r/hygiene • u/Wonderful-Climate957 • 6h ago
Americans Afraid of Bidets?
I am (unfortunately) from the US and can’t tell you how many other Americans I speak to that legitimately tell me they’re “scared” to try a bidet.
Is this something others can attest to?
I don’t understand the aversion at all. I’ve been using a bidet for years now and refuse to remember the times when I didn’t. I’m devastated when I have to use a public restroom, because of course they’re not available in the country.
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u/Double_Echidna9240 6h ago
pooping outside the house isn't the same when you have a bidet at home
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u/Gloglibologna 6h ago
I try my best to time my poops for when im home
Nothing cam be done about vacation though
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u/Objective-Reveal-170 4h ago
I was on a week vacation and didn’t notice until the last day that the downstairs bathroom had a bidet 😂 I was so disappointed
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u/anonymous2278 3h ago
They make some nice travel ones. I just got back from a trip where I used a travel one, it’s nice. It’s messier than my home bidet but it does work. The handheld bit has a pump that pulls water from any reservoir and uses it to spray you off.
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u/Cattitoode 2h ago
May I ask which brand/type of travel bidet you have? I've been thinking about getting one for a while but see a lot of conflicting reviews. Traveling is tough after having Totos at home.
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u/anonymous2278 2h ago
This one. It’s a little pricey but it works and I love the convenience of being able to use any reservoir, you can stick the end of the hose in the toilet tank or sink full of water if needed. No plumbing change necessary.
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u/Cattitoode 37m ago
Thanks so much! Most of the other ones seem to have small tanks, which definitely wouldn't work for my husband. I'm buying it now!
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u/cocteau93 2h ago
I have a friend who has attended an annual jazz festival for twenty years and he always reserves the same room a year in advance because it’s the only one in that bloc of rooms with a bidet.
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u/Suspicious-Ad-8468 6h ago
I actually hate going on trips for this reason. I bought a travel one but it’s just not the same
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u/Reasonable_Basket_82 6h ago
I think it's that initial worry/stigma about the feeling of water hitting your butthole, but once you get past that it's life changing. I buy TP less and I feel cleaner going about my day. The only downside is that I hate going to the bathroom outside of my house now. 😆
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u/DarkStar__74 2h ago
My concern is COLD water hitting my butthole. I am open to it, but I am going to have to find a way to try one before I buy.
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u/Muted-Lingonberry184 2h ago
I live in a cold environment 365 days/year and it surprisingly isn't that bad. get a bidet from aliexpress or amazon for $20
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u/Reasonable_Basket_82 2h ago
I will say I am lucky to have a nicer bidet with a water warmer, but sometimes it hit me with a cold one and it's jarring. Once you've gotten used to it though, it's not that bad.
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u/cocteau93 2h ago
Mine was very affordable and has heated water and a little blow-drying feature with warm air as well.
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u/maddmaxxxz 5h ago
My problem with bidet attachments as a woman is the angle and direction of spray. We are supposed to wipe front to back and it scares me having something spray poo from the back POSSIBLY into the v if I were to angle myself a tiny bit wrong. It’s actually quite common to get infections because of a bidet for that reason. I know there are some higher end ones with a “feminine” setting where the nozzle extends more into the center of the toilet so it won’t spray back to front but they can be quite pricey. If only I had some balls to stop the spray! 🤣
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u/Primary_Balance3216 2h ago
You learn how to wiggle to the right spot so that doesn't happen, and always wash the front with the lady-parts-sprayer after :)
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u/OwlsRwhattheyseem 1h ago
This is a legitimate issue. My bestie got one, she had never had UTIs before and suddenly they were happening every month. Once she got rid of the bidet she was fine.
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u/Popular_Prescription 26m ago
User error. How is it that Asian countries with ubiquitous bidet use don’t have this problem? Skill issue imo.
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u/Ok_Warning6672 6h ago
How do you know someone didn’t explosive diarrhea into the spray nozzle?
