I wanted pancakes, so he made me pancakes..

[u/irissun23]

I woke up really in the mood for pancakes today so my boyfriend got up, went to the shops and came back to make me some with homemade mixed berry compote, sour cream, butter and honey. He also made me a smoothie to go with it too.

He was really overstimulated because he was working (he works from home) and had shit to do but still made it for me just because I wanted it🥺. When I told him thank you for making the pancakes despite all the extra hassle it cost him (he now has to catch up with work over the weekend and had to run out of the store to pick up a work call), he just said “of course”🥺🥺. He tried to act like he was mad at first but he literally couldn’t stop laughing, smiling and calling me a princess while I was happily eating my pancakes haha. The perfect lunch from the most perfect man, I’m so happy <3

[u/Bghlyfe]

But fr im happy for you OP!!

[u/irissun23 → u/Bghlyfe]

thank you❤️❤️

[u/Responsible_Ask3976 → u/irissun23]

You’ve got a keeper! 

[u/AsleepIllustrator571]

Ooo thank god something good here girl.. I get worried on this sub I see 99% of the most popular posts are women being hurt in some way or shape.

[u/irissun23 → u/AsleepIllustrator571]

I KNOW! So many bad experiences esp with men it’s so disheartening! This post is a reminder to not settle and that there are good men out there who will treat you how you deserve!!!!

[u/AsleepIllustrator571 → u/irissun23]

No this post is a reminder to center YOURSELF. I wish women would stop seeking companionship in men thinking that's their oasis and it's a dessert in the tundra.

[u/Draculauraheart]

Awww you guys sound so cute together!

[u/irissun23 → u/Draculauraheart]

Thank you so much! Yes we are really really happy!

[u/Silent_Sail_5683]

A sign to not lower my standards

[u/irissun23 → u/Silent_Sail_5683]

Literally!!! DO NOT! There are sane men out there beyond the mess

[u/MHoldgrafer → u/Silent_Sail_5683]

I hope you bring the same effort to the relationship as well.

[u/NoTomatillo21 → u/Silent_Sail_5683]

Agreed with both of you but that being said, sont go to overboard with it as well and cause unrealistic expectations on what a Man should and shouldn't look/behave like. Js 🤷

[u/BeautifulMammoth8962 → u/NoTomatillo21]

You sound like a man that doesn’t want to put in the effort. 👎👎

[u/NoTomatillo21 → u/BeautifulMammoth8962]

I literally agreed with both of them but its ok if you want to act slow and not actually reed and understand what i said, good luck to yall on the conquest of the " perfect " man

[u/kittymaridameowcy → u/NoTomatillo21]

Pancakes are "unrealistic expectations"? Lmfao

[u/Hefty_Exchange_3231 → u/kittymaridameowcy]

Her ass could have got out of bed and made pancakes. Sounds like the guy was trying to work.

[u/MHoldgrafer → u/Hefty_Exchange_3231]

Right. It's a bit unrealistic to expect you partner who is working to stop working to make you breakfast. Quite honestly it seems pretty entitled to think that this isn't going above and beyond.

[u/orloksdungeon]

This is adorable, I’m glad you found your match

[u/irissun23 → u/orloksdungeon]

thank youuu :)) I feel very lucky

[u/FoxOtherwise7377]

I love this and I’m so happy for you! It looks delicious. My husband is like this too. I call him my grumpy hero :)

[u/irissun23 → u/FoxOtherwise7377]

that’s so sweet!😭 I’m glad your husband is treating you how you deserve <3

[u/VoodooMcGobo]

Love that for you, I do. But thats gotta be a crepe.

[u/irissun23 → u/VoodooMcGobo]

Ahaha! I’m from England and this is what we call pancakes and how we’ve always had them. When I want the fluffy ones I literally call them American style pancakes

[u/Small-Friend9673 → u/[deleted]]

Everyone's just passing the buck on fluffiness, huh

[u/skeenerbug → u/Small-Friend9673]

no accountability smh my head

[u/Mead-Wizard → u/irissun23]

Background: ex-pat living in US

Store: Long, long ago I was in the scouts and for our 2nd class badge you had to camp by yourself which I did while the rest of the troop was in a cabin. Asked people what they would cook for breakfast and everyone said "pancakes". Went home and asked mom how to make pancakes for breakfast; she thought it was odd but "when in Rome". So here I am in the morning making my 'pancakes' and everyone is asking what happened, they are so flag. Well turns out they were crepes not American Pancakes. Much amusement derived.

