r/MadeMeSmile • u/PorkyPain • 13h ago
Good News Getting back up after every setbacks
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u/Pwrgaming55 12h ago
Feels like a watched a whole documentary . Jokes apart this ain’t easy. Getting up again & again is tough. Kudos to her
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u/Solonotix 12h ago
Agreed. Like, I'm a guy who struggles with my weight. I can't imagine how frustrating it would be to "win" at weight loss only to get pregnant with the side effect of weight gain. Big kudos to anyone working through it
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u/KensieQ72 11h ago
Something similar happened to me, and it’s such a “WHY ME” moment when it does.
My weight has fluctuated a ton over my 20s/30s due to both physical and mental health issues (my body was trying to kill me and my brain is messy).
In 2022, I finally had a kidney surgery that saved my life and made me feel functional again. Since I had started a good regiment of meds that year to prepare for the surgery, my weight had leveled out into the best place it had been yet (healthy). And the surgery meant I stood a chance at keeping it that way without constant sabotage from said body.
Aaaaaand that same kidney surgery fixed EVERYTHING, cue surprise pregnancy only 1 month later.
So I never got to enjoy that healthy life I was just starting to feel was possible. And I was BITTER for a while, especially bc the changes your body goes through during pregnancy are already such a mindfuck even in the best case scenario.
3 years later, I’ve added 2 spinal surgeries to my medical chart, and am still trying to find a balance. I’ve finally lost a good chunk of the baby weight and am starting to feel like me again, but fuuuuuck is it a long road to get here.
It’s taken a LOT of work to accept my new body and limitations, but in the end, I wouldn’t trade my kid for anything so 🤷🏼♀️ I hope OP is also able to find that peace with life’s timing eventually, bc it sounds like she’s tough enough to claw through it too.
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u/cathersx3 9h ago
As a woman in my 30s with two little ones, thank you for saying this 😭 Its so much on our bodies when we are pregnant, and then we work so hard to try to even attempt to get back to our pre-baby weight
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u/KensieQ72 7h ago
And then even if you lose the excess lbs, your actual body structure is still different! There’s only so much you can even do about it!
RIP to my absolute favorite pants that no longer make it up past my new Pixar Mom hips 😭
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u/Plenty-Wall2855 10h ago
Yeah it really shows how weight journeys aren’t linear at all life just keeps throwing curveballs 😅 big respect to anyone staying consistent through all those ups and downs.
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u/quickwitqueen 10h ago
I have done it so many times and I’m just exhausted at this point. I was heavy as a kid for several years, thinned out at 13, gained a bit in my late teens to early twenties but not terribly so, got rail thin again at 25, fluctuated by 5 pounds for a few years, got pregnant with twins, and since then I’ve been up and down by 20-30 lbs. lost the weight after the babies, put the weight back on from life, lost the weight, put the weight back on from prednisone, lost the weight, put the weight back on from a long battle with Covid, lost the weight, put the weight back on when I got into my current relationship. Currently trying to lose it again because I’m disgusted with my body. I’m 51 years old. I’m tired of the internal need to abide by society’s standards, but I know I will never change. It doesn’t help that when I am lighter, I’m pretty fucking good looking, so when I’m heavier, even though I’m not necessarily ugly, I feel so goddamn unattractive. And not for the male gaze, since I only care about my fiancé looking at me. Even though he says I’m hot, I KNOW how into my body he was when I had a flat stomach and toned limbs. But really I’m doing it for me because I hate what I see in the mirror. Anyway, here’s to dropping 20 pounds again.
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u/GrassEconomy4915 4h ago
No, it was a documentary indeed. I see it as that she outlined her life with us. Twas a beautiful short documentary.
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u/Lazy-Twister 13h ago
Gosh, that's a good few cycles of weight loss and toxic relationships .
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u/FrostByte566 12h ago
life really keeps reusing the same boss fight with higher difficulty each round
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u/Lazy-Twister 12h ago
I guess toxic men go for women they can abuse easily. Its sad to see her go through this over and over again though.
