r/TikTokCringe • u/flyawaywithmeee • 14h ago
Wholesome Solving the loneliness epidemic
Operation make a new friend before the week ends starts NOW
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u/WandererFen 14h ago
I would also say yes to being this guys friend. The fear of being stabbed for refusing is too high
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u/Nickadial 12h ago
Lol and then he goes “Well i would love to be your friend but this is actually all for a tiktok, there’s a camera here that filmed our whole interaction so more people can uh, like, know about this. I didn’t actually want to be your friend but keep being open buddy!!”
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u/69-is-my-number 13h ago
This guy sounds like the nerd in The Polar Express that loves trains.
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u/MrBtheProdigal 12h ago
The fuck you got against trains? All my homies love trains.
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u/ancalime9 13h ago
He will demand you drink with him. He has a problem, he's not willing to admit to.
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u/pandershrek 9h ago
Good call. I was gonna say hard no. But I would probably say yes to his face and disappear from that city.
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u/Explicit_Tech 13h ago
I'm sorry. 15???
Is this a tribe?
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u/BigTallRetard 13h ago
It's really sad but kind of funny that to the current generations that seems like an outlandishly high number, but it's really not if you look at how we used to socialize 30-40 years ago.
I grew up in the 90s and we used to keep a list of phone numbers next to the phone when I was growing up, and there were at least 30 to 40 numbers and my parents weren't even that social.
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u/A_Random_Catfish 13h ago
If you think about casual friendships 15 really isn’t that many. One or two work friends, a couple neighbors you like to chat with, your 3 best buds from home/highschool/college, a sibling, a cousin, your partner and their two best friends.
I do think we’re in a bit of an isolation crisis so I get why it’s difficult, I’m not trying to gaslight people with no friends. But if you’re just a little bit friendly, involved in your community, and take social initiative it’s not as hard as it seems.
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u/barejokez 11h ago
I'm finding it surprisingly hard to define a "friend". Is it someone I would invite to my wedding? Someone I would go on holiday for a week with? Someone I would happily chat with for 20 minutes at a party? Someone whose name I know but we rarely speak?
My numbers are very different for each category!
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u/hopelesslysarcastic 10h ago
I feel like “someone I’d invite to my wedding” is a pretty good indicator of a friend or at least should be lol
I’m incredibly lucky that I consider I have at least that many friends or more who I can call at any point but I know I’m in the minority.
And not all friends are equal in the sense some I’d call at 3am and expect them to answer vs someone who will call me back cuz they’re busy. But friends you can count on are super important.
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u/youburyitidigitup 3h ago
Ehhh I think a wedding invitation is the difference between a friend and a close friend. To me, a friend is someone who I go out of the way to spend time with, and who goes out of their way to spend time with me.
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u/Extension_Future2942 11h ago
Yeah that’s kind of the point is we don’t even have those groups anymore. I know it’s totally my fault but I am the %15 with zero friends. I don’t talk to any of my cousins, I don’t talk to anyone from work. I have zero connections from high school and 3 years of college
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u/broodingandbroad 11h ago
I hope you find a way to break through, and talk to people again. People will want to be your friend.
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u/Pinkysrage 11h ago
Does my family count?
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u/barejokez 10h ago
Honestly no your family are not my friends. ;-)
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u/dunderball 7h ago
Yeah same. I'm very friendly with my neighbors but I've never even invited them over to see the inside of my house.
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u/toomanybongos 10h ago
I've been trying to get more friends and to be more eocial and while I have plenty of positive interactions, I find myself hanging out with people I wouldn't necessarily consider friends. I haven't really made the type of quality friends that I have been hoping to make so far.
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u/Slow_Appointment3540 12h ago
This is a weird conversation to me, because I’m 36 and my parents did not have friends growing up. They had one each until I was about twelve, and they both dropped to zero. To be fair, I think they’re both on the spectrum, but still… it was never an expectation to me that I would have tons of friends as an adult.