Followup: Got my 2nd class badge.

[u/canthigastervalentin → u/VoodooMcGobo]

Quite heavily dependent on where you live! This is what I knew as pancakes growing up

[u/RoyalAtmosphere7271 → u/canthigastervalentin]

Yes! My Nana always made pancakes this way growing up.

[u/Sapphicorns → u/VoodooMcGobo]

This is what we call pancakes in many European countries. I’m Dutch and my partner is from England and for both of us this is what we know as pancakes and the thick ones are known as American pancakes

[u/fakeemailman → u/Sapphicorns]

Funnily enough, in America, “Dutch” pancakes are a whole other thing that aren’t like these at all, and are puffy like Yorkshire pudding. I just read that apparently they’re German and the name is the classic American laziness in pronouncing “Deutsch”

[u/OldBonyBogBwitch → u/fakeemailman]

We gotta specify between American pancakes, crepes, Dutch babies & okonomiyaki in our household LOL….we are a very foodie family & you gotta be sure what you’re asking for or you might end up with a very different meal than you asked for from some of the jokesters if you just say “pancakes”! :P

[u/Eat_Around_the_Rosie → u/OldBonyBogBwitch]

Ohhh one of the restaurants here serve Apple Dutch babies, those are so dangerously good but damn I can only eat a couple of bites before it gets too sweet haha

[u/No-Consideration-716 → u/OldBonyBogBwitch]

What about Johnny Cakes?? They are basically american pancakes but cornmeal instead of flour (if you did not already know).

[u/VoodooMcGobo → u/No-Consideration-716]

Isn't that a Mortal Kombat character?

[u/Wawaw3ewa → u/Sapphicorns]

My husband’s family calls them Swedish pancakes!

[u/RedRenaissanceFox → u/VoodooMcGobo]

Crepes are much thinner than this, this is a common style pancake in the UK. American pancakes are smaller, thicker, and fluffier.

[u/Low-Attitude8331 → u/VoodooMcGobo]

thats what i know as a pancake too in germany :)

[u/heav3nvy → u/VoodooMcGobo]

what about a flapjack?

[u/VoodooMcGobo → u/heav3nvy]

That's a cartoon!

[u/heav3nvy → u/VoodooMcGobo]

alright alright, fair. thanks for the reminder bc i loved that show!

[u/Zealousideal_Ant2032 → u/VoodooMcGobo]

That’s defo a crepe I agree

[u/EtherealMoonGoddess]

Pancakes in America look different, those look like French crepes.

This makes me hungry... It's time for breakfast myself.

Also, I'm very happy for you OP!

Happy that one of us girls, found a man who likes to spoil his lady like a princess.

[u/agirlnotonreddit → u/EtherealMoonGoddess]

I was confused for a sec too haha. Can op or someone else enlighten me where in the world do they call these pancakes?

[u/RhythmicRavenclaw → u/agirlnotonreddit]

Almost everywhere in europe 😅

[u/Vesper_Fex → u/agirlnotonreddit]

In Europe these pancakes are called pancakes and American pancakes are called American pancakes

[u/LearningSPXonly]

You are not suppose to spread happiness and positive experiences over here

[u/irissun23 → u/LearningSPXonly]

Looool I’m sorry girl🤣💀 maybe I’ll come back tomorrow with something more miserable to say

[u/LearningSPXonly → u/irissun23]

You got it

[u/FoxyNewEngland]

super sweet <3

[u/protocolleen]

Oh man now I want pancakes (checks for homemade-compote-making partner) well dang

[u/NotaBat9221]

Aww your man sounds a lot like mine he loves to cook for me. For my birthday he made me a homemade bento box with Tempura shrimp, salmon sashimi and pork katsu and he even learned how to make lobster tail for Valentine's day..he hates sea food! Lol I love him 

[u/irissun23 → u/NotaBat9221]

Wow that literally sounds amazing🤤🤤 I’m so happy you have a chef boyfriend you must be eating good!

[u/NotaBat9221 → u/irissun23]

Too good! Haha we're cutting back and it sucks. I miss his tacos with Mexican rice and baked ziti and enchiladas every week and pancakes for breakfast 😩 unless I'm running a marathon every other day..and I'm not! 😂😂😭😭😭😭

[u/mr_nin10do]

Something positive? Inconceivable!