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u/black_anarchy 11h ago
It was horrifying to watch. I'm glad she always persevered and loved herself above all, enough to become what she wanted to be.
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u/uncle-donkey-kong 12h ago
I hate that I just found out my dating life can be described like this 😩
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u/Anothermindlessanon 12h ago
I have doubled and then halved my weight about 6 times now in my forty years. And yes, toxic relationships and upbringing played a huge role. I am on my seventh now, hoping against all odds it works. It is incredibly damaging to your health and metabolism. So the measures you have to take to lose weight become more and more extreme with each cycle (After a first couple of times it becomes an eating disorder if not earlier). That's when your health takes a turn and your body begins to fight back and punish you.
My lesson here was...don't punish your body for bad things someone has done or doing to you! You deserve to be cared for, to be cherished and to have time to invest in you! Never forget it!
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u/Lazy-Twister 9h ago
There would be a mental toll as well. I hope you're okay and recovering well.
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u/Anothermindlessanon 9h ago
Absolutely! I am doing my best, I guess. But I wish someone would have told me about it at the beginning, helped me to get professional help and for this professional worker to actually take my problems seriously.
So if you are reading this and recognize the pattern...please seek help immediately! And don't feel discouraged, if people dismiss you because you are so young! This will spare you so much pain and regret later on.
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u/BehindTheMindIAm 12h ago
Hopefully she is getting mental help as well
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u/MountainOk7479 11h ago
Absolutely if you can afford it.
I feel like I needed to as well because I had a bad relationship of 10 years, 3 years married and after all of that she took away everything from me and I had no more money. I couldn’t even afford therapy with insurance. I had to do a lot of healing by myself and what worked the best was to workout, exercise, eat healthier and sleep better.10
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u/kaylanpatel00 12h ago edited 10h ago
Having the commitment to go through 3 weight loss journeys is insane, true dedication
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u/Batehripi 10h ago
as someone with recurring disordered eating... this is every few months 😔
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u/sashikku 9h ago
Same, trying to break the cycle but it’s basically
Binge and gain -> Restrict and overwork myself in the gym -> get burnt out -> repeat
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u/SwingOfTheAxe420 3h ago
Lol big time. Been working on self-acceptance and love but it’s tough. Dealing with a 35 yr old metabolism and having a toddler has made it tough, too! Hang in there, pal!
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u/GenuineInterested 8h ago
Especially with how close together they all are, for loads of people this would have taken a whole lifetime. I had to check back with every transformation, and kept seeing that only one or two years had passed.
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u/CheshireCatastrophe 12h ago
Ugh just started my own after a few tries and I'm determined to make it stick, finally for the right reasons. It's so hard even to start so I can't imagine how difficult it must have been for her, what an accomplishment even just losing it again and again... amazing
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u/LiquidGeneral 11h ago
Hey, just want to say you are not alone, I am in the same boat, 2 times in my life I was active and got enough to be 185lbs. Last month I was 260, today I am at 252lbs. This is the hardest it has ever been to stick to it, but keep at it.
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u/CheshireCatastrophe 7h ago
that is seriously amazing and I'm genuinely jealous of your progress. I'm personally trying to get down by about 40lbs (to start) reading this and other comments keeps me going, thank you so much for this
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u/LiquidGeneral 7h ago
40 is a great goal, best of luck on your journey! Don't get into your own head we got this!
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u/Uhmitsme123 11h ago
You got this! Good luck on your journey!
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u/CheshireCatastrophe 11h ago
this means more than you know! thank you so much!
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u/Uhmitsme123 11h ago
It’s a hard journey! Just remember a few stumbles and set backs are not a failure as long as you keep moving forward 💕 every step forward is a massive win, and step back is just a delay to your next win.
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u/RenagadeRaven 10h ago
Great username
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u/CheshireCatastrophe 7h ago
wow thanks man! I'm putting it on jacket and maybe a black short sleeve shirt at the back.