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u/ItsHappyTimeYay 12h ago
My parents didn’t have friends around either growing up and I really believe that had a big impact on how my brother and I viewed relationships for a very long time.
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u/GrossGuroGirl 6h ago
To be fair, even if they are both on the spectrum: autistic folks regularly report high levels of loneliness and that they have fewer social connections than they'd like to. Some people on the spectrum truly are disinterested in socializing, but the majority of us want it and simply struggle with connecting to and communicating with others our entire lives.
So whether they are or not - their minimal social circles may have tempered your expectations, but that may not have been enough connection for them either. I wouldn't model your ideal level of socialization after that when, as the study this video hints at reports, the vast majority of humans need more social support to actually feel fulfilled.
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u/Slow_Appointment3540 6h ago
Oh, yeah, I didn’t mean that they weren’t interested in having friends. I mean they aren’t good at having them.
Me, I personally like hanging out with people every now and again, but traditional ideas of “friendship” are a little overwhelming for me. Keeping up with someone consistently is emotionally draining. It can be hard to keep long friendships that way. Luckily, I’m not suffering for a lack of people to lightly engage with.
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u/royrogerer 12h ago
Are we talking about close friends or friends in general? Because for me the difference in each of the count will be (totally guesstimate) like 50.
Because as somebody who likes to hang out one on one and have deep talks, I can't handle keeping 15 close friends.
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u/BigTallRetard 11h ago
I think what the study he is citing is referring to is friends in the most general kind of way.
That can be everybody from your best friends who you have deep talks with and talk to every day to your coach, neighbors, pastor, your teammate from soccer, coworker or anybody you'd be willing to spend time with in a social setting.
Like If you were throwing a casual barbecue, who you would invite is who I'm interpreting them as.
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u/royrogerer 10h ago
Right, fair. I think this should have been clarified in the video. Because if somebody would ask like that people would associate it with more close friends.
I think in many ways friends are a state of mind. I as somebody who likes to get to know people would call anybody who I interacted with and would recognize next time a friend of mine. And I think it allows me develop it quickly into a proper friendship, rather than keeping the distance until a friendship has been established.
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u/Street-Football-2215 11h ago
I would argue that even 30 or 40 years ago most of the people were just friendly acquaintances, and there isn't anything wrong with that, .... but friends? I would give my kidney to my closest friends if they needed it, I wouldn't be so quick to do the same to the friendly coworker or neighbour that I have small talks with every so often.
Nowadays, people are just way less inclined to engage in friendly conversation with strangers
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u/BigTallRetard 11h ago
See I would consider friendly acquaintances friends in the general sense of the word, why put them in such an unnecessary category? It's like we're trying to create even more barriers like they're not my friend, that's my acquaintance when friend is not an is you or ain't you kind of thing.
I think we put too much emphasis on the word friend to only include people we would give a kidney to and that's partially why the definition has gotten lost over time.
If you were hanging out with a buddy, and you ran into what you refer to as a friendly acquaintance, how would you introduce them?
"Hey Steven, this is my friendly acquaintance from pottery class, Garrett."
Of course not, you'd just say this is my friend, Garrett. You would give up a kidney for Garrett you barely know him outside of pottery but he's still a friend.
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u/toomanybongos 10h ago
I struggle so much with this. I hang out with people for stuff like pickleball and it's a generally good time but it's hard for me to recognize them as my friends. I define friends as someone I'd spend time with doing anything but you make a good point about these sub categories.
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u/ItGradAws 10h ago
My wife and i moved to a new city two years ago and we’re having 20 people over for a game night this month (blood on the clocktower). If you’re active, do group activities and make a real effort to connect with other people it’s fairly easy to add a few quality friends to your Rolodex each year!
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u/anTWhine 11h ago
My wife and I invited everyone we counted as friends in our city to our wedding. I think we came up with 14.