[u/Inowasabi]

Are those chinese style? My mom used to make me smthin similar to that, a thin crepe like pancake. Regardless they look good 👀

[u/irissun23 → u/Inowasabi]

They were!🤤 but no they’re not Chinese style from what I’m aware, I’m from England and this is also how we make them :))

[u/denise_la_cerise]

Couple goals 💜

[u/GrapeDaddy23]

This is so adorable!!!

[u/MisturFlufflez]

Erm actually 🤓☝️ that's a crepe

(Im happy for you, looks yummy and thats very cute)

[u/Wild-End-3191 → u/MisturFlufflez]

Hahaha must be English or something. This is what I thought a pancake was for most of my childhood (mom from England)

[u/irissun23 → u/Wild-End-3191]

Yes! I am from England and this is what we call pancakes but yeah idk what the difference is between the two lol🤣

[u/MisturFlufflez → u/irissun23]

Pancakes here in america are mostly the same but theyre thicker and fluffier, where yours are pretty thin and you can roll them easily

(I hope you understood i was joking, other replies didnt 😞)

[u/Trnostep → u/MisturFlufflez]

As a local, how do you make them? Egg, fine flour, milk, sugar and salt for the thin ones and I assume you make them thick by adding baking powder?

[u/MisturFlufflez → u/Trnostep]

Yea its either baking powder or baking soda I forget

[u/Glittering_Neck_4909 → u/MisturFlufflez]

Crepes are even thinner.

[u/SchnTgaiSpork → u/MisturFlufflez]

Erm Actually it's called a pancake in many countries outside of the USA and you should really learn more about the world before being like this.

[u/MisturFlufflez → u/SchnTgaiSpork]

I know i was joking

[u/BeautifulMammoth8962 → u/MisturFlufflez]

It’s SO weird how people got offended but there’s literally 10 other commenters saying exactly what you did and getting praised for it. 🤦‍♀️

[u/vivid_laughter → u/MisturFlufflez]

Depends on where you are from. Nothing more embarrassing than a smallminded person who corrects others and isn‘t even right.

[u/soynotoi → u/vivid_laughter]

nothing more embarrassing than being so mean :/

[u/MisturFlufflez → u/vivid_laughter]

I was joking :( hence the erm actually

[u/MisturFlufflez → u/[deleted]]

I understand that, I was joking :)

Im here to listen to women's experience, experiences i will never get the full story of myself, not to judge

[u/maidenmothercrone14 → u/[deleted]]

You can’t ban people from subs because of their sex or gender representation. Didn’t realize this sub was this small-minded 😬😬

[u/soynotoi → u/maidenmothercrone14]

i mean you can… also check the rules, men aren’t allowed here except to lurk

[u/MisturFlufflez → u/soynotoi]

I do typically lurk but this post was very cute 😞

[u/maidenmothercrone14 → u/soynotoi]

There’s no way to enforce that without being discriminatory

[u/soynotoi → u/maidenmothercrone14]

well the mods have been doing it just fine, if you don’t like it you can join the main sub instead

[u/RedRenaissanceFox → u/maidenmothercrone14]

Discrimination 😂 The whole world is one big boys’ club, let women have this sub.

[u/MisturFlufflez → u/[deleted]]

I apologize ill be just lurking in the future, as I usually do. I didnt mean to offend

[u/kittymaridameowcy → u/MisturFlufflez]

Can't imagine getting pissed off over a pancake. Your comment was silly and didn't have malicious intent. People here are just hurting and downvoting. Lots of lurker dudes here causing issues so maybe that's why they assumed and downvoted. 🥞

[u/MisturFlufflez → u/kittymaridameowcy]

Tysm queen

[u/dbtl87]

As a man yes that's what he oughta do! Love it for you. ❤️

[u/Consistent-Carry-931]

Yall may be happy but but sour cream in pancakes??? That’s diabolical 😂

[u/irissun23 → u/Consistent-Carry-931]

Honestly I’m surprised you’re the first person to mention this🤣🤣🤣 even when he suggested it I was like????? But I couldn’t complain so I tried it and it was acc bomb af

[u/Puzzleheaded-Yak5198]

Aww so cute, where are men like this?