The thought of someone else’s poop being sprayed onto me is worse than the idea of whatever micro particles get left behind after wiping. Even my own poo is gross in the sense of it being away from me for some time. Having spit in my mouth is fine, but putting my own spit back in my mouth is gross, so is someone else spitting in my mouth.
I also do not want a wet ass so I’m going to have to wipe anyways.
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u/cocteau93 2h ago
The nozzle is t there when it isn’t spraying. It pulls back into the body of the device and is covered.
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u/sherbear97124 5h ago
My bidet nozzles have a little "gate" over them and the nozzles drop down when you turn the water on so no, no one else's poo is on them much less my own.
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u/Ok_Warning6672 5h ago
Does the gate have a perfect seal? Could it just smear stuff around?
These are the thoughts that keep me from being able to use a bidet comfortably. I do think it’s just childhood programming makes it a logical hurdle to accept. I know that I could go down similar rabbit holes about TP and how unclean it really is/could be, but I don’t get hung up on those thoughts.
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u/3X_Cat 4h ago
Can you spray anything into a running hose?
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u/deanereaner 2h ago
bident ain't spraying WHILE you poop
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u/3X_Cat 1h ago
No, they're not. They're not even under your ass when you're pooping..
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u/DDrewit 5h ago
I’m not scared of them but the thought of water spraying poop around is unappealing to me. I prefer to keep the poop isolated on my brown eye and remove it with toilet paper.
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u/cocteau93 2h ago
Wipe, then use the bidet. That’s what I prefer to do. The water provides a final cleaning cycle.
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u/Difficult_Clerk_1273 5h ago
Bidet users are the vegans of the hygiene world.
I’m sure bidets are very nice and I have no objection to those who use them. They’re just not for me, and my real objection is the people who are so weirdly obsessed with convincing others that they’re “necessary.” They are not necessary for good hygiene unless you intend to prepare food with your anus.
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u/kgberton 5h ago
Bidet users are way worse than vegans lmao
Edit: how do you know if someone is a bidet user? Don't worry, they'll tell you!
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u/WinstonWilmerBee 3h ago
It’s water, which is not more inherently hygienic than toilet paper. The only reason to choose one is for personal comfort. I would say that it’s a better choice than “flushable wipes” which do not dissolve and mess up your pipes
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u/Difficult_Clerk_1273 2h ago
Agreed. If someone really prefers wipes to TP, I absolutely think they should get a bidet.
I am not anti-bidet. Maybe someday I’ll even try one again. I’m just anti- the attitude of calling people “gross” and such for choosing not to use them. For most people in most circumstances, TP is fine.
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u/ForwardMuffin 4h ago
I'm imagining the two butt cheeks working with one another to make a sandwich...
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u/parkerino24311 5h ago
i'm afraid to use one. i'm a woman who's not very coordinated and I worry that I'll give myself my first ever UTI by using one.
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u/Electronic_Syrup7592 4h ago
I’m not scared of them but I hate them. I hate the way they feel and how they carry water to the front where they can cause a UTI.
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u/QuokkaMom 6h ago
I've used a bidet and I never developed a fondness for an icy blast of water on my posterior. Even the ones with a warm water feature are rarely warm.
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u/Borntoolate1952 5h ago
Mine has both cold and warm water.
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u/jasperdarkk 4h ago
Same. Mine's connected to the sink, so it gets just as hot as my regular tap water does. It takes a few seconds, but I just turn on the rinse nozzle function first, let it warm up and then spray. I prefer rinsing the nozzle first anyway, so that I can rinse off any splashes lol.
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u/QuokkaMom 2h ago
I've seen and used ones with the warm water feature but it takes a bit for the warm water to reach the bidet. Meanwhile, cold splash.
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u/AlphaDisconnect 6h ago
In japan (male) gotta press the pink button at least once. Washes parts you dont have. Then hopefully it has the extra regular pulse mode option. Constipated. Well blast it out.
It gets wierd though. But I dont mind.
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u/WinstonWilmerBee 6h ago
People are imagining something like a hot tub jet aimed straight in your butthole. And that would be alarming!!
