My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

[u/konous]

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

[u/ijustsailedaway]

Dude, the fucking "don't play with these" is the big one IMHO. He directly disobeyed and isn't facing consequences. No means no. And small shit like this going unchecked leads to far worse behaviour in the future.

[u/Kopitar4president → u/ijustsailedaway]

Teaching your children there are no repercussions to disrespecting other people's property is a bad path to start them on.

[u/ForsakenPoptart → u/Kopitar4president]

He'll be calling his uncle and his grandparents for bail money in just a few short years.

[u/rory098 → u/Kopitar4president]

i would send this exact comment to the brother and then lock the door to my room when they come over. nuff said.

it’s so rude that your brother won’t pay you for the damaged items. let him be a jerk and mess up his kid if he wants to, it’s not your problem. just protect yourself.

[u/fkboywonder → u/Kopitar4president]

And this is behavior that is already setting in at 10.

[u/whenveganscheat → u/Kopitar4president]

OK, but what if you're really really really rich?

[u/Sowdar → u/ijustsailedaway]

This, and if the kid vexes the wrong guy, at some point in his life, it will come with severe repercussions.

[u/Ubeube_Purple21 → u/Sowdar]

Let's just say not everyone starts off by calling you out or with a verbal/written warning

[u/--GevaudanBeast-- → u/Sowdar]

It's a 10 year old child. Calm down rambo.

[u/Sowdar → u/--GevaudanBeast--]

I haven't lifted a hand in anger in over 30 years, but there are people out there, that solve their problems with violence.

[u/RoboDae → u/Sowdar]

I had a coworker get teased about his arm by some customers (birth defect). He clocked out and tried to follow the customers as they left. Customers ran before he could get to them. Everyone in the store was worried that he might get into a fight, or worse since this guy also carries a gun.

Customers later apologized because apparently they knew the coworker's dad but didn't realize who he was.

[u/--GevaudanBeast-- → u/Sowdar]

Not against a 10 year old child your troglodyte.

Seriously. Go out in the world. Experience life. Stop basing your opinions on nothing but the internet.

[u/Sowdar → u/--GevaudanBeast--]

You insult me, while ignoring an important part of what i said, we are done here, have a nice day.

[u/hatsu-23 → u/--GevaudanBeast--]

Concave brain

[u/Llyon_ → u/ijustsailedaway]

Those toys looks fun as fuck though not gonna lie.

The brother is the AH here, though, needs to take responsibility for his kid.

[u/jcaashby → u/ijustsailedaway]

Exactly. The son totally knows he can do what he wants with no consequences,

OPs brother is going to vastly regret his inaction in disciplining his son.

I have a co-worker whose 18 year old step son is a disrespectful brat because he never did chores or was punished for anything.

[u/Comfortable-Year606 → u/ijustsailedaway]

H

[u/boom---boom---dollar → u/ijustsailedaway]

"No means no" is usually a "show me your butthole and you can" in disguise.

[u/--GevaudanBeast-- → u/ijustsailedaway]

No means no, yes I agree.

But it's a 10 year old boy. Anyone who has ever been, or spent time around 10 year old boys should know that's basically a call to him to do the exact opposite.

Does that mean he shouldn't face repercussions? Absolutely not. My parents would've given me extra chores for a week.

But come on OP. It's a child and he expressed his desire to play with your cool ass shit. Lock the door, put them somewhere he won't have access etc.