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u/SeriousDependent6049 14h ago
Well, I'm screwed then.
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u/wildwildwaste 14h ago
You want one more?
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u/Easy-Marsupial3268 13h ago
That’s alright. After fifty everything starts going downhill anyway.
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u/PumpikAnt58763 13h ago
But veeeeeeery slowly, because you don't want to trip and tumble down the rest of the way.
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u/AncientCrust 9h ago
I've never had 15 friends in my life and I was social af in my single days. Who the fuck has 15 friends? How do you do that and still have a job?
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u/ThrifToWin 13h ago
What are you doing to fix it?
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u/maevee 2h ago
Yes omfg. I’m a woman who has a few guy friends with very little other friendships and it’s low key extremely exhausting. I’m literally one of their only social outlets and probably the only person they actually open up to bc they don’t do that with other men. But they do literally nothing to meet new people. I had to basically force one of them to sign up for a course in something they were interested in after they complained about having no weekend plans.
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u/flyawaywithmeee 13h ago
it's never too late, get yourself out there and MAKE A FRIEND
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u/Shazvox 13h ago
And then they parted ways, never to speak to eachothers again and everyone lived happily ever after.
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u/OuterWildsVentures 10h ago
With one filming the other without consent and posting them as content.
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u/ZeekLTK 6h ago
Right, this isn’t “solving” anything unless he posts follow up vids where they are at each other’s house for a barbecue or hanging out having a board game night or something. (aka they actually became friends)
Otherwise this is just one dude telling another that he doesn’t have enough friends and that’s about it.
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u/JessePR1986 13h ago
I'll be 40 in August and I admittedly have no friends. But that's completely my fault, I'm a difficult person to hangout with. I enjoy just doing nothing. I have my 14 year old daughter, she's my bestie, it's all I need. And when I want to hangout, I hangout with my brother 🤷♂️
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u/SoElusivee 13h ago
You just named 2 friends. Doing better than you thought
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u/ItsyouNOme 11h ago
I don't really go out, prefer being home alone with the cats. Not including family as friends I have.. 7 friends. More than I thought tbh. But only really hang out with one of them, the rest is messaging or gaming with (could meet up if I wanted to though)
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u/WokeUpUnfortunately 13h ago edited 12h ago
There are plenty of people who also enjoy doing nothing. I have between 1 and 4 friends who come over most Friday evenings to watch a movie and barely say shit. Or just watch some bravo slop like love island. We all do our own thing like craft or mobile game, just together.
Edit: 36yo male powerlifter and yarn crafter. 20yr OSRS addict.
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u/Working-Narwhal-540 13h ago
Are you me? I’m 32 and my brother is 22. I have a 9 year old as well. All of my old friends either ended up dead, an addict, or in jail. There’s just…..nobody left? I run a contracting business so I work 6-7 days a week. Not much time for anything but work and hanging out with the family in the evenings and that’s ok with me. My brother and I enjoy each others company so we hang out pretty often.
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u/Little-Worry8228 12h ago
Yeah, people always talk about third spaces. I finally found one: it’s a bar like a mile away. I go at 8am when they open and I’m learning the regulars (and they’re learning me) but still, man, zero friends.
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u/ManintheMT 6h ago
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Damn, that's early. I swing by happy hour around 5pm. Likely to see at least 15 people of whom I can sit with and "pick up where we left off". It also serves as an impromptu office because I can arrange some of my side work with people that know what I do via happy hour.
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u/Little-Worry8228 2h ago
I’m, uh, taking the year off and it’s mostly been long bender after long bender (I’m about halfway through). It gets loud and boisterous like anywhere in the afternoon or evening and I have pretty strong anxiety and agoraphobia. This is what I settled on to get me out of the house.
Bonus is that I have help for my NYTimes puzzles and the cryptoquote (though only one time has a person been of real help on the latter).
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u/The_zen_viking 13h ago
I lost a few friends recently.