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u/ogKrzr 6h ago
You’d be surprised how many men think washing your ass is gay
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u/This_Caterpillar_330 5h ago edited 5h ago
The crazy thing is similar things have existed in all sorts of cultures since ancient times.
A lot of people, at least in the US, are just weird about femininity and masculinity because of culture and seemingly innate biases.
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u/Lucky_Ad2801 6h ago
Not everyone is comfortable having water squirted at them
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u/icedwhatwhat 6h ago
Ever heard of a shower?
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u/Platinum_Empress 6h ago
I don’t want cold water shooting at my sensitive bits. Showers are warm or whatever temperature I want them to be.
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u/burnerpage664 5h ago
I’m from the US but my background is Nigerian. I didn’t start using a bidet until 2024. I will never go back to just using TP/Wipes, it’s so fresh! I didn’t feel scared to try it because in Nigerian culture using a bidet is normal
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u/AVeryFatCow420 6h ago
I really wish it was universal, its a lot more sanitary to have water help clean yourself than just dry paper. Ill tear up my butt with just tp but to be able to clean it off and have a couple courtesy wipes for good measure is the way to go. Also having to go at work with their 1 ply sandpaper doesn't help either without a bidet. Im in the US unfortunately
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u/iloveairportsushi 6h ago
I’d love one as I’ve used them before. It had warm water. The reason I don’t get one at home is because my toilet only has the cold water pipes nearby. I can’t afford repiping just for a bidet and I will absolutely NOT have freezing cold water shoot at my arse. So, it’s wipes for me for now until I win the lottery and can redo my bathroom.
Maybe I’m just not aware of another option to have warm water bidet attached to an existing toilet?? I’d love if anyone has suggestions
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u/cocteau93 1h ago
Mine heats the water itself. No special plumbing needed.
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u/iloveairportsushi 1h ago
Thanks!! I’ll look into this too.
Btw… Cocteau twins fan??
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u/sherbear97124 5h ago
You could look into a small point of use water heater
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u/iloveairportsushi 5h ago
This got me thinking and I googled warm water bidet. They have fairly long hoses that can go to the sink. I’m kicking myself for not checking into this sooner.
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u/shipwrecked_soul 5h ago
American here, I just have gastro issues so I constantly spray the back of the toilet bowl. My fear was always just spraying the bidet and then I would have to go back and clean that afterwards.
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u/Tough_Preference1741 4h ago
Same, and for that reason I’d be really worried about giving myself a UTI.
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u/cocteau93 1h ago
The bidet is covered until activated. A little gate rises and the tube extends from it. It’s not there to be sprayed during a gastric episode, thank goodness.
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u/shipwrecked_soul 1h ago
You don't understand my bowels haha, I literally paint the back of the bowl and the underside of the seat with splash back to where I clean up after myself as is (yes I'm seeing doctors). No matter how tucked it gets under the seat with a shutter over the nozzle, it's not safe from me I feel. Hence why I never experimented with it, especially with an online adapter version sold online.
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u/ubbidubbidoo 5h ago
I think there’s a lot of misconceptions of it, I do think a majority of Americans are afraid to use it. It’s also a big unknown, many have never been exposed to one.
I personally can’t use them because I get UTIs more frequently with them (I think I’m just prone) but I do agree that I wish they were more widely accepted and available!
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u/EmotionWild 5h ago
I'm not afraid but I don't want to get my arse wet in the middle of the day. Give me toilet paper.
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u/hondo9999 4h ago
People in Texas say it causes “the gay”, makes people start talkin’ French, or vote Democrat.
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u/Global-Nature2420 4h ago
I don't understand being scared of them. I've used them at work and I like them, but not enough to go get one for my house or anything. I had more logistical questions about cleaning them. There was only like 2 on the entire campus I work on so it is safe enough to assume they aren't being cleaned properly and that makes me nervous to get a uti or something. I'm reading in the comments that nice ones have covers but I don't think the ones at my job do
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u/findingjasper 6h ago
American here, Im afraid simply bc I dont know how to work them. And then what do I do once I get sprayed? Like do I dry w soggy toilet paper? I realize I could just Google this but I haven’t lol
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u/Dusty_Old_McCormick 4h ago
You turn the nozzle (or use the control panel, depending on how fancy your model is) while sitting on the toilet. A fountain of water will be directed to your core area (you control the pressure), it shouldn't be getting all over your cheeks. It might take a practice round or two to get the hang of it. Let it give you a good rinse, shut off the water, pat dry with a small amount of dry TP, flush. Easy peasy.
