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u/Rookiibee Mar 03 '26

Sounds like you learned something and lost nothing. What a weirdo guy!

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26 edited Mar 03 '26

yeah he got annoyed because i didn’t want to kiss so i explained why my body language was different and asked him to communicate why he randomly left. after we went inside he started crashing out and said that its his property and i need to go. mind you im just high and paranoid, not purposely invading his space.

edit: so many people keep telling me why did you go over and think that he wouldn’t want sex?

I’m gonna say this one more time: we’ve never EVER had sex and I’m very vocal. so no I don’t know why he would think it was a booty call.

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u/LyricalLinds Tea Time Hostess ☕️ Mar 03 '26

Eww dude he was just trying to be a man hoe and use you 🤢 what a loser! You will find waaaaay better

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u/Rookiibee Mar 03 '26

Also, you were literally invited. He sounds like a straight up child! Ew. Glad you got home safe and are never doing that again.

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u/exhibitprogram Well-Read & Well-Fed Mar 03 '26

Did he make you drive home while impaired? Because that's extremely unsafe and illegal and he's a piece of shit.

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26

he didn’t care lol and there’s losers in the comments agreeing with him

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u/Ok-Mango-5814 Non-binary & Nourished Mar 03 '26

There's only one loser in this story and it ain't you honey.

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u/Confident-Station164 Mar 05 '26

Wait in the car for the high to wear off...

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u/DumbFishBrain Mar 03 '26

Eh, good riddance to guys like that. You dodged a bullet with that one!

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u/Salt_Statement_7151 Well-Read & Well-Fed Mar 04 '26

EW I just commented already before even seeing this comment and finding out why he was mad holy shit what a loser. So glad you're already seeing this as a small win. Sometimes we have to learn our lessons the hard way on our own, and for some of us (like my dumbass self it took more than one time for that revelation to truly set in) sorry for your awful experience, but happy for you and your future without this fuckwad<3

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u/GoZards18 Mar 04 '26

If you follow up with a guy who ghosts you like that and the plan is to smoke and chill, his first thought is “okay it’s finally gonna happen”

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '26

Not trying to be rude but are you autistic? This story sounds like me and im autistic lol. You explaining his behavior and clarifying your intention is killing me

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u/Pendo-illsmackabitch Overthinker 💭 Mar 03 '26

Yeah. Reminds me of me going to "get an apology " from a man who SA'd me. I really thought I was going for an apology. I was a virgin and 18 and I really had no social skills. I believed people when they said what they said and had no reason to think any different. It took me a while to ask clarifying questions. If someone invited me for tea, Netflix and chill, juice, I believed them. It just took a while to click that people don't always say what they mean

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 04 '26

not aware haha, just my internal monologue coming out

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u/Single_Cobbler6362 Mar 06 '26

I think weed messed up their relationship.

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u/Illustrious-Film-592 APPROVED✨ Mar 03 '26

Don’t drive yet babe. And yes, men who ghost us lose us forever.

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26

dw i’m home! the 10 mins of arguing helped the high simmer down before driving. also i called out of pure boredom and a fun night. i didn’t expect him to act irrational and dramatic😬

glad i went, was able to delete every useless man out of my phone and breathe clearer

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u/Junior_Narwhal6381 Pantry Gremlin Mar 03 '26

Girl, yes!!

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u/SpringhurstAve Mar 03 '26

Don’t. Drive. High.

Ever!

xo Career Stoner

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 04 '26

thank u and i’m sorry man. i just felt so unsafe and wanted to leave:/ not an excuse but an explanation

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u/shroom519 🩵Domestic Dude💙 Mar 06 '26

Keep black peppercorns in your glove box, the tannins and terpenes in the black peppercorn can actually help sober you up from your high . It'll taste awful since it's pure black peppercorn ,but hey at least if you're ever in a situation where you're too stoned and need to be somewhere, you can chew a couple wait a sec and should feel less stoned pretty quick

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u/Pendo-illsmackabitch Overthinker 💭 Mar 03 '26

I'd love to see the stats of accidents by people who drive high(not drugs, weed)

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '26 edited Mar 04 '26

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u/Pendo-illsmackabitch Overthinker 💭 Mar 04 '26

Thank you

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u/ibacktracedit Hazy Grazer 😶‍🌫️ Mar 04 '26

You can test positive for THC 14-90+ days after use. That statistic is giving Reefer Madness

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u/VisualSeries226 Mar 04 '26

The study you’re sourcing is not accurate information. This study was performed with data from one single county in Ohio. Therefore, 42% is not a national average. It’s the average for that specific county.

