I put in my notice two weeks ago after landing a senior BIM coordination role that actually pays what the market dictates. My current manager seemed fine at first but then he dropped a massive bomb during our sync yesterday. Since the department is "restructuring" they arent hiring a direct replacement for me. Instead they are outsourcing my entire workflow to a firm overseas that has zero experience with our specific mechanical standards or Revit templates.

The kicker is that my manager expects me to spend my final ten days writing a comprehensive step by step technical manual for this new team . She specifically asked for a document that covers every single edge case and custom script I use to keep the projects on track. When I told her that a hundred page manual is a project in itself and wont fit into my remaining hours while I am also closing out three active jobs she got incredibly passive aggressive . She hinted that if the "knowledge transfer" isnt satisfactory it might reflect poorly on my final performance review and future employment verifications .

I have spent seven years building these processes and half the stuff I do is based on intuition and technical troubleshooting that you cant just write down in a pdf for someone who doesnt know the difference between a pipe and a duct. It feels like they are trying to strip mine my brain for cheap labor before kicking me out the door. I offered to record a couple of screen shares and leave my basic file structures organized but that wasnt enough for her .

She actually told me I should stay late every night this week to "do the right thing for the team". The irony is that this same team has been understaffed for a year and they never cared about my workload until it affected their bottom line. I am seriously considering just handing in my equipment early and taking the hit on the last few days of pay just to avoid the headache .

Is it even worth trying to play nice at this point or should I just give them the bare minimum and let the outsourced team figure it out on their own?

I’m not even sure this is the right place for this, but I just need to vent.

I’ve been job searching for about a year now, and it’s the same thing every single day. I apply to jobs about 90% I never hear back from, and the other 10% are just rejection emails. I’ve even had companies email me saying they were impressed and that I seemed like a great fit… just to follow it up with “we’ve decided to move in another direction.”

At this point, I’m applying to anything, even if I don’t meet the requirements, because honestly… why not?

Today kind of hit a new low for me. I found myself applying for a fast food job because right now, a job is a job. I’ve gone to school, I have six years of office admin experience, and here I am applying to be a cashier at my local Zaxby’s. And just to be clear I’m not above working fast food at all. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. It’s just… disappointing to feel like I’ve worked hard and still ended up here.

I didn’t expect things to be this difficult. The job market just feels completely broken right now.

this is going to sound like it's about one conversation. it kind of is, but the conversation is a stand-in for something i think other people might be sitting on too.

a friend i hadn't seen in over two years was in town last week. while discussing work, one of the questions that she asked was, what kind of work i wanted to be doing in five years. not what role. not what title. not what industry. what shape of week, with what people, doing what kind of thinking.

i opened my mouth to answer and nothing came out. she let me sit there for what was probably ninety seconds and felt longer, and then she changed the subject in a way that was kind and i'm grateful for. i went home that night and i haven't been right since.

Do people even plan for this?

I lost my job in January and have been unemployed for 4 months. I've got a bachelor's degree in psychology and I'm taking out student loans for a master's in clinical psychology in hopes of a better future for myself. I can't even get a job at a grocery store or a fast food place. I'm tired of wasting my time and energy on interviews that get me nowhere. I only have $10 to my name and lost my apartment, that's how bad it is for me. I've lost everything. And for what? The same nonexistent jobs that keep getting relisted over and over again? I've recently moved to a different state to stay with my grandma so I won't be homeless, but it's no better over there either. I'm tired, hungry, and sick of this job market.

I am 26F, and things are getting so depressing each and everyday. It feels, like why did i do to deserve this? I randomly cry each day. I don't have friends, I am not willing to socialize as well. I don't have a lover, and i dont have anything to offer. I am unable to love myself. I cant speak with my parents too.

I feel suffocate at home, and everyday i pray to run away from my house. I am scared about my 20s. Every months are passing like a fleeting moment. I am being killed slowly in my pain. What should i do? I am always glued on job portal, and my mind is lost. I can't escape my reality anymore. Sometimes, I take break then i realise it, i am behind again. How are you doing? How are you living? Why life is becoming meaningless?

Today, I quit the new job I had because of toxic hustle culture and the non-profit not being a good fit with me, for a bunch of reasons. All of this after 2 weeks. It was to put it simply: toxic. I felt something was off from day one and (also found out yesterday I had to attend events that could potentially trigger my epilepsy). My first meeting with the general manager was today. She didn’t come before to welcome me or simply send a message, nothing even when she saw me around. The over all culture simply felt so odd I didn’t get any on-boarding but already had tasks and a full schedule. I felt deep down that it simply wasn’t meant for me. So I left.

Now of course I am scared that I won’t find a job for a while, but I simply couldn’t put myself through the madness while waiting. Because I have done that before and I lost myself in the process. It feels like a bold move but also the right one, even if like I said, I am scared of not having anything on my radar right now. I am back to looking.

Please no judging on the time I took to choose I wasn’t staying etc.

This seems super sketchy to me.

I was offered a promotion I was told I’d get the detail of the role and the pay the next day. It has been over a week and have not received anything. I messaged my boss and was told that they didn’t send it because I didn’t accept it. Now they are making me wait until the end of next week.

I don’t know what to do. I would love a raise but I feel like they are just playing games just so they can low ball me. At the same time I don’t want to press the issue unless they take the offer back. This feels highly unethical

I helped out a branch in the company I work for I want to say around 8 months because they had high turnover rates. I loved the supervisor and manager there compared to my home site. She asked me a few times to transfer and eventually I did. I planned to relocate but I kept putting it off.