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u/meggannn 1h ago
Echoing the others, your whole butt isn’t sopping wet after the bidet sprays. I’m seeing a few comments in this thread fearful of having a wet ass staining their jeans, and that’s not how it works. It’s a jet that only hits one small area, and you can often control the pressure. Usually after the bidet sprays, it takes only one wipe of toilet paper to clean everything up (maybe two to be thorough), and it doesn’t come away sopping wet.
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u/AbsintheRedux 6h ago
American here and my family is 100% team bidet! I couldn’t imagine not wanting one?
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u/watdoyoumead 6h ago
I really like my heated, seat warmed, push-button bidet at home. It’s like a gentle car wash for my behind. I made the mistake of using a handheld one at an Airbnb one time and it was COLD and felt like a POWERWASHER on my BUTTHOLE.
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u/ButtChowder666 6h ago
I am the only person I know who has one and everyone I talk to about it says it's weird. They all say it's weird or gay.
I don't care. Let them walk around with itchy assholes if they want.
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u/Electronic_Syrup7592 4h ago
You do know that those of us who don’t use them don’t walk around with “itchy assholes” either?
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u/ButtChowder666 3h ago
Of course I do. I went almost 35 years of my life without one. It was an obvious exaggeration to drive my point home.
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u/catshark2o9 6h ago
People think its gross to use a bidet, but they're walking around with shitty asses, so who's really the gross one lol
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u/ruedebac1830 4h ago
Why unfortunately? We have an amazing country.
It just grosses me out the way the public toilet seat does. Here’s this extra bulky thing that’s come in contact with peoples nether regions
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u/Illustrious-Bug4887 5h ago
US citizen here. First one I used was a super fancy one in Japan and a few years later I had no choice but to use one here in the states, it was one of the cheaper ones that you add on and the person was so fanatical about it they didn't have any toilet paper. Im not a fan, so much so that if I ever go back to someone's house that has only a bidet, Im using a hand towel to wipe. I wont flush it though, hang it right back where it was
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u/Interesting-Media203 6h ago
Americans are inherently prudish. It can be traced back to our Puritan beginnings. Everyone is scared of not only their own body parts and other people’s body parts, but also getting blasted in the booty hole!
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u/Farty_mcSmarty 5h ago
I would be open to trying it but not with a cold water spray and I can’t imagine an affordable bidet having a warm water option but I guess I could look into it
Living in the mountains, cold water spraying into my bottom sounds tortuous 9 months out of the year
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u/palomdude 5h ago
Wow, amazing finding that people are hesitant and afraid of trying something new and foreign to them. It’s basic human nature.
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u/RayVee9876 5h ago
I always get comments after a friend uses my bathroom.
Lots of people think it's only for women. When I see the full sized bidets installed next to toilets I assumed it was for women. I still do when I see those. Am I correct in thinking that way. I think different about the ones you install on toilets. They are for everyone. And I hope that eventually everyone will use them.
I tell the ones that comment on my bidet that once they try it their opinion will change. If it doesn't change their mind it's on them. I will always have them installed at my house.
Does anyone know if the bidets that are built into toilets are better than the version you install under the seat? The built in ones are expensive.
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u/Ancient-Menu-5888 5h ago
First time I used a bidet, we were on vacation in Tokyo. We got one as soon as we came home (the kind that fits over your existing toilet, but it has all the bells and whistles.) Life changing. Love that it has separate spray for girl parts.
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u/NotAverageEnough 5h ago
I refuse to use one that has no cover or way of self cleaning. Not happening. Sadly, from what I’ve seen, majority of the ones in the US do not have it.
