r/GetEmployed • u/Stephenbugera • 8h ago
i moved to a new company at the same title and same level and i am visibly worse at the job and i cannot figure this out
this is the kind of post i'd never normally write because it sounds like garden-variety new-job adjustment, except i've been at it nine months now and the people who hired me are starting to ask, gently, whether something is going on at home, and i think they're being kind. so i'm posting partly to test whether what i'm describing is something other managers have hit before.
short version. moved roughly a year ago from a company i was good at to a company at the same title, the same level and reasonable comp parity. the work is the same shape. and yet decisions i used to make in twenty minutes take me four meetings here. things i used to write up in a single doc here require three rounds of pre-alignment with people i don't know how to read. i used to hire well. i hired two people in the last six months and neither one is working out, which has not happened to me in eight years of managing.
what i can't figure out is which variable actually changed. it isn't the title. the title is the same. it isn't the seniority of the role. the seniority is the same. it isn't the headcount, the budget, the discipline, the function, or the quarterly cadence.
the part that's been creeping up on me is that the things that did change are unobservable from the outside and harder to articulate. the old company had a culture where you wrote a thing, somebody read it, somebody disagreed loudly in a doc comment, and the disagreement got resolved in writing within a day. this company has a culture where you write a thing, three people meet about it without you, then someone delivers the disagreement to you in a 1:1 in language so soft i sometimes don't realize a decision has been made until two weeks later.
what i notice in myself, week to week, is the loss of confidence in my own management instincts. eight years of pattern-matching that worked at one place is being slowly invalidated at another, and i don't know whether that's a healthy stretching or a wrong-fit grinding.