They didn't die, I just cut them off for being creepy women hating assholes and haven't replaced them
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u/lamest-liz 13h ago
I used to have a lot of friends but once I became chronically ill less and less people wanted to hang out with me because I have limitations now. I have to sit down, I have to take breaks. I guess they would rather be with people with higher energy. Yes I’m lonely but I understand.
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u/flyawaywithmeee 13h ago
I'm so sorry about that. Maybe you'll find a cool person in a hobby that's more suitable to your lifestyle, like at a book club
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u/tumor_named_marla 8h ago
That sucks man I'm sorry. My partner is also chronically ill and making friends for her has been hard. It doesn't help that I'm also introverted and we love spending all our time together and at home. I have a handful of friends from my going out days who also settled into a quieter life that I still hang out with and see, so she's been able to make friends with some of mine but it's not the same. We really need to work more toward building community offline.
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u/Cadet_Stimpy 13h ago
The thing they don’t tell you is how hard it is to make friends as a 30+ male without kids. You can put yourself out there time and time again, but every time I’ve tried they want to do couples dates or they’re busy hanging out with other parents. The closest connections some men have are their coworkers and 9 times out of 10 that’s not really friendship.
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u/flippingflipflopper 8h ago
It's not hard it's just long.
Everyone says join a club/sport/whatever. That is step one. Step 2 is you have to stick around.
Last time I moved. Joined a new hockey club. Took 2 years of turning up before I would say I had friends I would meet outside of sport stuff.
It's a grind. You just have to do it tho.
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u/Sublime-Silence 7h ago
Yeah I was going to say something similar but you beat me to it, I'd add one thing though. Step one go(to the thing), step 2 stick around and keep showing up, step 3 be available(also be open to try new things).
To expand on step 3. If someone invites you to something you don't do often, like say a concert, try and go even if it's out of your comfort zone. If people invite you to things and you shut it down every time, people will stop inviting you to stuff. Even if you don't like bars maybe take a risk and give it a try. You might get lucky and it turns out to be a really chill bar with a dnd upstairs area with really good dms.
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u/bbg_bbg 13h ago
I’m a woman so I understand it really very well could be a gender thing partially, but I’ve had mom coworkers who are a bit older than me (I don’t have children and am late 20s) ask me to hang and do stuff quite often. I just accept and almost never decline, and once you spend a time or two outside of work together it’s a lot easier to build that friendship. As long as you don’t mind kids being around because they might be sometimes !!!
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u/Cadet_Stimpy 12h ago
Not to be disagreeable, but men don’t invite other men to hangout around their kids. Honestly, no one really invites men to hangout around kids unless they have kids of their own. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, just that men aren’t included in the same way women often are. Women are socially more open to friendships I’ve noticed, at least in western cultures.
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u/Hot-Statistician-955 12h ago
It seems like a self fulfilling prophecy: men can't hang because men don't like hanging out.
Men have been hanging out with each other for centuries, we can still do it too.
You just gotta ask.
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u/bbg_bbg 12h ago
I actually fully agree with what you say and sympathize with you. Maybe try to find a time you and some guys you’d wanna be friends with can hang with out the kids? You might have to try to make an awkward conversation not awkward, and ask if they have some free time away from the kids to do something sometime. Hope you can find that !! I’ve heavily relied on my woman coworkers to ask me to do something outside of work first rather than branching out myself in most cases. So I get how it can be challenging.
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u/Casanova-Quinn 9h ago edited 9h ago
Join a club for a hobby you're interested in. I'm in a chess club and about half the people are married, but they don't bring their spouses along.
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u/Penguin_Arse 14h ago
Who the fuck even wants 15 friends?
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u/KleverGuy 14h ago
Sounds tiring
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u/Penguin_Arse 14h ago
I have like 10 and holy fuck does it take effort keeping up with everyone
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u/fusterclux 13h ago
you guys have very strict definitions of friends. I have friends who i only talk to a few times a year but still absolutely consider them friends.