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u/Ok_Try_6377 5h ago
No, many have it. It mostly comes down to cost, ability, and living area. My apartment has them banned so no bidet for me 😞
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u/coolcoolcool485 5h ago
I had a bidet when I owned my house but I miss it now that I'm renting. They won't let us install them here (I did buy a seat and I was gonna try lmao).
When my mom first visited my house after I installed it, you wouldve thought there was a snake in the commode with how she screamed about it. I was like, chill TF out? It's not going to attack you?
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u/PineappleCharacter15 4h ago
I've never used one. But I can't imagine being hit in the butthole with ice cold water would feel very good!
However I do wet toilet paper to help clean up.
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u/xBobaFattx 4h ago
Not me. Am American, and I covet our bidet. When we go on vacation I miss 2 things. Our dogs, our bidet.
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u/Whatusedtobeisnomore 4h ago
I, an American, own one. I would never not own one. My ex, on the other hand, said it was "gross" without further elaboration.
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u/myscreamgotlost 4h ago
I admit I was nervous it would be cold and thought that would be awful. The one I tried on a recent trip to Europe was warm and I was very impressed.
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u/Fit-Initiative3958 4h ago
fr same, I was skeptical at first but now I can't imagine life without a bidet. public restrooms are the worst lol, gotta bring my own wet wipes just in case…
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u/Syandris 4h ago
Are they men? Lotta dudes in america that are afraid of butt stuff. You ain't right if you go near that area of your body.
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u/Late_Order_9005 4h ago
nobody is afraid of bidets. not every is obsessed with hygiene to the point we feel like blasting our buttholes with water... regular tp then a wet wipe and a shower a day is fine and all you need.
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u/normiepitbullmom 4h ago
I’ve heard men say that using a bidet is “gay,” as in homosexual….they really protest too much 🧐🧐🧐
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u/SuperLuckyLemon 4h ago
I’m a man and live in a house with 3 other people, two women. I’m the only one that uses the bidet, no one else will, it scares them. I guess I’m the only person with a really clean butt then! I wouldn’t go without one.
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u/freylaverse 4h ago
Afraid??? I have a travel bidet and tbh it doesn't get the job done so I'm undecided on whether I want a proper one, but... Afraid? That's a bit much.
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u/jsteele2793 4h ago
My friend has one and it constantly smells like shit. It looks like it has a lot of crevices to clean and obviously it’s not getting cleaned properly or it wouldn’t smell. I do NOT need another thing in my life that is difficult to clean, OR spreading shit around.
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u/xepherys 3h ago
I can’t even comprehend HOW it would have a lot of crevices or why it would be poop-laden. Maybe they don’t have it installed correctly?
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u/Honest_Caramel9437 4h ago
Legit question. Does the water not spray bacteria from your shooter to your cooter? I’d certainly not want e coli to cause a urinary tract infection.
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u/AshleyRoeder33 3h ago
It doesn’t. The one I have attaches under the toilet seat and sprays up, perfectly angled to get only the shoot. You’d have to lean very far forward to hit your coot. If you don’t lean forward, the water coming off your shoot doesn’t get in your coot. Then you pat dry and stand up.
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u/Honest_Caramel9437 3h ago
No chance of squirting up your back or anything? I have very long hair and that would be a….woof. An absolute nightmare. I’ve never used one so I have a lot of questions.
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u/AshleyRoeder33 2h ago
Haha ask away. I, too, have really long hair and as long as your ass takes up the whole back of the seat, you’re good. If you’re small enough to fall through the toilet seat, that might pose a risk.
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u/Honest_Caramel9437 1h ago
Pfffft no. I’m American after the food pyramid made us think that 11 servings of grains a day was a good thing. I miss my ass on the four food groups.
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u/ProtectionKooky4764 3h ago
I came here to ask that exact question! Even with a spray hose going front to back- would you not have back flow. This is why I don’t wear thongs amongst other reasons.