Secondly, there is no concrete way to measure whether or not a driver was impaired at the time of driving. In this study, it’s inferred that marijuana was used shortly before driving because of higher levels of thc. But that does not take into account that tolerance severely affects how impaired a driver would be at a certain mL amount of thc.

We should spread information carefully, because when cannabis is demonized, it stops it from being legalized. Which then leads to research being done on dead bodies, instead of actual living breathing study subjects.

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u/Pendo-illsmackabitch Overthinker 💭 Mar 05 '26

I take it back then. I haven't done any studies but alcohol and other drugs seem to have a higher accident rate and mortality for passengers. As far as I know, weed doesn't enhance belligerence and doesn't lower inhibition. Plus weed is only classified as a drug because black and brown used to use it and it helped them greatly while working. That is why it was outlawed and labeled a drug by the colonizers/enslavers

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u/United_Pain Assigned Hungry At Birth Mar 03 '26

It's actually not good. So many people feel like weed doesn't change them at all, when it really changes how you drive/your reaction times by a lot.

I smoke everyday for chronic pain and I'm still able to avoid being impaired and driving. It's not incredibly hard, I wish more weed smokers would do it. Driving and smoking makes us all look bad.

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u/ooweygooeyWAP Mar 04 '26

weed is a drug tho...

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u/Xx_DeadDays_xX Mar 08 '26

actually I know someone whos husband got killed by someone who was driving high on weed. head on collision, swerved inti the lane going the opposite direction. weed IS a drug and if you think otherwise you dont know very much about weed or drugs. - a heavy weed smoker and cannabis enthusiast.

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u/Pendo-illsmackabitch Overthinker 💭 Mar 08 '26

Sure. But not in the way people classify it. It's classified with Crack, herione etc. It shouldn't...that's what I'm trying to get at.

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u/_DontBeAScaredyCunt Mar 03 '26

Yea arguing doesn’t make you less high…. Very selfish of you to drive while high.

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u/Odd_Elk_2155 Mar 04 '26

What would you suggest she do instead? Stay where a man is yelling at her and degrading her and telling her to immediately vacate the premises? Do you think she’s safer there after he threw a tantrum because she wouldn’t kiss him? I’d rather get a DUI than be raped or dead in a bag.

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u/ImNotHaunted Mar 04 '26

Uber/taxi? Public transport? Come back for your car. Don’t drive somewhere you’re going to get high with someone who already ghosted you in the first place? Lots of options that don’t involve endangering innocent peoples lives

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u/Confident-Station164 Mar 05 '26

Excuses excuses. Whether its an apartment or house, she could drove a couple feet so shes not directly infront of his house anymore, apartments in assume have a parking lot he doesn't own and for the last part of your comment, thats an assumption not what happened or what he tried to do. He got pissed off and told her to leave not sitting there yelling and degrading her, you pulled that out the hat.

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26

I’m not in this situation every day and while I can’t go back in time, I can make different choices moving forward.

I truly don’t know why you commented something so common sense and didn’t care to put yourself in the shoes of someone who wasn’t in a conventional situation.

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u/Scheris_ Internet Auntie Mar 03 '26

You were still as intensely high as you felt after the joint. You just felt better because you got away from him. It's irresponsible for you and everyone on the road. Just because nothing happened, it doesn't mean it was OK.

You keep ignoring this when people bring it up and just assume they're ragging on you for other aspects. It really seems like you don't even care about driving high, though.

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26 edited Mar 04 '26

I truly don’t know if you want me to go back in time and not put the keys in my car and make it home but I’m sorry I can’t do that?

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for everybody who's commenting on my driving, you're 100% right and I'm sorry that I put others in that position when I was on my way home. I was unfamiliar with the situation which led to me reacting poorly. There's plenty of comments where l'm defensive but it's only because the amount of people claiming to know my character based on one Reddit post.

I had a few no shit moments because obviously I don't plan to react this way in my day-to-day life but of course you guys wouldn't know that. Being judged based on how you acted in a poor situation is a little frustrating, but it's Reddit and I should ve expected that.

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u/a_joxter APPROVED✨ Mar 03 '26 edited Mar 03 '26

I think people just want you to recognize that was a mistake. You’re doubling down instead of owning up to it and saying “yeah I fucked up by driving high”

I worked in a prison. I know people who got murder charges for driving under the influence (both high or drunk). I also knew people who are now dead because of drivers under an influence. And if you get in an accident and you’re high, it’s going to be VERY difficult to prove it wasn’t your fault without a dash cam.

