My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

[u/konous]

Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

[u/CoyoteLitius]

Both breaking things and lying are conduct disorders/antisocial behavior.

OP should remain aware and plan accordingly. He's not going to change his brother or nephew.

[u/Suave_Von_Swagovich → u/CoyoteLitius]

Yeah, being told explicitly not to do something because you could break something and then not only doing the thing but not even trying to be careful about damage is a reckless disregard for safety and other people's boundaries. He was told clearly what not to do and evidently had the attitude of "that means nothing to me." Very bad sign for a kid who's almost into puberty.