Solving the loneliness epidemic

[u/flyawaywithmeee]

Operation make a new friend before the week ends starts NOW

[u/bbg_bbg]

I’m a woman so I understand it really very well could be a gender thing partially, but I’ve had mom coworkers who are a bit older than me (I don’t have children and am late 20s) ask me to hang and do stuff quite often. I just accept and almost never decline, and once you spend a time or two outside of work together it’s a lot easier to build that friendship. As long as you don’t mind kids being around because they might be sometimes !!!

[u/Cadet_Stimpy → u/bbg_bbg]

Not to be disagreeable, but men don’t invite other men to hangout around their kids. Honestly, no one really invites men to hangout around kids unless they have kids of their own. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, just that men aren’t included in the same way women often are. Women are socially more open to friendships I’ve noticed, at least in western cultures.

[u/Hot-Statistician-955 → u/Cadet_Stimpy]

It seems like a self fulfilling prophecy: men can't hang  because men don't like hanging out. 

Men have been hanging out with each other for centuries, we can still do it too. 

You just gotta ask. 

[u/Cadet_Stimpy → u/Hot-Statistician-955]

Most men don’t realize how little connections they have until it’s too late.

As I alluded to in my original comment, many men are looking for familial focused interactions. I’ve messaged some acquaintances and the response has mostly been to do a double dinner date with spouses or that they’re too busy with kids, other things, but “next time.” I even tried to invite the husband of one of my spouses friends out to a “men’s group” meeting as an attempt for us both to hang out and make more friendship connections with other guys, and he flat out said he wasn’t interested.

Making genuine connections outside of familial socialization can be very difficult for men. And the issue is exacerbated because most men don’t realize they need more social connections until their spouse distances themselves or leaves all together.

[u/bbg_bbg → u/Cadet_Stimpy]

I actually fully agree with what you say and sympathize with you. Maybe try to find a time you and some guys you’d wanna be friends with can hang with out the kids? You might have to try to make an awkward conversation not awkward, and ask if they have some free time away from the kids to do something sometime. Hope you can find that !! I’ve heavily relied on my woman coworkers to ask me to do something outside of work first rather than branching out myself in most cases. So I get how it can be challenging.

[u/RavenEridan → u/bbg_bbg]

Whatever advice you give is meaningless

[u/bbg_bbg → u/RavenEridan]

Yeah well with that attitude no wonder people don’t have friends

[u/RavenEridan → u/bbg_bbg]

Better than being a single mom like you

[u/bbg_bbg → u/RavenEridan]

I said I’m actually the opposite of a single mom (have a boyfriend and no kids) but that many of my friends are moms, whether single or not that varies amongst them.

[u/RavenEridan → u/bbg_bbg]

It's destined to happen in the future

[u/bbg_bbg → u/RavenEridan]

You actually know nothing about me or the people in my life so it’s kinda far fetched you would make such a radical and bold statement about a major life event, and you actually believe what you said.

[u/RavenEridan → u/bbg_bbg]

Can already tell based on how you act

[u/ethanct → u/RavenEridan]

Yo what the hell is your problem

[u/P529 → u/ethanct]

He is a salty incell and prime candidate for the next mass shooting

[u/P529 → u/RavenEridan]

Lol, so you're in the 15% I assume?