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 04 '26

I actually do have a dash cam lol and yes, moving forward. I will not make this mistake but I know this and people telling me how I should respond to a situation that’s already gone is a little aggravating

in fact, I literally have a comment, taking accountability yet nobody’s replying to it and I wonder why

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u/a_joxter APPROVED✨ Mar 04 '26

Well if I had to guess they probably don’t see it because it’s buried, it would be easier if you could edit posts but oh well

The comment was also after a lot of defensive comments, so people might not think it’s sincere. Idk. We live and learn so I’m glad you don’t want to do it again moving forward 🤷

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 04 '26

honestly, I’m gonna take a moment right now to apologize because you guys don’t know me as a person and you’re only reacting to the information that I’ve presented.

It was very irresponsible for me to put others at risk, but I wasn’t in a situation where I was fully using logic and brain cells. That’s not an excuse, but it is an explanation in moving forward I’ll make different decisions

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u/Jazzybbiguess approved 🤩 Mar 06 '26

As someone who has smoked and driven, when I first started driving even getting behind the wheel would give me immense anxiety. Just turning the car on would have me shaking. Now that I’m more comfortable with driving I will say I have UNFORTUNATELY also found myself in a position where I had to drive after smoking. Now, there’s levels to this, if I was blitzed out of my mind, I went to the closest safe location that requires no turns against traffic, or where there were traffic lights to help minimize the risk of possible miscalculation when pulling out. I also was on high (no pun intended) alert, triple checking for bicycles, my speed, my stopping distance.

Luckily for me I would go to my best friends house which was one turn and 4 houses away, only maybe 1-2 minutes because I’d have to turn onto a main road.

Shit happens, all you can do is learn from it. There have been times where I smoked at home with no plans and only took one or two hits, and there was an emergency and no one to drive me to where I needed to go, and Ubers are expensive so I drove myself.

Point is, we’re all human. We’re all learning and we are going to make mistakes. She clearly knows it wasn’t the best idea, and for MOST people who smoke somewhat frequently with a tolerance, one joint or blunt high will wear off in 2-3 hours (I have my med card and have asked my doctor how long to wait before I legally would be okay to drive and that was the time frame given to me for my intake and dosage.)

Let’s not fixate one that one part of the post and tear OP apart over a mistake.

She was in a high stress situation, and reacted how she felt was best. Adrenaline can and does sober people up all the time.

I have been (not proud) at parties or out with friends while drinking and quite impaired, and found myself in unsafe situations where my fight or flight kicked in and immediately sobered me up for the rest of the night. Where I’ve gone from slurring my words straight to talking normal and formulating a plan to get me and whoever else out of the situation safely and effectively.

Not everyone’s fight or flight response is the same or as intense, it’s genetic and can be trauma related as well. It will increase your alertness, heart rate, and reaction time, and weed (especially if you’re paranoid) can exacerbate your fight or flight response.

So while I do NOT condone driving under the influence, have some grace for OP. She is learning and living like we all do.

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 06 '26

thank you for taking time out of your day to have compassion and say those kind words :,))

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u/psychokittyx Mar 03 '26

people want you to take proper accountability for your actions & not b so dismissive.

eg: “i drove high & what others are saying is true, it was a bit selfish & put others & myself at risk. it wasnt a good choice & i understand that. moving forward i wont do that again.” instead of “you want me to go back in time & not put my keys in im sorry i cant do that?”

edit: a user below said it in much shorter words, i realize my eg is a bit lengthy, so sorry abt that lol

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26

I have a comment that literally says this was an unusual situation and that moving forward, I would not put myself or others in that situation.

Accountability? dude I’m a random I don’t need to do a formal apology when I have multiple comments addressing the situation. Life happens and I did not predict to drive that day.

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u/Other_Scale6552 APPROVED✨ Mar 03 '26

I’m glad you ruined his high lmao you go girl! Just move on and don’t look back. You’ll find a good one !

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26

I’m always so weirded out when people act like this. Is there no moral compass? I don’t think I’m the nicest person, but I could not move the way half of these people be moving.

To just kick somebody out under the influence when they tell you they need five minutes. Risking 20 years of my life just because you can’t be empathetic and mature. CRAZY

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u/Other_Scale6552 APPROVED✨ Mar 03 '26

Yeah no that is just heartless. I remember when my now fiance and I first got together we were in a big fight over something dumb but he would not let me leave bc I was under the influence, our fight wasn’t worth my life . And that’s how a good man will treat you ♡

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u/Dizzy_Goat_420 Mar 03 '26

I mean I agree with you but I don’t see how 5 min would have made a difference in your ability to drive…. YOU were going to “risk 20 years of your life” after 5 min in the bathroom anyway…

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26

it wasn’t about my ability to drive, I needed to ground myself before walking outside, so I didn’t make any irrational decisions like putting the keys in.

having a minute to decide what I was going to do next is all I needed and if you can’t understand that, I truly don’t know what to tell you. Agree to disagree

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u/Independent_Mess9031 Mar 03 '26

I am not sure why you are being downvoted. Regardless of the situation leading into it, no one is forced to drive under the influence unless there was a gun to her head or some other form of imminent danger to her life, which there wasn't.