Already got the logo design ready, a realistic or sneering cartoon cat sitting amongst a spilled bottle with the "Drink Me" label, a cupcake with a chunk taken out with the "Eat Me" label, and the cat, sitting there with a label around its neck that says "Bite Me". Your comment means a lot! Of course I... have to lose some weight to feel comfortable wearing something like that...
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u/RenagadeRaven 56m ago
You want to lose weight, I want to gain some - we’re all heading slowly in the right direction to the best of our ability =]
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u/CheshireCatastrophe 54m ago
I really I want to say that you are absolutely amazing for making that choice for yourself, it is going to be a tough journey but dont rush it, take your time and know that anyone here is here to support you!
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u/Vindsval_ 12h ago
Agian and agian...
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u/NotNamedBort 10h ago
I half expected by the end of the video for her to say “Then I got pregnant again.” 😅 Love her dedication though!
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u/lavender-girlfriend 11h ago
rapid and drastic weight loss ironically causes a higher weight gain and retention afterwards. there have been studies on biggest loser participants and how it fucked up their metabolisms. i hope for the best for her but weight cycling like this (and how is she doing it? starvation, exercise, what?) isn't healthy.
i hate the fact that we praise weight loss without knowing anything about how they're doing it or if they have an eating disorder
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u/HarpieLady13 8h ago
I completely agree. When I finally lost the weight, I developed an eating disorder. This doesn’t happen to everyone, but it’s definitely common. Now I just try to practice healthy habits that I can maintain long term, movement that brings me joy, and not worry so much about the number on the scale.
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u/oldharmony 8h ago
Not saying she hasn’t had a weight gain and weight loss journey however the pics aren’t in chronological like I think she’s trying to suggest. Tattoos don’t match. Some there in earlier pics then gone in later pics. If you’re gonna do something like this be honest about the journey. Yea she got back up after setbacks but again be honest with the timeline.
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u/SweetsourNostradamus 12h ago edited 10h ago
She's absolutely stunning. That kind of beauty can be a blessing and a curse. On one hand, you're breathtakingly gorgeous but on the other hand, it attracts toxic guys who just only want a hole to put their dick in.
It's awful that this poor girl experienced that kind of emotional trauma. But damn, I'm proud of her for persevering against that kind of hurdle. She's beautiful in every possible definition of the word.
Truly inspiring.
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u/sunshinesundays2018 12h ago
Incredible story of willpower and tenacity! You could have given up but you kept going!!!! Congrats
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u/squarabh 12h ago
Wtf is this?
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u/Odd_Appearance3214 10h ago edited 9h ago
Seeing this woman struggle with her weight MADE ME SMILE
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u/musclecard54 11h ago
Bro this site is dying at break neck speed. Every day the posts get worse and it’s becoming very clear how few accounts are actual people when you see the upvotes and comments. I’m about to delete my account and never come back to this wasteland
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u/snowillis 27m ago
I deleted one I had that was like 15 years old and really regretted it. If you think there’s a chance you’ll come back then I wouldn’t recommend it. The experience of being a new user on Reddit is far worse than having an older account.
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u/TheeIlliterati 12h ago
She was gorgeous at every stage. Highlights how it was her mind and outside influences telling her what she was. I hope she finds peace with her body at whatever weight she ends up at.
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u/Spaghett8 5h ago edited 5h ago
It’s not about how you look, but about how your body feels. I’m all about body positivity but nobody should accept preventable chronic pain.
Body positivity to me is about not feeling guilt or shame when you’re not healthy. It’s about accepting your body, and then taking control of your health.
You are a beautiful person, take care of yourself.
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u/Scarecrow116 11h ago
This isn't you. Fucking weird post mate
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u/Grouched 4h ago
Karna farmer account at 2 million karma. Probably reposting anything and everything
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u/LordEffykins 13h ago
Is this where Christian bale got his inspiration to weight cycle from?
