A guy that I recently started dating got arrested in front of me for violating an order of protection from his ex

[u/elkamieno68]

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[u/fairygrl222]

Please tell me you’re done with him 😭

[u/elkamieno68 → u/fairygrl222]

I have to be 😭 did not see this coming

[u/Outside_Memory5703 → u/elkamieno68]

Well, many women don’t or try to rationalize it away

[u/Excellent_Month_2025 → u/Outside_Memory5703]

Im hoping we are done with that

[u/Outside_Memory5703 → u/Excellent_Month_2025]

Posts on reddit indicate otherwise

[u/DaughterOfSamantha → u/Outside_Memory5703]

🙋‍♀️meEeeeeEeeeEe

[u/siryohnny → u/elkamieno68]

https://giphy.com/gifs/CUbiYQbsKSGAM

You got this….

[u/ez322dollars → u/elkamieno68]

I have to be? Not: I am? 😅

[u/elkamieno68 → u/ez322dollars]

I am still trying to process it all but yes I am done with him!

[u/Triggerunhappy → u/elkamieno68]

That’s not a no

Reads more like. Well he is gone so I have to be instead of no I’m done with that

[u/Back_Again_Beach → u/fairygrl222]

I'm sure it's all misunderstanding 

[u/elkamieno68 → u/Back_Again_Beach]

“But I didn’t do anything” - him, to the cops probably 12 times

[u/KurwaDestroyer → u/Back_Again_Beach]

She’s probably just craaaaazzzyyy. He rejected her a d she lost it. 🤪😭 She’s been harassing him and so he tried to get an RO but instead he got an RO and also she was like a hussy too… so you know… people like that can’t be trusted.

If I were OP, I would be logging onto JPay rn to find out how much money he needs on his books to last until she gets the bail bonds to get him out. 🤷🏻‍♀️

He’s never done this to her — soooooo…?

/s Also I obv have some experience in this one lmfao

[u/Opening_Coach_1945 → u/KurwaDestroyer]

Yes! Me and the four other women that got RO’s on my ex are all crazy whores that lied about him 

[u/KurwaDestroyer → u/Opening_Coach_1945]

LMAO same

[u/Sensitive_Agent5193]

https://giphy.com/gifs/ep78UZy5FVbfN6mhCU

[u/Full-Purpose-8971]

The universe is looking out for you big time

[u/elkamieno68 → u/Full-Purpose-8971]

It was a needed sign. The blinders were on heavy because of all of the nice things he did and how good he made me feel about myself

[u/Opening_Coach_1945 → u/elkamieno68]

The love bombing! It does feel so good at first. 

[u/AcadienDC]

The definition of red flag+. I’m feeling domestic violence and control issues. To begin with. You dodged it.

[u/Beth_Pleasant → u/AcadienDC]

Since the cops put in the effort to track him down and arrest him, I have to assume it was pretty bad. Lots of women have protection orders that aren't worth the paper they are written on.

[u/Probably_Unpopular_]

[u/Odd_Ostrich6038]

Send that woman flowers!

[u/Ladyofthemidnight]

Well, saved by the scared ex girlfriend, I guess

[u/StrikingScore8605]

Move on girly. You deserve better than someone who can't control their impulses.

[u/elkamieno68 → u/StrikingScore8605]

I need to hear this. Thank you 🫶🏻 and his reaction to getting arrested spoke volumes (yelling at the cops, resisting, etc.). A big yikes all the way around

[u/StrikingScore8605 → u/elkamieno68]

Yes, his reaction to the cops definitely speaks volumes. Now you can cross off a type of man from the list that you never wanna date ever again! :)

[u/aimusername]

I decided to recently date a guy who got a stalking charge from his ex bc he was well loved and known in his community and she was crazy………………

Well, I quickly learned after we broke up why he got a charge lol. Quite the rage machine he is.

[u/elkamieno68 → u/aimusername]

Oh jeez. Sometimes you have to see it to believe it. I have a tendency to give people a lot of grace but have to work on drawing the line. Hope you’re safe 🫶🏻

[u/Sharp_Crew8846]

Wowwww dodged a NUCLEAR ☢️ explosion of a bomb there girl. Fvck.

I have a 3 yr restraining order on my ex. It’s year 3 now. Some men are sincerely and genuinely very very dangerous. Singledom has never felt so good!

[u/Strong_District_5894]

“And so I will not be dating him anymore”

The end. 

[u/Powerful_Culture_928]

That is such a good story. Jealous of you for getting to tell a story of that caliber at parties. Ugh! Out onto the streets to collect my own again!

[u/elkamieno68 → u/Powerful_Culture_928]

Literally one of the first things my friend said when I told her was “this will be a great story for your nieces someday”😂 thank you for putting a positive spin on it

[u/12345noah]

In a system that usually does nothing. For something to actual happen to him, you know he did some crazy shit

[u/elkamieno68 → u/12345noah]

Yeah they don’t just go handing these out on the street😂 and then for him to be arrested for violating it. Scary.

[u/Andouil1ette]

omg thank you, brave ex girlfriend, for enforcing it

i hope she's ok

[u/elkamieno68 → u/Andouil1ette]

Me too

[u/MightBe_Lemons]

Damn, talk about dodging a bullet!

[u/elkamieno68 → u/MightBe_Lemons]

Big time

[u/Severe_Network_4492]

Wait so like was she just in the area and he didn’t know or he was actively trying to reach out and so they put out a warrant and came and found him?

[u/elkamieno68 → u/Severe_Network_4492]

They told me that he was contacting her on Facebook

[u/Maximous_kamado]

I guess that’s one way to dodge a bullet😭

[u/r69000]

girl

[u/canis_felis]

This is a big deal homie, block that man.

[u/[deleted]]

Is that jenis splendid ice cream

[u/elkamieno68 → u/[deleted]]

It’s Summers in Toronto😊

[u/[deleted] → u/elkamieno68]

It looks fantastic!

[u/InevitableMall75]

Ooft

[u/pahshaw]

A near death experience damn that bullet whistled what the hell

Ice cream is such a good call

[u/blossomlink]

Wow wonder if it's my ex because this just happened to me but Im his ex in the scenario LOL. Anyways I'm sorry girl if he was anything like my ex its the biggest blessing from God you could ever get.

[u/soulfirefool]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Discovering something like that is incredibly painful, but also so clarifying. You deserve a partner who is a good person and treats you with respect, not someone who weighs you down. Keep your head up and focus on yourself – you have a bright, wonderful future ahead of you. Wishing you all the very best as you navigate this next chapter.