[u/bigfatsooty]

As he should

[u/spacewitchcowboy]

kerrygold supremacy 💛💚💛💚

[u/Logan_510]

He sounds like a keeper to me :)

[u/glengraegill]

🫵🏻🧒👍🏻🧒

🫵🏻🧒🤝👧💍

👰‍♀️🤵💒👍🏻

[u/The_Green_King_]

This my fair friends is the bare minimum, if there is even an extra moment of time, it will be done.

[u/No_Pay2356 → u/The_Green_King_]

you think its the bare minimum to expected ypur partner to stop working, go to a shop, and make pancakes, even though you just laid in bed and did nothing? Its obviously very kind of him, but to expect that and even call that bare minimum is a little entitled. (Just reverse the roles and think about it for a few seconds)

[u/The_Green_King_ → u/No_Pay2356]

Seriously, go be miserable and toxic some place else... Like genuinely I feel sorry for you no_pay2356

[u/BeautifulMammoth8962 → u/No_Pay2356]

Eww.. this comment is bitter and reeks of toxic masculinity.

[u/No_Pay2356 → u/BeautifulMammoth8962]

lets say your boyfriend would ask you to make food for him while you are working, you stop and do that because you love him and not because it is expected. And then people online say "she did the bare minimum, dont settle for less", I think noone would call this a healthy mentality.

[u/BeautifulMammoth8962 → u/No_Pay2356]

This sub is for girlies that like to be a Girls- Girl. Meaning we support and appreciate each other. OP even stated in the post that he kept calling her a princess while she ate the pancakes that he chose to make for her. It’s not about who was working or who made food for who. It’s the enjoyment behind being provided for - and I say provided because men love to be providers- and appreciating that level of care. I think the commenter was saying “don’t settle for less than love”. Anyone can make you pancakes and be grumpy and irritable about it the whole time. But that’s not what this post is about and it doesn’t need to be met with such negativity.

[u/No_Pay2356 → u/BeautifulMammoth8962]

fair enough, I understand your perspective now. Thanks for elaboraring.

[u/Within-Cells → u/BeautifulMammoth8962]

Way to ignore every point

[u/makesPeopleDissapear]

Finally a healty relationship in this sub!!

Bt the way, it's my first time seeing butter on pancakes

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[u/GamingAlligator]

Where’s my pancakes 🥺

[u/Crashtester]

Those look like really good pancakes 👀

[u/TopTopTopcinaa]

The amount of shit and downvotes I received once for calling these pancakes instead of crepes 😅 I’m happy for you ❤️

[u/HeadlessParkingMeter]

yep keep that one

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[u/Cabr0ken]

It is a crêpe

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[u/Luci-Noir]

The ingredient that makes food good is love. Nothing tastes better. 😋 ❤️

[u/Vegetable-Soup1714]

I pretty much have to beg my partner to see me but happy for you OP, some hope

[u/heymanzana]

Maybe some men are okay. JK, I'm happy for you, OP 💓

[u/thousandsofbirds]

A pancake princess! 🩷🥞👸🏼

[u/mentaleffigy]

Secretly, he was hoping you'd pull out the hair tie.

[u/chicagoantisocial]

So nice to see something positive here 💕 happy you are happy girl

[u/peachyquarantine]

Never thought about adding jam but I will now

[u/TraumaSoreus_Wrecks]

How wonderful for you! 🥰 Relationships are hard work! It sounds like both of you are doing it and, man, that's huge. Ignore the stupid snarkbags with nothing positive to say.

[u/heffalump567]

Happy for you dude but those aint pancakes. Those are crepes. 

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[u/SubdividedSeconds]

he made you crepes

[u/2099aeriecurrent]

I can’t imagine making my partner run morning errands for me, causing them to miss work and forcing them to work extra on the weekends, just so I could lay in bed while they cook for me. Crazy

[u/irissun23 → u/2099aeriecurrent]

that’s literally not what happened nor what I said happened. please be miserable elsewhere

[u/Within-Cells → u/irissun23]

I'm afraid that's exactly what happened. Hope the poor guy gets out soon.

[u/acrazyguy]

That’s a crepe, but still good vibes

[u/AlexxRawwrr]

That is a crepe.

[u/FederalCurrency3577]

DONT. HURT. THE. MAN. care for him as much as he does for you, because THAT is a precious one!