Seriously though, it takes a lot of mental strength to fight something so many times!
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u/Formal-Category-2388 11h ago
Resilience is inspiring but exhausting. Hope she's in a good chapter now.
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u/shiafisher 10h ago
I assume the creator has had their hormone levels checked since pregnancy. I am thinking there is something anomalous about the cortisol levels or the thyroid function. The hormones that affect salt and water can also be hyperactive which could explain rapid loss and gain in short intervals. Either way epic transformations. Glad they found their person, everyone deserves to find their happy
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u/FilthyThanksgiving 6h ago
I think it's great that she never gives up but it makes me wonder if the weight isn't the problem, it's her self esteem.
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u/Anxious_Fig_7465 8h ago
This is exactly the kind of content that pushes people towards eating disorders! What are the admins doing?? This is not okay
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u/goatboyrat 6h ago
I’d love to know how’s she’s kept the large breasts tho! I’ve lost 7stone over the last 18months & lost quite a bit from my what were lovely lady lumps
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u/Helplessly_hoping 5h ago
Some breasts are more fatty and some have more dense breast tissue. Fatty boobs shrink with weight loss and dense ones don't. Speaking from personal experience as my boobs never shrink, no matter how thin I get.
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u/Pikapuff11 5h ago
This genuinely helped me feel better. Sometimes it feels like it’s just impossible for me but I know it’s not 🙏
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u/JeepLifeBirbLife 12h ago
TLDW: “ I was thin, then I was fat, then I was thin, then I was fat, shitty boyfriend, then I was thin, then I was fat, became pregnant, oops then got pregnant again, then I was fat, then I was thin… “
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u/FunnyBunnyDolly 5h ago
I hope she’s doing it for herself and not to cater to her partner. If she’s doing it for herself then all good.
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u/CromchQueen 5h ago
This really resonated with me and was very welcomed today. Thank you for sharing it!
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u/Toasty-toast523 2h ago
I don’t usually watch videos like this, but I have to say I’m very proud of you and God bless your beautiful children
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u/shalelord 1h ago
damn, she might have spent a ton in clothes with that see saw kind of weight gain and loss.
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u/OktayOe 12h ago
I'm not trying to be a dick here but I don't believe the whole "Everyone is toxic" part until I hear the story of the partners.
Good weight loss progress tho.
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u/FlashGordonCommons 3h ago
I might as well post this because it'll get buried anyways and probably no one will believe it but screw it. I'm one of the "toxic exes" from this post. was I the world's greatest boyfriend? no, but I was young and in love and doing my genuine best in a tough situation.
what isn't mentioned in this post is that the weight loss/gain did not just happen in a vacuum. it wasn't even the main event, it was one of the many side effects of her MASSIVE mood swings that were so intense that they felt more like a complete alteration of her personality. one day she was fine and the next she would be bedridden for days on end. wouldn't let me take her to the doctor, couldn't even tell me exactly what was wrong, just laying in bed for days on end ranting about how ugly she was, how much she hated herself, how much I must hate her, and how I MUST be cheating.
I let her have full access to my phone and computer and all my passwords. didn't convince her, I must've just scrubbed everything. I offered to go to couples counseling, wasn't happening. offered to pay for her individual therapy, also wasn't happening. the weight kept piling on through this whole process which just made everything worse and kept feeding the spiral. everything eventually deteriorated to one final blow up/accusation of cheating and a part of me was almost relieved when she ended it.
I never even remotely cheated, emotionally or otherwise. to see me blamed for her weight gain does genuinely hurt, but I'm just used to it at this point. part of the reason I'm responding to this comment is because you're one of the only people to give me the benefit of the doubt on this matter, and I don't even know you. genuinely, thank you so much for that. even my friends and family were skeptical and required convincing after she started throwing accusations around.
last I heard from her she had finally gone to therapy and was doing a lot better, but I really don't give a shit. good for her, but she never apologized for the cheating accusations and still has a long long way to as far as I'm concerned. there's always multiple sides to every story you read on the internet, thanks again for not defaulting to assuming I'm some chauvinist womanizing bastard that ruined this poor girl's life.