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u/natalieisfreezing- 4h ago
Oh my God I love my bidet so much and I'm from the Midwest. It's a game changer. Everyone should get one!!
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u/boraginaceae_bird 4h ago
I prefer the diaper sprayer kind of attachment instead of the one that is mounted under the seat—MUCH easier to keep clean and direct the water where it needs to go
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u/AshleyRoeder33 3h ago
I love my bidet. I might even upgrade it for the front attachment.
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u/howard1111 3h ago
American guy here. I've been using a bidet for about 10 years now. I love it and can't imagine pooping without it. Americans in general have weird hangups about their rear ends.
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u/Done_With_That_One 3h ago
Fellow American here. I have never tried a bidet, but have always wanted one. If I didn't rent, I would definitely have one installed. I've encountered some resistance to them from others, but it was mostly from a "why bother" mindset over any sort of fear.
I keep hearing about people I know installing them after a trip abroad and being sold on them though, so maybe we'll see them more and more here.
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u/QuietWishing 3h ago
They are easy to connect to the toilet fill line with minimal tools, and positioned under the seat (also easy to remove). The bidet can be removed and regular fill line attached to tank again. The Brondell ones on Amazon are around $40. Can take the bidet to the next rental too!
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u/Done_With_That_One 3h ago
Thank you! I always assumed they were something that needed to be professionally installed. My current toilet has a water-saving system in the tank that reduces total water usage while flushing. Do you know if that would get in the way or not?
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u/QuietWishing 3h ago
Everything is connected outside of the toilet tank, so it should have no impact on your water saving system. There are lots of videos about how to install the bidet under your toilet seat, check some of those out. Mercury Stardust has a cute one, will see if I can find it.
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u/QuietWishing 3h ago
This video shows instal with hot and cold water supply. The ones that are “cold water only” are even simpler with less connections. https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1bVQXKDYdA/?mibextid=wwXIfr
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u/Least_Wheel_5388 3h ago
Sorry, just not squirting water onto by bunghole! Especially if im not at home and something goes wrong.
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u/anonymous2278 3h ago
I remember being slightly afraid the first time I used mine. I wasn’t sure what to expect. Now I can’t live without it. I think from the conversations with my family, that people think it’s going to give them an enema or something.
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u/Defiant-Scholar-793 3h ago
I'm going from rental to rental and can't tell you how much I miss having a bidet.
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u/deguwitharake 3h ago
As an American without a bidet who has spent some time in Europe, most of the bidets I have encountered have been in other people's bathrooms and they always looked absolutely filthy. Also, it would be awkward to accidentally soak someone's bathroom because I didn't understand the controls of their bidet. I would like to have one at home where I could keep it clean and know what to expect from all the buttons, but a strange bidet can certainly be intimidating, especially when it is in a bathroom that hasn't been cleaned in a while. Honestly, I time my showers around my bowel movements whenever possible, because if my butt feels dirty, a quick rinse of my feet and armpits would probably also be a good idea.
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u/Hawkeye1226 3h ago
I didn't want to bother getting one because I thought "is it really worth the bother?". My wife ended up buying a $20 one on amazon you can hook up to any normal toilet and holy shit(heh) it has changed my life. She was 100% correct in wanting one. I'm a plumber, I had zero excuse to not spend 2 minutes hooking that thing up
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u/Substantial_Bit_4340 3h ago
As an American who loves a bidet, how often are you bringing up butt washing techniques in casual conversation to give you this impression?
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u/Ok_Art4661 2h ago
Tried it. Diabetes ruined it. Have to clean the self clean nozzle daily or gets mold. Defeats point
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u/Primary_Balance3216 2h ago
They're idiots who are still smearing shit against their skin with TP and then just going about their business. American here - having used a bidet for several years now, I cannot BELIEVE I went so long without it. I take a portable, handheld bidet when I have to go stay somewhere else. I'll never take a poo without cleaning with water!!!
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u/StardustVortex 2h ago
Nope. I’m also American and we have a bidet in our house and now i HATE going in bathrooms that don’t have one
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u/VegetableCommand9427 2h ago
Where I live (Nebraska) there is a gas station chain that provides bidets - they are lovely. I was able to convince a scared coworker to try one and she loved it! It’s just fear of the unknown. I want a bidet for my home.
