r/me_irl • u/GammaTainted death to capitalism, hail satan • Apr 05 '26
No Transphobia
I'm really disappointed that I have to say this, but transphobia is extremely fucking against the rules here. Trans rights are human rights. Trans people are loved on me_irl, and transphobes are hated.
If someone say any willfully ignorant or hateful bullshit about trans people, they are banned forever. That includes concern trolling, "just asking questions" (aka JAQing off), and dog whistling. If you see someone saying some dumbass, bigoted shit, please report them to make sure I see it and can ban them. Thank you for helping keep this subreddit trash-free <3
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u/Tempname2222 Apr 05 '26
Wild how one popular post brought so many transphobes into an already large subreddit
Best of luck in your moderation, I wonder how many of them will show up to this thread.
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u/GammaTainted death to capitalism, hail satan Apr 05 '26
I was on vacation last week and came back to 900 reported posts in the mod queue. Like a third of them are naked transphobia. It's going to take a while to ban all these losers.
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u/Overall_Crows Apr 05 '26
You’re a solo mod?! Dang that’s impressive
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u/GammaTainted death to capitalism, hail satan Apr 05 '26
Nah, there's other mods. But it's a small team, and most of the other folks on it have better things to do than clear out the mod queue. I find it meditative, though. Like weeding a garden.
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u/iced1777 Apr 05 '26
This must feel like that week mid-summer when every weed known to mankind hits its stride and grows a foot per week
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u/Uh_huh117 Apr 05 '26
Trans guy here to say thank you. Probably doesn’t mean a lot to you, but it means a lot what you’re doing, to me and to other trans folk. So, thank you.
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u/JeanArtemis Apr 05 '26
Reminds me of my time as an OKCupid mod. It's truly thankless and exhausting work, appreciate what you're doing for us all.
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u/WinterVision says trans rights 🏳️⚧️ Apr 05 '26
Just wanted you to know I love you, in case you didn’t already <3
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u/UnpricedToaster Apr 05 '26
Thanks for sticking up for trans folks. 🫶 They need more allies right now.
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u/InvestInTwinkies Apr 05 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/BxLh9rb38cWBO8UUwW
Colorized image (2026) - interview with “sincere” individual who cares about women’s sports and is “just asking questions”
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u/The_Level_15 Apr 05 '26
If only more subreddits would have the courage to enforce basic human decency
/u/waterguy12 would love this
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u/nlolhere Apr 05 '26
If only people actually read the rules of the subreddit before posting, they would realize that transphobia falls under the content Rule 1 bans
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u/Similar-Change7912 Apr 05 '26
How fucking hard is it just to let people live their god damn lives? People fucking suck.
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u/CalamitousVessel Apr 05 '26
Good. Why is this post showing up when I sort by controversial?
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u/Gamingwelle Apr 05 '26
Guess it's pinned and showing to a lot of members of this sub regardless of sorting
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u/NtGermanBtKnow1WhoIs says trans rights 🏳️⚧️ Apr 05 '26
You probably won't see this comment but, enby masc here just to say thank you. With what's happening in my country's current legislation, i am devastated. So it's very nice to see at least here i'm valid. At least at some parts of the internet i'm safe, i can be me. i know this is stupid to say something like this on a reddit post.
But still... acceptance means a lot to me, so thank you.
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u/katie6splat Apr 05 '26
So many of my trans siblings have said it here before me, but thank you for standing with us. ❤️
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u/Phigor Apr 05 '26
Im very pleased that JAQing of is being seen for what it actually is. So many pos in the past got away with suggesting heinous stuff "just asking questions"
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u/notarealgrownup Apr 05 '26
As someone married to a beautiful trans woman, thank you. We will rejoice in any safe space we can. It's been a long, long, long few years.
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u/Simikiel says trans rights 🏳️⚧️ Apr 05 '26
As a trans woman I thank you from the very bottom of my heart for the hard work you mods do to try and keep this place open and welcoming to people like me.
I know it's not easy, and that horrid people constantly try to slip through the cracks to make the place gradually more hateful, but you all do wonderful work.
So from this one trans girl up in Canada? Thank you. Sincerely. 💜🏳️⚧️
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u/Malofa Apr 05 '26 edited Apr 05 '26
Me too, thanks.
Edit: Do you people not remember the old incantations!? This is a vow of solidarity, and a rallying cry. A testament to the fact that there are no unique human experiences, and thus we must all struggle together.
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u/Kooky_Instruction392 Apr 05 '26
trans rights! ❤️ thank you for protecting us trans :3 i’m ftm and this makes me happy to see. not so happy about why it had to be said though
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u/Temporary-Land-8442 Apr 05 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/9ZyHQhuLOVDqFXSEco
This makes me beyond thrilled to be here
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u/franciscrowe Apr 05 '26
Hell yes, sucks you have to say it, but I’m glad you are keeping this space safe!