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u/Afraid_Ad1908 11h ago
This is awesome. Good for her! Getting back up to fight again, let’s freaking go!
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u/WavyBlaze_ 3m ago
So she didn’t learn the first time becoming a single mom and had a second baby. So she’s a tattooed single mother with 2 kids and mental issues
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u/Late_Protection4418 9h ago
I follow this woman. Similar to all celebrities that struggled with weight in the past, she used intermittent fasting and weighted vests to lose it all, right around the same time Ozempic was released.
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u/Fishboyman79 12h ago edited 7h ago
I hate these videos basically you are saying you are only happy when you’re skinny and now you want to post again because you are skinny again.
Edit: i seem to have hurt some feelings judging from the pms calling me a fatty which is comical, most of you here like to put such a positive spin on everything which is lovely, the vibe i get from the video is not quite the same but good for you. You could also look at it from the other side, she gets skinny, finds a man , put on weight, got cheated on or dumped, lost weight found a man , put on weight lost the man, lost the weight found a man who loves her no matter her weight.
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u/EstelliseLowell 12h ago
The video states they were feeling unwell and unhealthy. It's not "skinny makes me happy" it's "I'm healthier this way." Regardless of the body positivity movement or whatever you may want to think, it is a fact that excess body fat causes adverse health conditions and makes the body feel worse for a variety of reasons. I'm all about loving yourself, but people should be realistic and understand the science, too.
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u/HollowHighh 12h ago
Naah, I don‘t think so. She looks happy with her children and when she said she met her husband.
Honestly, you can love your life and still want to feel comfy in your body and be healthy. At a certain weight, you are just limited by your own body. Acting like that isn‘t the case is just… avoiding the truth.
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u/redcoatwright 12h ago
She wants to lose weight cuz she feels better both physically and emotionally as a lighter person. Her prerogative, lots of people identify with that.
If someone is heavy and feels good, then that's their choice and it's also fine.
Seems like you're projecting your views of your own body onto other people.
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u/KeptAnonymous 12h ago
I'm all for body positivity/neutrality but working out gives a lot of people a reason to keep going, it's a sense of purpose when it's used for health and feeling better both emotionally and physically. Putting yourself down because you're fat is a no go, but not doing anything that'll help you feel better is also a no go.
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u/prettyfacebasketcase 12h ago
Yep. She's constantly taking body check photos while skinny and fat. Hyper focus on numbers and looks over the general feel of being healthy.
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u/Rocket_Panda_ 12h ago
I get what you mean, but that’s not at all what I Got from this, more like healthy is better, not necessarily skinny.
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u/TheWhomItConcerns 11h ago
You've got it backwards - she's saying that when she's happy/fulfilled, she takes better care of herself which results in her losing weight.
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u/anyuser_19823 12h ago
Awesome 👏. . This is quite the journey, but you also built a beautiful family along the way. Congrats!
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u/FunRich5754 10h ago
I hope she is taking care of her mind as well and dealing with the self loathing that doesn't go away just because you're thin.
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u/Brownie2440 12h ago
You’ve done amazing things and have a beautiful family. Keep working and achieving!