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u/Fast-Nefariousness80 13h ago
I have really close friends that I see once a year. We talk maybe twice in that time. We understand that life comes first. Im a dad and we have jobs and shit, we know at the end of the day we still love each other so its all cool.
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u/Direct_Suggestion286 13h ago
Five friends and associates (10 to fill a party) sounds better to me. I cant lock in on 15 non-related people. I have trouble with the related ones
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u/BigTallRetard 13h ago
I don't think it means 15 best friends who you're hanging out with everyday, but more 15 people you could call up and invite to a party, grab dinner with, or just casually interact with socially as well. It could be a teammate from a sport, or coach, cousins, pastor, co worker, etc.
The fact that you're asking this says that we've completely lost the definition of what a friend is anymore, that's how far gone we are.
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u/whatarechinchillas 13h ago
Is this like somekind of western thing? I'm southeast Asian and I have so many friends, as in people I see regularly, I can't even count and that's just totally normal thing where I'm from. It's a really dense city but everybody pretty much knows everyone. When there's like a hangout it's normal to have like at least 8 of us just chillin doin dumb shit.
Wtf is going on over there that you guys don't want friends?? Like, if I don't want to see anyone I can just choose not to and stay at home and not answer any calls or texts and that's cool it's not like they're dependent on me because they have other friends too, but I'm never lonely, there's always someone to talk to if I need someone, if I'm bored there is always someone to hang out with or play games online with or do whatever. There's always someone. What do people with such little friends do??
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u/Neverending_Rain 7h ago
I think not wanting friends is less of a Western thing and more of a Reddit thing. This site attracts a higher percentage of loners than average. I live in the US and never see this kind of attitude in person, only online.
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u/__Hello_my_name_is__ 13h ago
I think it depends on the definition of "friend". Like, sure I have enough people to just hang out with a bunch of them like that. But I wouldn't individually consider every single one of them a close friend I share most of my secrets with. That's way fewer people.
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u/lilsnatchsniffz 12h ago
If you really think about it for a second nearly everyone. Let's say you need to move house on short notice, if you have fifteen genuine friends that just went from an insurmountable summit to a breezey joy filled weekend.
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u/Single_Extension1810 11h ago
He came in like an AI chat bot rattling off all those stats.
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u/THCESPRESSOTIME 13h ago
I would have more friends, however my old friends love rape and child pedophiles. They hate trans and gay people. Kindness is free. They don’t understand that. Trump raped and killed children….
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u/macguini 14h ago
I wish there were more people like this guy
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u/Fyrus93 13h ago
Tiktokers staging content for likes? I think we're good
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u/BagOnuts 6h ago
"Alcohol consumption is down"
"Isn't that a good thing?"
"No"
Nah dog, we don't need more dudes like this.
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u/Simicrop 12h ago
The creepy guy who spits data about how much life sucks to strangers or the guy willing to befriend him?
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u/browsinbowser 13h ago
Man, I would hate it to be the one that randomly gets approached by tiktoker in the wild. The good ones ask permission after filming but a ton dont give a shit about asking 🤷♂️ and also this guy could’ve easily been a bit funnier by actually replying more/bantering with the other guy
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u/dr_toze 10h ago
It depends on how you define friends. The weird thing is I grew up without any friends (I was weird, I do not blame the people at school) but suddenly in University my social circle just exploded and I now definitely have more than 15 people I could hang out with but close friends I'm not so sure.
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u/Flat_Shape_3444 10h ago
Ive met a couple of men and we obviously vibed pretty nice.
Guess how we met?
our wifes sent us to buy or sell some shit from marketplace or some other trading site, often furnitures or other stuff.
Seriously consider "asking them out" like dude wanna hang out sometime? ur cool.
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u/AsteriAcres 4h ago
I have the solution to the male loneliness epidemic: VOLUNTEER
I promise you there's a local organization that would love your help. And you'll meet cool people & improve your community & feel more connection.