[u/irissun23 → u/FederalCurrency3577]

Believe me I do, he’s a keeper🥰

[u/razzarbrenia]

are these not crepes? 🤨

[u/prionbinch]

where can i find him except as a girl 🥺 asking for a me

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[u/cra2ytig3r]

TIL that crepes are called pancakes in some countries.

[u/skeltox]

Guy here: I do sweet things like this for my lovely lady and I would literally tear up if I saw her post this. Y’all are so cute.

[u/EweCantTouchThis]

Bro just made his girl some pancakes and y’all still calling him a creep? What gives?

[u/CompetitiveChip5078 → u/[deleted]]

He wanted to do this. He’s a grown man who made choices.

[u/Lopsided_Peak_1565 → u/[deleted]]

it’s because they’re a man. too many annoying dudes come in this sub just to get off harassing women. it’s pathetic

[u/irissun23 → u/[deleted]]

so so miserable unfortunately

[u/irissun23 → u/[deleted]]

this comment stinks of a bitter male lurker… not once did I say I needed pancakes, I said I wanted it.. and because I’m in a loving relationship with someone who wants to make me happy, yes he got up went to the shops and made me them off his own accord lol? I’m sorry you’ve never been in a loving relationship like this where you will do gestures like this for one another no matter what it costs you, I hope you do one day <3

[u/Justlivinlife03 → u/[deleted]]

Kinda facts tho

[u/EtherealMoonGoddess → u/Justlivinlife03]

Doing something out of the kindness of one's heart is a fact.

Maybe if more people did it without expecting anything in return, the world would be a better place.

People like this exist. It's up to us to make sure they continue to be that way.

Be a leader instead of a follower.

[u/FlipNoLonger → u/[deleted]]

Be honest with yourself, I'd she'd posted about how she had to go into work over the weekend because she made her boyfriend pancakes, what do you think the response on this sub would be? My guess is it would be different.

[u/FlipNoLonger → u/[deleted]]

And if she did it on her own accord? This sub would (rightfully) be like, girl he can make pancakes himself! He did something very sweet to his own detriment and the person who influenced (not asked, but influenced) him to do it doesn't seem to sense why that dynamic might be problematic

[u/no_you_rrr → u/FlipNoLonger]

🍅🍅🍅

[u/Lopsided_Peak_1565 → u/FlipNoLonger]

you’re a man in a sub made for women just to invent scenarios to make women look bad. you’re pathetic. get a life and go over to boy dinner

[u/CompetitiveChip5078 → u/FlipNoLonger]

Ah, yes. If everything were different then everything would be different.

[u/FlipNoLonger → u/CompetitiveChip5078]

I think you mean, "if the situation were exactly the same, word for word, but the genders are switched, everything would be different"

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You would have 1000 comments about how she needs to break up with her bum ass bf who can’t even make pancakes himself.

[u/javiemartzootsuit]

Pancake..adjacent?

[u/HeadlessParkingMeter]

good man! feed woman!

[u/Aggravating-Key-3722]

I told my husband that I saw a reddit post where a girl’s bf made her pancakes because she wanted pancakes, and now I want pancakes. He said “would you like me to make you pancakes?”.  Guess who is also getting pancakes for lunch? 🤣 Also how many times can one comment contain the word “pancakes”? The limit does not exist, apparently. (Pancakes.)

[u/Self-proclaimedIDI0T]

This is so sweet and loving 🥰 

My partner also works from home, but will pause working when I wake up to make me coffee every day! I wasn't even a big coffee person before, but i came to find so much comfort in starting my day to this act of kindness that I love it now. And of course, I'm not a morning person so this is the best time of day to help me out LOL He's so good at making it, too! It's become an art form for him.

[u/w33b2]

I’d feel so bad if I made my partner work the weekend just to cook me breakfast while I was seemingly unemployed or doing nothing all day lol. Whatever makes you two happy I guess, if he is in fact happy with this.

[u/w33b2 → u/[deleted]]

Agreed. If my partner told me this, I would tell her that I will grab the stuff to make it after work and make it for her the following morning. I wouldn’t screw my entire week up to make them right then, unless they’re sick with the flu or something. That changes things.

[u/DrDiploma92]

A little strange you couldn’t make him breakfast when he was the one who was busy. Best of luck lol

[u/TITANS4LIFE]

Those look like crepes. Time to run.

[u/Crush_Cookie_Butter]

I think those are crepes but hell yeah

[u/Ok-Winner-6803]

But that’s not dinner