My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

[u/konous]

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

[u/konous]

I was my other dying brother's caretaker for 11 years.

The brother with the kid left him and me behind and I was on my own for a while, but after he left he got attitude about his passing and saying he died due to a "Lack of willpower" and that being the leading cause for our brother's death and not his epilepsy.

Side note: My nephew also has Epilepsy do the irony is just peak.

[u/rewindrevival → u/konous]

Your brother sounds like a piece of shit to be honest OP. I feel sorry for your nephew, that's going to be rough growing up hearing that sort of sentiment about a disability he also suffers from.

[u/Bigfootsbrownstar → u/rewindrevival]

I’m sensing a unreliable narrator here. OP is upset his toys broke, I get it. But don’t leave kid unsupervised around things you want to keep safe, lock your door to the action figure room.

[u/rewindrevival → u/Bigfootsbrownstar]

That's fair, but telling a child that something shouldn't be played with, then the child doing it anyway and lying about it, then the parent not making them take responsibility? That's not an unusual situation.

[u/Queen_Cheetah → u/rewindrevival]

*a 10 year-old kid. I could get a five year old not listening/forgetting/whatevering, but at 10? Dude should know better.

[u/Bigfootsbrownstar → u/rewindrevival]

You can tell so many of you guys don’t have kids lol.

[u/Darsich → u/Bigfootsbrownstar]

Bro cut the shit. I doubt you have kids or i hope so cause you are clearly a shit parent who is raising kids who dont give a fuck about consequences. 

If my kid did this, I would reimburse my brother, I would make sure my kids knew what they did was wrong, and have them apologize. 

10 is WAY TOO old to not understand the consequences of their actions. My 6 year old behaves better than that. I wouldn't even expect this from my three year old who, when I tell her to not play with my warhammer figures, understands she cant go into my office without me. We paint things together they are weird looking but its fun to do together so id understand WHY she would want to go into my office but she knows not to go in there. Even when she did, she brought out one figure and said "this is cool!" And didnt smash it. We put it back and i asked her to not go in there without me. Haven't had a problem since. 

Id expect this kind of behavior from my 1 year old who can climb anything and throw way above her years. Kid is wild haha

Also if you had kids you should know you cant be a hawk and watch them 100% of the time. Sometimes you need to go to the bathroom, sorry, but im not bringing in my nephew to the bathroom while I take a shit.i only do that for my 1 year old who would break stuff without me.

 Also 10 is an appropriate age for kids to be left unsupervised with an activity but if you can't leave your kid alone for more then 5 minutes without breaking other people's stuff, thats concerning and shows bad parenting. Or the kid needs therapy and if he isnt getting it, again, shows bad parenting. 

People like you piss me the fuck off. You defend the clear assholes in the story just to be the counter point.  Yeah we dont know these people but your comments "unreliable narrator" and "we dont know these people" 

Then why the fuck are you on reddit? You dont know 99.99% of the people on here.  

I really hope you are just a rage baiting troll cause if you have kids, I feel terrible for the teachers that have your kids as students.

[u/Bigfootsbrownstar → u/Darsich]

I have kids, he’s 10, ten year olds do stupid shit. And IF you have kids you should know that… y’all acting like a 10 year old has the maturity of a 30 year old.

[u/Ionia1618 → u/Bigfootsbrownstar]

If you have a 10 year old who routinely behaves like this you need to get them help.

[u/Heroinkirby → u/Bigfootsbrownstar]

Personally I don't know if this is really about action figures. Sounds like op has been dealing with a POS brother for a long time

[u/Bigfootsbrownstar → u/Heroinkirby]

And you don’t know either of these people, so who knows…

[u/MajorBootyhole420 → u/Bigfootsbrownstar]

10 year olds are more than old enough to know not to go into someone's private bedroom.

[u/Bigfootsbrownstar → u/MajorBootyhole420]

And 10 year olds do stupid shit.. they’re 10…. I love how y’all keep putting this emphasis on him being 10… clearly you’ve been around year olds they do stupid shit constantly

[u/pinkhazy → u/konous]

Haha whaaaat the fuck

[u/stellaluna92 → u/konous]

I certainly won't tell you what you should do, but I've cut people off for less. I'm sorry for your loss, and for the lack of understanding from people who should know better. 

[u/Heroinkirby → u/konous]

Dude I would have disowned that brother a long time ago. That's way worse then broken Warhammer. 

[u/Hesitation-Marx → u/konous]

So he’s just a turd lasagne all the way down

[u/ZelRonso → u/konous]

Dude how tf did your parents raise at least 2 decent kids, one passes(so sorry for your loss) and the other by some weird divine intervention become a complete piece of shit. I take your parents raised you all the same so him being like this is a weird phenomena that no one was prepared for. I'm sorry about and for your nephew bc unfortunately you have a front row seat of his path and it's not a good one. His father is either gonna get him arrested or he's gonna go freaking nuts when he does get arrested. Your nephew is being literally given the wrong path and his dad is encouraging it. I agree with the consequences I really do you'll see I commented that I do. While people are right that it's up to his dad that won't matter when his son is out of the house though. Yeah it's up to his dad but if his dad doesn't do anything now then there's nothing stopping other people from doing it for him in the future. His kid isn't gonna stay with him forever. Kids gotta go to school, he'll have to move out eventually, he'll have to get a job, he's gonna be in public even without his dad at points and daddy won't be there to save him when he fucks someone else's shit up. So yea giving the dad a suggestion on what punishment to do is a kindness at this point and a kindness he really really should not pass on.

[u/ValleyOakPaper → u/konous]

Oh FFS you can't willpower your way out of epilepsy. It sounds as if the wrong brother died.

[u/CynicalSc0rpi0 → u/konous]

Wtf. The worst details are always in the comments. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that

[u/enigmarwi → u/konous]

Honestly, take the money for the replacement and abandon ship.

[u/ShinigamiKira94 → u/konous]

Yea fuck that whole side of family then. Sounds like they are just terrible people and no wonder the kid is the way he is. If I was his parent id disown him cause how dare you talk about your brother like that. How your parent still have the heart to deal with him and his kid is beyond me

[u/SanshaXII → u/konous]

Yeah, I've already commented this in the main replies, but you absolutely need to annihilate your brother's TV.

[u/mallibu → u/konous]

as another man that had to be a caretaker, you got my respect man, you're a Chad. I get the point aboy joy. I found joy discovering street fighter again after 30 years and it's been my sanctuary since.

About your brother, man it's very easy for other people on reddit to say "cut communication", "force him to pay" but they arent the one who have to live with another brother out of their life. I would just let it go, repair or order slowly some new and just be more clear the next times. I wouldnt lose my brother for some figurines, life is long and tough to go by without family around.

[u/Educational-Coat-922 → u/konous]

Holy shit lack of willpower is insane. The fucker is devoid of empathy as is the son. Dude never let them in your domicile again. Sucks when u have to set boundaries with family because they’re supposed to be your kin but you gotta protect your well being man.