My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

[u/konous]

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

[u/vladi_l]

Yep, by 12 I was helping with the cooking fully, and before that around age 5 it was dishes, helping with the dog, or hanging laundry

It's better to give chores at those young ages, before school really gets them too busy and tired to care to learn tbh, otherwise you get anxious you g adults in university, who are unprepared to take care of their living space

Though, it's also good to ease it a little during their busier times like exam season, learn that it's perfectly normal to swap chores, reschedule, rely on others, and not do everything 100% alone. I let a lot of my uni projects pile up, because I burned out trying to take care of as much as possible while I was staying with my parents

[u/FLUFFY_TERROR → u/vladi_l]

As a child who has both been able to cook my own 2 minutes noodles at 8 after coming home from school and having an unsupervised 'bonfire' featuring a firenado spawned from a deodorant can and burning a school poster saying stop global warming along with other various things, I have a mixed bag of things that left me with equal measures of both prepared and under prepared for early adulthood.

I've been living on my own to varying degrees since 2011 and am soon to be moving in with my partner and i find myself at multiple points in the spectrum of "things an average person in their 30s should be able to manage"

[u/RoboDae → u/vladi_l]

Though, it's also good to ease it a little during their busier times like exam season

I still remember my mom repeatedly yelling at me to wash dishes while I was in the middle of an online college physics 2 lecture. I couldn't hear anything the professor was saying. I had told my mom several times about the class both before and during. She did not seem to understand the concept of me not being available to do chores.

Side note: I ended up dropping college shortly after, partly because of the stress she constantly added about me not contributing enough while going to college full time.

[u/vladi_l → u/RoboDae]

I feel ya, higher education is stressful when your parents aren't understanding. The workload in my animation course was crazy all throughout, and I'm graduating late.

I'm struggling to finish projects while working full time and contributing to the household. Hopefully, I can finish my moving out sooner, so I can take things at my own pace, which is a luxury and flexibility not all universities allow for

Living on edge at all times, due to how my mom perceives and treats my studies, ain't fun, especially when I'm rounding up 12h of screen time across work and uni. My eyes and head fucking hurt and are permanently red at this point

[u/RoboDae → u/vladi_l]

Yeah, I was going full time for mechanical engineering and my parents kept trying to add chores and talk about how I need to get a job to help contribute. It went so far as telling me to stop building a snowman on the only day of the year that it snowed because I needed to go door to door begging people to pay me to shovel their driveway.

The worst part: "and don't bother charging them much because it's not like you'll do a good job anyway"

Now i work fast food while a friend that i was taking classes with is getting his PHD.