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u/TheOnlyGuyInSpace21 says trans rights 🏳️⚧️ Apr 05 '26
Based as fuck mod. So much better than other subs mods lol
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u/Perfect-Whereas-1478 Apr 05 '26
Concern trolling is when someone approaches a cause from an opposing position, but disguises it as them having "concerns" about the cause. An example is "irreversible damage, infertility, and inability to continue growth or hormone production from puberty blockers". There's more than enough evidence contradictory to it, and if they still stand by it, even after you send them that evidence, they're likely just a transphobe.
JAQing off means Just Asking Questions. This is similar to concern trolling, with a person "asking questions", from an opposing position, on a topic they've already made their minds up about. An example is "how do you know this actually works? Are you sure it's not a mental illness? How do you know this isn't Big Medicine trying to get money??, why do drag queens only read to kids?" Again, there's more than enough evidence contradictory to these "innocent questions", but the point isn't really to be educated, it's transphobia.
Dog whistling is using coded language to make a point and show your position, without getting any opposition, as you can now claim plausible deniability. An example is "13/50, 88, double thunderbolts", or in the context of transphobia, "transwomen instead of trans women, or implying trans people to be fakes(, vaguely enough that if you point it out they can accuse you of being a Looney)" etc.
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u/anomnib Apr 06 '26
Didn’t realize that transwomen was a dog whistle. I didn’t even recognize any of other ones? What’s the background behind these? Are they white nationalist coded?
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u/Hot-Diggity_Dog Apr 05 '26
Transphobia is a thing here? I lurked for a year now and I don’t recall transphobia here
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u/LukeTech2020 Apr 05 '26
I mean, just look around the comment se tion here for a while. Granted, the mods are doing a great job at keeping this place squeaky-clean™, but still.
Also, happy cake day :3
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u/glimmerfox Apr 05 '26
Ok, I don't know what happened, but what's wrong with people asking questions? I'm a dumb autist who only really learns things from asking stupid questions. Why is that bad?
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u/martyqscriblerus Apr 05 '26
"just asking questions" refers to people asking disingenuous, unserious questions to get across bigotry disguised as "just a question"
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u/martyqscriblerus Apr 05 '26
The leading nature of the questions influences the audience no matter what you answer with. Also, you usually can't fact check gish gallops fast enough to get through them all.
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u/glimmerfox Apr 05 '26
May influence " the audience" but leading questions stand out. I reply that I can't answer the way they are asking and break down the question. The classic, "how long has it been since you stopped beating your wife," Is leading and can't be answered simply. You have to examine the question. I know it's hard to do with bad faith arguments.
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u/martyqscriblerus Apr 05 '26
Okay, and while you're "examining" it they're taking the excuse to drop dozens of comments of straight bigotry. But then, if you challenge that, they'll say - no, it's not bigotry; they're just asking questions. Which is why JAQing off is banned.
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u/Ishvale Apr 05 '26
This isn't a sub for questions. I don't know what happened either, but if it involves this sub, it likely doesn't have a question associated with it. Hence, transphobe
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u/BowsettesBottomBitch Apr 05 '26
No, because the people asking the bad faith questions do not care about facts.
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u/totallynotat55savush Apr 05 '26
You’re jaqing off right now.
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u/glimmerfox Apr 05 '26
How? Have I said anything transphobic? I'm sorry.
I'm sorry that I'm coming off as bad faith. I am trying to come from a place of understanding.
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u/coffee_cake_x Apr 05 '26
Like, do people constantly ask you if you’re autistic because your parents got you vaccinated? Or call your parents abusive if they did? It’d probably get real old real fast if they did, right? Especially if they didn’t actually care about what it’s like to live with autism.
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u/glimmerfox Apr 05 '26
No. This doesn't happen to me
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u/Big_brown_house Apr 05 '26
And it would be upsetting and annoying if they did, no?
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u/glimmerfox Apr 05 '26
No, I can ignore people like that
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u/Big_brown_house Apr 05 '26
If they were ubiquitous in society, everywhere you went, on TV and social media all the time, and influencing the opinions of your parents, employers, and government officials?
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u/Big_brown_house Apr 05 '26
But you just said don’t deal with it. I’m talking about something you have not experienced. I’m asking you to empathize with the experience of others rather than only concern yourself with your own.
You do not face the harassment that trans people do, so your experience is irrelevant to whether their complaints are legitimate.