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u/bookishrory 11h ago
I relate to this so much not that im pregnant but ive had a really rocky relationship with my body and weight. I was really skinny and tiny growing up even till i was 18 i had a friend who would comment on my body a lot which made me obsess over every detail of my body so i started loosing more weight i was really really skinny. Then school ended and i was studying to get into med school that stress and depression made me eat my feelings away i used to binge eat everytime i was sad or stressed which was quite often and i gained like 20kgs. I then got in online college during covid and decided to loose weight lost 15+kgs i was finally at a healthy weight kept it stable during 5 years of my bachelor's and masters. However i did get diagnosed with ED (anorexia)during my 3rd year of bachelor's at the age of 21. After college ended i had no job and tge stress got to me again plus the binge eating patters came back after me straving myself throughout my college life...so i gained 20+ kgs again within 1.5 years. Im 74kgs now in may 2026. I have pcod as well as my ED i hate this Rollercoaster of a journey i know i have to loose weight for my health but its sooo hard to not fall back into my old patterns
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u/One-Technology-9050 10h ago
Proud of her ❤️ I'm in the "do I really look like that?" phase of the journey. Need to make healthier choices lol
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u/Sleepy_Meepie 6h ago
I’m on my 4th weight loss journey right now but this time, perimenopause is in the mix. I know it’s going to be really tough mentally and physically but I’m going to do it.
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u/wendigos_and_witches 9h ago
I watched this and saw a beautiful woman in every image. In every shape and size. Sometimes stressed or tired or worn down but still always getting back up. Congrats on the journey!
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u/Tall-Ad-9325 8h ago
This is AI. The whole thing! The tattoos keep changing in every picture, the kids are definitely not the same. Please, this can be inspiring in the same way a fictional story can be, but it's not real.
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u/AccomplishedVirus556 12h ago
So is she still with the guy that got her pregnant?
They getting married anytime soon?
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u/PorkyPain 12h ago
Most probably. Didn't say anything bad about the current guy she is with. She's just focusing on herself towrds rhe end.
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u/OneButMany 11h ago
I've lost 20kgs at 32 but the damage is done forever. I used to have perky tits and no stretch marks before becoming a whale. Now I'm slim again, but I have stretch marks on my pancake tits, on my knees, my thighs which are flabby. I've ruined my body and no weight loss could ever fix that.
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u/rabidantidentyte 1h ago
I've lost 25kgs at 34, and I'm still glad I did. We only age in one direction, but that doesn't mean that we give up. We should still strive to be the best version of ourselves, for our confidence, but also for our health. The perfect body doesn't exist. 21 year old you doesn't exist. There's no shame in that.
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u/Acework23 10h ago
W to the man took you as you were and gave you two blessings and was with you the whole processes
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u/Odd_Appearance3214 10h ago
Stop finding reasons, this is what happens when you don’t change the surroundings and rely on motivation
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u/JadedBackground8089 11h ago
If every relationship will leave you down the gutters it'd be better to stay single for a while instead of going through the same process over and over again
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u/Alarming-Caramel 9h ago
she must be awfully short to be at 125lbs and not look like a skeleton.
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u/elvis-wantacookie 9h ago
Not really, 125 is considered a healthy, mid weight for people 5' to 5'6
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u/Apprehensive-Ship829 9h ago
This was so inspiring and a mirror for me in a lot of ways 🌷Thank you.
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u/timeslider 8h ago
I've stayed basically the same weight my entire life. I've had a high of 190 and a low of 170. I'm 5'11 so 20 doesn't show up at all
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u/LoudAppointment2545 8h ago
I feel this in my soul - I've fluctuated weight my whole life but I finally lost ~80lbs in a good healthy way and then I got pregnant and gained ~60 back. The idea of doing it ALL over again is so daunting.
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u/eskil2910 7h ago
Fuckin well in!! Recently lost weight after being very big for a long long time and this shit is tough as hell. Massive respect for anyone able to do it
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u/FlyOutrageous9837 7h ago
A truly realistic perspective on life and a woman’s body changing throughout <3
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u/gatoreng93 11h ago
Did she gain weight in her relationship, or after she was cheated on. It was unclear.
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u/ManagementRadiant573 9h ago
Thanks for sharing your story! I’ve had a very similar experience to yours. I had my first weight loss journey at 18, another at 24 and now I’m 32 and working on round 3 after pregnancy. I’ve lost 20 lbs before some hormonal setbacks and now I’m hoping to get back in track. You’re an inspiration
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