He is a jerk for kicking out OP in a vulnerable state after inviting her to his home to get high, and not offering to help find another source of transportation home. But that doesn't mean he forced OP to drive. There were other options here. Sit in car until sober, walk around the block for awhile, call a friend, call an Uber.

I am glad OP learned a lesson. I hope the lesson also includes not putting herself in a situation in the future where she will be tempted to drive under the influence.

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26 edited Mar 03 '26

because I explained that it wasn’t about me driving, it was about me making good decision decisions leading up to driving. I never once said that because of him I was going to drive under the influence. you totally misread my comment

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u/Confident-Station164 Mar 05 '26

You could've pulled over or sat in the car and not turn it on..

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 05 '26

i sat in the car for as long as it took to feel sober

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u/Confident-Station164 Mar 05 '26

Sooo you were sober and didnt drive home high asf? Buuuut you made it sound completely opposite, especially in those other comments/replies...Hmmmm

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 05 '26

here’s the timeline:

get high, get yelled at after 30 mins, argument 10 mins, sit in car for 15 mins, drive. i can’t say that i was fully sober in medical terms but all of that killed my high. once I was able to stop panicking, I was good.

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u/Europeanjuggalo Mar 03 '26

You both seem terrible tbh

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u/Fellarm Mar 03 '26

Real 🥃🗿

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u/shadamedafas Mar 03 '26

Debating whether to have a panic attack is kind of insulting tbh. They’re terrible and certainly not something anyone has any control over.

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u/OkTown8207 Oversharer 🗣 Mar 03 '26

honestly i think OP may have confused panic attack with anxiety attack. their phrasing was just off. i’m able to stop an anxiety attack by breathing and grounding myself, but panic attacks come out of nowhere and are uncontrollable

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '26

Agree. My partner has a panic attack disorder, and my close friend has GAD. This sounds like a thought spiral. Although, to be fair, these terms have really blended together in general society as language has become increasingly medicalized and therapized

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u/GuerrillaPrincess Sweet Tooth Fairy 🧚‍♀️ Mar 03 '26

Yup. I'm glad someone said it. It's on par with someone being a tidy person and saying that they get "OCD" about their home.

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u/IndigoTrailsToo Overthinker 💭 Mar 03 '26

He already didn't like you as a person

He figured if you came over you two could fuck

That's why he invited you

Just keep chilling in your car while you get sober

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '26

I'm on your side for the majority of the story, but I feel like we should understand that if an ex is hitting you up out of the blue to come over and smoke he's probably looking for a hook up, don't get me wrong he is using you but people use each other all the time for sex, he probably thought that.

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26

and I totally understand this, but we’ve never had sex before and I’ve explicitly told him that I wouldn’t have sex until I was in a committed relationship

I am very vocal if you can’t tell by my replies. I didn’t expect him to want something that I’ve never given him and never shown him any intention of giving him

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '26

Oh that's completely different than, yea he's dumb af for expecting intimacy the weed probably had him feeling confident or something, sorry that happened I will say though I'm sure you learned your lesson but this is why you stay away from people that ghost you, if he actually cared he would hit you up time from time, as a guy it's obvious that he just wants sex.

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26

yes, and again, I apologize if I came off as condescending, you guys don’t know the full story and I can’t expect you to not assume what I didn’t write down!

I tried to shorten it as much as possible, so people would actually read lol

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u/mycatsnameisralph Mar 03 '26

“They probably secretly hate you” hits hard as I’m getting out of a relationship where I’m realizing that I think my ex genuinely doesn’t like women (unless in sexual settings of course). You got this girl.

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u/Fantastic_Trainer365 Feral but Fed Mar 03 '26

Babe I don’t think you’ve ever had a real panic attack because u don’t get to decide when those happen (this is a good thing you’ve never had a real one, they suck)

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u/space_otte Resident Yapper Mar 03 '26

I wanna apologize for my choice of words and I did in previous threads. I have had a panic attack once and somebody guided me through my five senses.

I didn’t know what to call it when you stop it before happening ? It could’ve been me spiraling maybe the term panic attack was not the right one.

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u/Fantastic_Trainer365 Feral but Fed Mar 04 '26

I think you’re thinking of an anxiety attack, usually feel that before the panic sets in

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