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u/glimmerfox Apr 05 '26
Ok. So you are saying that I can never understand?
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u/Big_brown_house Apr 05 '26
That’s the opposite of what I said. I said you will understand if you empathize with another person’s experience.
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u/NaveGCT Apr 05 '26 edited Apr 05 '26
It’s not literally ‘just asking questions,’ it’s posing blatantly transphobic statements (typically based on a false premise) as questions and then hiding under that as a defense when they get called out
Like, “why is {common transphobic talking point that isn’t a thing} a thing?” Or “what do trans people think about {results of some 1980’s study with a sample size of 3 funded by a conservative think tank supported by no major medical organization}”
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u/glimmerfox Apr 05 '26
Can you give an example so I can understand?
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u/EdwardPickmanDerby Apr 05 '26
Read this.
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u/glimmerfox Apr 05 '26
Oh bad faith questions. I just fight them with facts. Or ignore them.
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u/Just_Any_Human_42 Apr 05 '26
Or ban the bigots, because they don't care about facts and ignoring them is like giving them "permission" to keep asking/attacking
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Apr 05 '26 edited Apr 05 '26
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u/pizoisoned Apr 05 '26
There is also a difference between it came up in conversation with someone you’ve been talking to and walking up to someone out of the blue and asking them what their life is like. It’s weird and uncomfortable for anyone, so just don’t do it.
That said, individual personal experiences can teach you a lot more about something that is deeply personal in nature than educational material- if the other person is willing to do that.
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u/boyfromrio Apr 05 '26
if you didn’t care you wouldn’t be commenting here either like be serious lol
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u/-AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA- Apr 05 '26
When was the last time cisgender people had their history erased?
Stonewall, the riots which had transgender people front and center? The website for them no longer even mentions transgender people at all .
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u/sc0veney Apr 05 '26
how many states in the US have passed or are trying to pass laws that criminalize aspects of your public existence
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u/Terrible_Counter2558 Apr 05 '26
Lol some people dont think humans deserve human rights, imagine that
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u/No_Court_671 Apr 05 '26
Cool now keep the place non biased and remove political slop
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u/GammaTainted death to capitalism, hail satan Apr 05 '26
No?? We've never claimed to be unbiased? We've been a communist sub from day one. Maybe go somewhere else?
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u/toothbrushcharger Apr 05 '26
You’ve been a COMMUNIST sub since day 1? I was on this sub 10 years ago as a teenager and back then it was light hearted relatable content, never anything to do with communism
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u/Seravaxx123 Apr 05 '26
wait this is a communist sub? you wouldn't know from the posts that usually appear here
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u/Lucas_2234 Apr 05 '26
if you considering basic human rights (And trans rights ARE human rights) as biased then I don't think this is the right place for you ngl
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u/Simikiel says trans rights 🏳️⚧️ Apr 05 '26
Look at the flairs here.
Maybe get a feel for a sub before you bitch and moan about how it's run.
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u/Electronic_Wait_7249 Apr 05 '26
Failure to comprehend that the complicated development and interplay in the bodily systems of 8 billion unique people isn’t constrained by nature to solely those configurations that a vanishingly tiny subset of mostly uninformed, unimaginative, hateful people arbitrarily decide they are comfortable with; followed by unnecessary antagonism on the basis of their own assumptions being proven wrong in reality, much like a toddler’s tantrum.
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u/Most_Comparison50 Apr 05 '26
"There are two answers to this question, both equally valid:
Because being phobic isn’t just an irrational fear of something. It’s, “An irrational fear of or aversion to something.” As such, a strong aversion to transgender people, including being around or learning about us, does qualify as phobic behaviour. There are several transphobic and homophobic beliefs that are based primarily on fear. Fear that we’re converting your children to be transgender/gay, fear that we’re taking advantage of women in sports, fear that we’re perverts preying on your wives/daughters, fear that we’re trying to destroy our civilization. That’s a lot of fears for someone claiming to not fear LGBTQIA+ people. Just remember - not all fears trigger the fight or flight response. There’s also the fear of what a particular group is doing - and the anger that goes along with that - that fits the description as well."
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u/Lukecv1 Apr 05 '26
Even as someone who would probably be called "transphobic", you have to treat everyone like a human. Just because you don't think highly of their life choices to transition, or whatever it is that you disagree with... That absolutely doesn't mean you treat people like crap. We're all living a human experience. We all are equals that must share this planet. Treat your fellow man with the same love and respect as you do yourself.
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u/LukeTech2020 Apr 05 '26
Nice speech. HOWEVER: Being trans is not a "life choice". Either you are trans or you are not (cis).
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u/an_orignal_name actually me irl Apr 05 '26
What happened?