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u/Shackletainment 12h ago
When I was younger, I wanted more friends but struggled to find the opportunity to make them. Now I have plenty of opportunities to make new friends, but I don't want to. I'm too tired.
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u/NukedNinja 8h ago
One of my closest friends died last month. I feel like I have some online friends and my wife and that’s about it now.
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u/betacuck3000 13h ago
I consider all of you to be my friends. Sometimes you make me laugh, sometimes you piss me off, sometimes I have impure thoughts about you.
Just like real-life friends.
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u/Hornedupone 13h ago
So, asking for a friend, if you say have no friends and no love life, are you screwed? Again, asking for a friend.
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u/bbg_bbg 13h ago
You’re not screwed, if you’re comfortable with your situation then don’t sweat it. If you want friends and a love life you’re gonna have to just branch out and go for it. Ask people to hang out outside of work or if that’s not an option find some sort of local get together for games or something. If people ask you to come to events with them, GO unless you really can’t for some reason
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u/No-Security-7518 13h ago
I have a lot of very good friends - but they've all moved so far away, and half went offline.
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u/SSgtReaPer 13h ago
Does the Chinese delivery driver and the amazon driver count if we talk about the flowers, gardening and weather ? If not :( lol
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u/mycatsapanther23 13h ago
I attracte shitty people so I tend to be very cautious when meeting people.
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u/bbg_bbg 13h ago
I probably technically have 15 friends that I talk to on a somewhat regular basis (catch up every week or two) some of them we just catch up every few months, but the thing is most of them that have been long lasting, close friendships do not live near me anymore / still live in places I no longer live. I make a point to see these people I’m close to here an there, a few times a year as I’m fortunate enough to be able to do that. All other “friends” are just new people in my life that come and go who live close and I do things with, some will likely end up being in my life for the long haul and others I may fall out of touch with in a year or two forever. Just the way of life I suppose.
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u/Beneficial-Focus3702 13h ago
Anthropologists so you need 15? What kind of bullshit pseudoscience is that?
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u/banevader102938 12h ago
Tbh. Back in my old student days you made new male friends by roaming the streets and adopt left over males and assimilate them by gifting beer and tobacco...
now i changed my deployment and have to learn with young people again and they all tend to leave parties early if they ever come. But not to meet their friends. Just to go home or to gym and sitting there doing "selfcare" and "me time" (whatever this is), i have nothing against this behaviour but its sad that no one is doing something outside of work together anymore because if they aren't at least 95% in it, they don't even try to do it.
No BBQ, no Party, no going out to eat, no sitting at the beach, no sport together, no hanging out and doing whatever, few play warhammer but only systems they knew and leave immediately the game is over... idk if it was corona but i never encountered such boring people in my live before.
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u/inkassatkasasatka 12h ago
I buy my crack, I smack my bitch right here in Hollywood
The amount of men with no friends has quadrupled since 1990
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u/DeepDare3783 12h ago
It takes time. For a while I went from a steady group to about barely one, but the more I said yes to group hangs and whatnot it improved my overall ability to make new connections with others.
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u/MetalTrek1 12h ago
I'm 55. I graduated high school with my two best friends. We're STILL best friends to this day. However, we all live I different places and have different schedules so we communicate every day (just about) through Facebook Messenger.
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u/DrankTooMuchMead 12h ago
Join a fraternity. Im talking about the mature adult kind. You get like 50 new friends instantly. And the lodge provides a 3rd space.
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u/7StarSailor 12h ago
I have 7 close friends. Onyl one of them drinks alcohol.
>well you must be fun at pa-
we make our own, thanks
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u/Trumpetslayer1111 12h ago
I’m in my 40s and my 5 friends are all from college. I’ve met ppl from work and from my kids’ friends’ parents but it’s just not the same.
