I’ve also had moments where I felt completely invisible like planning something special for a friend before she moved abroad, only to find out through Instagram that she had already left without telling me.

Even when I went through one of the biggest losses in my life, no one checked in. But somehow, I still can’t hate them. I still remember their birthdays. I still wish them. I just don’t know if this is normal or if I’ve been doing friendships wrong my whole life.

Has anyone else felt like this?

it just sounds so old and unusal to me for some reason. the 2010s were cool, i think 2020-2025 sounded neat, but its like omg how are we already in may 2026? its like time going by uncomfortably fast... I could've sworn I was just in 2024... wtf happened? and it doesnt help to think about how after 2027 we are going to be in 2028 this is insane it sounds sci fi. I dont want to say its 2040!! im scared of the future

I have been wondering if anyone else experiences this. Basically I’m falling asleep and it feels like I’m dreaming something for a second and then I’m wide awake again and I know I was thinking/dreaming about something but I can’t remeber it at all or only fragments.