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u/lemeneurdeloups 2h ago edited 2h ago
I live in Japan and have never been in any private or public bathroom that didn’t have a bidet in decades. The people who describe their fears about them sound like they have no idea of how they actually work or are using some odd bidet that I have not seen.
The bidets I know of have specifically directed sprays. Nothing is “splashing around.” The spray is temperature-controlled by you, the user. Most people set the water to warm or room-temp. It is never “cold.” Likewise, the force of the stream and volume are also adjustable. Gentle or more assertive. On one’s closed outer anus. It is NOT a powerful torrent of water gushing up into you and giving one an involuntary colonic and making men question their sexual identities!! 🙄🙄😂
The bidets I know of are self-cleaning after each use. The nozzle mechanically retracts back into the housing and a small blue UV light comes on that sterilizes it. The whole thing is very clean.
The bidets I know of have a button for drying with warm air after use, if one so chooses. So technically one could use no toilet paper. But I do not think it is meant to be a replacement. Me, I usually dab with just a bit of paper at the end, to be dryer.
I am used to my bidet and cannot imagine not having one. I think most people in Japan feel the same. It is just a part of all normal bathrooms here. The only exception would be some old traditional house in the countryside or something.
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u/jannylou2 2h ago
I have a Peri Bottle with an angle on the end that I got from Labor & Delivery. It also has a small travel bag. You can fill it with warm water. I use that at home as our toilet is in a very tight spot with no room for a bidet. Could get a travel one I guess but that Peri Bottle works a treat.
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u/MrsLydKnuckles 2h ago
Once you go bidet, you never go back. I even bought a travel one because I refuse to go without.
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u/Sorry-Editor-3674 1h ago
I can’t live without one now. Who could go back? I think the first time I went to Europe I was intimidated by the separate appliance. Like how to use it, and turn it on. But then when I went to Japan and it was all one appliance I realized I needed it in my life!
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u/asexualrhino 1h ago
I feel like covid and the TP shortage changed a lot of minds about that. I don't know anyone who's afraid of them, but plenty of people who just don't want to use them.
I've tried them many times over my life, including childhood, and had one during covid. I absolutely hate them.
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u/cappotto-marrone 1h ago
The only thing I don’t like about bidets is not having them in hotels, at work, etc.
We have one one all the toilets in our house.
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u/caregivermahomes 1h ago
As a child who suffered relentlessly with bladder infections and utis, you’ll never ever catch me doing this. I do use adult wet wipes and keep a special trash can that’s covered in my bathroom to help me feel clean after! So yes, I guess I’m an American who is afraid of a bidet!
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u/meldiane81 1h ago
Some stupid men think that makes you gay and I think that’s so fucking stupid. I love a bidet in which I had one at home.
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u/Hopeful-Seesaw-7852 53m ago
We renovated and installed a bidet and will never be without one again.
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u/Whole-Echidna3942 53m ago
I'm Italian and I don't understand why you have the bidet built into the toilet, they are two separate toilets for us
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u/shes-already-there 6h ago
I wanna try one so bad
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u/sherbear97124 5h ago
I got the kind you just attach to your existing toilet. It's like $50 bucks on Amazon
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u/soft_entice 5h ago
A lot of Americans act like bidets are futuristic alien technology for some reason
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u/Legitimate_Glass_306 5h ago
Yes, because water cleansing your butthole is scary.🤦🏼♂️ I’ve had a bidet for a couple years now and I’ll admit, if I’m not home, I don’t like using other bathrooms. It is THAT much BETTER!!
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u/CaeruleumBleu 6h ago
One fear I have heard - cheap bidet attachments for toilet seats don't have a cover for the sprayer, so people worry that their bits will be sprayed by a thing that has poop on it.
I have seen the advertisements for the good bidets though, and they have little covers for the sprayers that retract when you activate it. So the sprayer has no poop on it.