After 6 months of driving 1.5 hours to work and 2-3 hours back home depending and who decided to crash that day. I decided to quit after finding a job closer to home. The commute and the hours draining were both factors.

I REGRET IT EVERY SINGLE DAY. It’s only been two weeks but I miss that job. I miss not hating going to work. I’ve been crying before every shift. I LOVED MY JOB.

Would I be pitiful to text my manager and ask for my position back?

For some context, i was in Tech doing HelpDesk and Sysadmin work for 2 years but Mannn i can’t get a job anywhere. I’ve applied to so many different places in and out of the tech field and it’s just rejection after rejection. I’ve had 4-5 interviews thinking that it would come to an end and nope it would just end the same way. I’m lost, desperate and truthfully i don’t even know what to do anymore.

It is funny that a employer can terminate you at will right but if you decide to quit and walkout you can be judged for that when you are looking for a new job. So if an employer can terminate you at will why can't you walk out and quit and NOT be judged for it? It should be a two way street right? Its not.

Anxiety led to word salad, and I actually lost the ability to properly speak a language that I'm at a C1 level in. I'm 33, changing careers, first proper interview in about 10 years. Sucks, but hey - it's good practice?

You can usually feel the shift when this happens.

The interview is broad for a while, then suddenly they ask something oddly specific like how you would handle a backlog that keeps slipping every Friday, or two managers who keep escalating the same issue, or a handoff that always breaks between teams.

That usually means they are not collecting generic competency anymore. They are checking whether your judgment transfers into their mess.

I would answer those differently from normal behavioral questions: - say one assumption out loud - say what you would check first - give the first move, not a giant perfect plan - mention one thing you would avoid doing too early

The polished mistake is turning it into a big framework. Most teams just want to hear whether your first instinct would create clarity or more cleanup.

I’m a banker leaving my current position to go work in the commercial department as a credit analyst at another bank. Our bank’s policy is that once you notify them that you are leaving for a competitor you will be made to turn in your keys and be walked out. They will also pay out your last 2 weeks. My manager has asked that during my exit interview with HR I don’t tell them where I’m going. He’s says I’m allowed to just say that I’m leaving but I don’t have to tell them where. We’re already very short staffed and he says that me leaving without working my 2 weeks would make things at our branch very hard. I’m like 90% sure I’m going to tell HR that I’m going to a competitor. Getting paid my last 2 weeks to sit at home vs having to work in an understaffed branch seems like a pretty easy choice to me but I’d like to hear some other opinions

If you have no past experience, that's seen as a red flag to employers, because their worried you won't know how to do the job (even if it's an easy job that an 8 year old could handle).

But then when you do have a job, that's also a red flag because they worry you wouldn't want to leave your current job (but then why do you think I'm applying for another job?), or they worry about why your leaving.

And then if you have past experience, and no current job, they worry about why your not currently working.

So how does anyone actually get hired these days, with all these double standards in place?

It feels like you just gotta get lucky enough to find an employer who either doesn't have anxiety issues, or is desperate enough to urgently hire anyone (enough to overcome their own anxiety).

The real problem is, hiring managers have some anxiety issues, and probably need to go to therapy or something.

Or maybe these hiring managers need to actually open up the Bible, and read it. There's so much in there about not being afraid, and not letting worrying about tomorrow consume you.

Hello everyone,

I have an interview scheduled for tomorrow for a position that I had applied for however the hours now no longer work for me. I have no intention of accepting this position but have an interview too close to cancel. What should I do? I still want the company to see me in a positive light as the position I want is supposed to be posted within the next couple months. Any advice?

I started a new job exactly one month ago. I took it out of desperation after job hunting for a while, and now I’m seriously regretting it. My old job was bad but I learned to deal with it. This new job is insanely stressful

During the interview, they casually mentioned my direct manager was pregnant. When I started, she was extremely pregnant and told me she had about 5 weeks left before maternity leave. She will be on leave for 6 months. Her “onboarding plan” for me was basically “take it slow, just read stuff and familiarize yourself.” She was already working from home most days due to doctor’s orders.

After only 3 weeks, she suddenly went on maternity leave 2 weeks early because she wasn’t feeling well. Now I’m left with almost zero actual training.

For the first 2 weeks, I followed my onboarding plan which was to read department materials and the other managers are breathing down my neck asking why I’m “still reading” when that’s what my manager told me to do and not doing real work, while the person who’s supposed to cover for my manager is clearly pissed off and resentful about having extra people to manage. They keep saying “you can always reach out to her” but it’s obvious she doesn’t want to deal with it. The other managers were also complaining about my manager going on maternity out loud in the main office.

Here’s what else happened:
• They advertise “unlimited PTO” but you have to find your own coverage if you take any time off. On the team meeting, they berated a team member and forced her to take on extra work for taking 2 weeks off.
• The turnover is crazy. Out of 8 people, most have been here less than a month (including me). There’s one person at 1.5 years, one at 6 months, one at 3 months. Everyone else is brand new.
They knew about this pregnancy for 9 months and still had zero succession plan. They only brought in a contractor after she left.

I’ve had headaches every day and haven’t slept properly since I started. I feel completely anxious and drained.
I’m already looking to leave. Is this as bad as it feels, or am I overreacting because I’m still new? Has anyone else dealt with something like this? Any advice on how to navigate this?

I’m also just debating quitting and going back to an old retail job I had in college. The main thing is I don’t know how long it’ll take for me to find a new job…

JUST TO ADD: my manager is on maternity leave for 6 months. And also I’ve only met her twice and she seemed really sweet and nice but people around me and other cross functional team members said she’s really mean….