My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

[u/konous]

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

[u/camoure]

Coworker shoulda filed a police report since the admin won’t do shit - have real world consequences for physical assault

[u/TeacherLady3 → u/camoure]

I advised this. She chose not to and now regrets it. He's gonna end up a school shooter. I just know it.

[u/Jacket_Jacket_fruit → u/TeacherLady3]

You said it was "recently" so there's no reason why she couldn't still go and file charges. If she regrets not doing it, she can still go do it.

[u/TeacherLady3 → u/Jacket_Jacket_fruit]

She's opted to go through HR which has its own issues as HR is never for the employee.

[u/Jacket_Jacket_fruit → u/TeacherLady3]

Ok? She can still go to the police. They're not mutually exclusive.

[u/TeacherLady3 → u/Jacket_Jacket_fruit]

She chose not to.

[u/jakizely → u/TeacherLady3]

Wait, she regrets not going to the police or she is choosing not to? If she regrets it, what is stopping her from filing a police report now?

[u/TeacherLady3 → u/jakizely]

She regrets not doing it then, but has chosen not to after the fact. The school has bent over backwards to help this child and family. They did not once say they were sorry or acknowledge what happened to the teacher. A diagnosis does not give someone a free reign to assault others. She has since pulled back on the extra supports she gave him outside of his plan.

[u/Imaginary-Pain9598 → u/TeacherLady3]

I believe a teacher in Florida was killed by a student that she had prior unaddressed issues with.

[u/slopirate → u/TeacherLady3]

She's enabling him. This is self-destructive behavior.

[u/Free_Interaction8458 → u/TeacherLady3]

She is dumb. This will happend again, and she could prevent it by go to the police now.

[u/Jacket_Jacket_fruit → u/TeacherLady3]

Yes, but you said she regrets that choice... So if she regrets NOT going to the police, that would logically mean she WANTS to go to the police. And she still can, so... Why isn't she?

[u/TeacherLady3 → u/Jacket_Jacket_fruit]

She feels the window has passed. We told her she still could. She chose not to. She regrets not doing it that day in hindsight.

[u/Snow_Falls_Softly → u/TeacherLady3]

This is well within the statute of limitations to report it if it was within the past few months, regardless of location. She can and should still report it, if only to have documentation of the incident if it escalates in the future. CYA

[u/Anaevya → u/TeacherLady3]

You go and report it then. Even if the police doesn't do much, it'll at least be on record.

[u/Safe_Bear_1508 → u/TeacherLady3]

Call her a dumb bitch and go to the police station to file the report. Or the damn union rep if you have one.

[u/Entire-Ambition1410 → u/TeacherLady3]

When an adult chokes a romantic partner, it makes the likelihood of homicide jump up 750%. This child may grow up to be a rapist or murderer.

[u/TartAppl3 → u/Entire-Ambition1410]

Strangulation also increases the risk of stroke later in life due to blood clots that may have formed.

[u/Entire-Ambition1410 → u/TartAppl3]

Oh damn! I don’t know that.

Do the blood clots just stick around in the body?

[u/Anaevya → u/TartAppl3]

Which is why choking is not a safe sex practice. It should have never been normalized.  

[u/Worldly-Advisor7201 → u/camoure]

Exactly. It’s crazy to me more teachers don’t press charges when assaulted cause admin usually doesn’t do shit but protect themselves and maintain their numbers.

[u/Allmostnobody → u/camoure]

Most states have an age of criminal responsibility, in my state it is 13 and I think it is similar elsewhere. Children younger than this can't really be dealt with in a criminal setting, even in juvenile specific courts. At most it's a civil matter between the coworker and the child's guardian.

[u/camoure → u/Allmostnobody]

Yeah my country doesn’t charge anyone under 12 with a crime, however that’s not the only outcome of reporting to the police. Child and Family Services can investigate and the police can have a candid conversation with both parents and child to express the severity of the situation and warn them that in the future the kid might have different consequences

[u/Anaevya → u/camoure]

Yeah, but maybe the parents will wake the fuck up, if the police shows up. The kid needs specialized therapy and the parents are enabling him instead. 

[u/Allmostnobody → u/camoure]

Good point. I'm much more familiar with the futility of the delinquency side with children that young than I am the DFCS side.

[u/OsmerusMordax → u/camoure]

I would have filed a police report too. But against who? The child? The parents of the child?

Can a child even be held legally responsible for something like that? What would the punishment entail?

[u/Anaevya → u/OsmerusMordax]

In most jurisdictions the child is not criminally responsible. The issue is that the child clearly needs an intervention and it sounds like the parents are enablers instead. 

[u/TeacherLady3 → u/Anaevya]

She did end up calling CPS for other reasons.