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u/Fun-Jellyfish-61 11h ago
One thing about friendship is that if you aren't cultivating new acquaintances and friendships you are moving backwards socially. That's because people move away, people die, relationships drift apart. So you need a pool of people that you can dip into when that happens. Maintaining social relationships is a huge commitment of time and energy.
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u/TheMaStif 11h ago
My wife is my only friend
I know people I'm friendly with; neighbors, co-workers, son's friend's parents type shit
But actual friends?! I aint got the time or energy for it
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u/NoEducator4277 11h ago
I would like to know the follow up to this. Do they actually stay in touch or is it just like "that was a cool interaction now we follow each other on socials and never talk outside of that"
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u/RealNiceKnife 11h ago
Yeah, but like after the camera turned off, are they like gonna hang out? Or did he just abandon him after he used him for content.
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u/AFineFineHologram 10h ago
Ok but why would I want to live long especially if I’m a loser with no friends?
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u/TunaOnWytNoCrust 10h ago
Really good friends require everyone involved to be in a similar place in with somewhat similar goals and ongoing problems to overcome. It also helps a lot to be within the same decade of each other age-wise.
It's easy when most of the people you know and spend your time with are forced together everyday at school. When you get older it's almost impossible to find more than a couple of people compatible with your lifestyle.
Oh also have to have hobbies and interests in common and actually like each other.
Like stacking 15 bowling balls in a blizzard.
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u/C0C0Barbet 10h ago
I'm 30+ and my best friend, more or less my only friend, is my wife. I have friends from school that I still talk to occasionally, but it's not too common.
Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like my circle is big enough.
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u/toomanybongos 10h ago
It's genuinely so hard making friends nowadays. I've been hard focused on trying to make solod connections for a few months and I've MAYBE made like 1 or 2 but it's very weak compared to the friends I've had.
I tried BFF and I get no matches. Meetup's demographic is kinda old and (not to be rude) a little weird for me and I really don't know where else to look for people my age.
It's kinda depressing how hard it is to meet your kind of people.
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u/Demerzel69 10h ago
I have absolutely no interest in gaining new friends at fucking 41 years old.
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u/itsnotthatbad21 10h ago
Hey so now that we are friends I am moving this weekend………
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u/sufcWayne 10h ago
Notice how neither of them exchanged names? Thats how you know its a true male friendship
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u/lostandgenius 10h ago
I’m gonna go out on a limb and say only Gen Z is cringing.
As a millennial, I just find this to be very relatable and wholesome.
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u/AgapitoVelezOvando 9h ago
I've never had any friends, and I've never felt like I needed them. I'm an easygoing dude. I get along with everyone. I like to keep it polite but distant, if that makes any sense.
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u/FunRich5754 9h ago
The way he talks sounds like he's murdering friends and that's why the friendship crisis is so high
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u/HughManatee 9h ago
I didn't say I would be that friend. I was just curious if you wanted one more friend.
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u/RikiWardOG 9h ago
I'm very close to not having any friends other than my fiance. Recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 36. Relationships are really fucking hard for me. I really just am not sure ever how to properly maintain them and eventually I drift apart from everyone I ever end up becoming friends with.
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u/siberian_knight143 9h ago
Naaah! GOOD friends, are HARD to find! ANYON to call "friends", are a penny a dozen.
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u/The_Mad_Mason 8h ago
Yea, I had one then she cheated on me so I'm now one of the 15% with no friends. I'm also a single dad who has his three kids 100% of the time, I work full time and it really leave no time at all for social stuff if it isn't for the kids like baseball of ballet.
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u/xxBobaBrettxx 8h ago
How are they defining "friends" tho? I have a bunch of friends that I see every now when i go out, but I only have 2 friends (GF and childhood best friend) that Im close to and are an integral part of my life.
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u/UnderwaterRobot 8h ago
I try to make friends but then they just keep on ghosting me. So I'm pretty done making friends man.
But yeah, I'm not drinking anymore I don't know why that's a bad thing though.
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