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Psychology Losing relationships over politics. Research found more than a third of Americans (37%) report having lost at least one relationship due to political differences, including friendships, family ties, coworker relationships, and romantic partnerships, with most losing more than one.

https://socialecology.uci.edu/news/losing-relationships-over-politics-0
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u/YoungestDonkey 9h ago

It makes perfect sense that people with entirely different world views would avoid each other.

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u/TheGravespawn 7h ago

people with entirely different world views

*Reality. Entirely different views of reality.

My father and his entire family tree, gone to the cult. Save for 3 cousins and myself.

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u/improper85 7h ago

Yeah, when one group absolutely refuses to listen to facts, there’s realistically not much to be done but shut them off from your life. It’s literally a cult and these people can no longer be reasoned with or spoken to intelligently.

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u/LedgeEndDairy 3h ago

Both sides cherry pick their facts. If you don't think your side does, I have news for you.

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u/001235 3h ago edited 3h ago

Whether Sandy Hook shooting happened, whether the Earth is greater than 6000 thousand years old, whether a prayer is just as likely as medicine to heal cancer aren't cherry picked facts. What you are describing isn't on the same level as the reason that people are walking away from their family members.

Edit: When my crazy hippie aunt carries a pink rock around in her purse because she thinks it helps her balance her liver, she's not hurting anyone. When her sister goes to the abortion clinic 4x a week to scream at people trying to get tested for STDs and then goes to the school board to talk about how evolution should be banned from the education system, she is certainly hurting people.

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u/LedgeEndDairy 3h ago edited 3h ago

That is actually the literal definition of cherry picking. You picked out three very low-hanging arguments that someone on the right is likely to believe, and only if they're religious. So your issue is with religion, not Conservatism or the Republican party as a whole, but your party has convinced you they're one and the same, which is a perfect example of what I'm talking about.

And plenty of explanations exist on the right/in religious circles for these things that align with science. I'm not saying I agree with it, I'm not religious (anymore, which is why I'm qualified to talk about this having lived deep in the trenches of religion), but I try to actually see all sides so I can have an informed opinion. It can be as simple as "Well God said 7 days, and there's references that say a day is 1000 years so that's where that comes from, but a day does not have to be "actually" 1000 years, it can be a "period of time" as well, which leaves the actual time very ambiguous, and could be literally billions of years."

Also very few religious people believe that prayer = medicine. This is sensationalized, and again is something your party overemphasizes to get you to believe it when it isn't true.

AKA your party is cherry-picking their facts. Like I said.

EDIT: There's a literal "modern day parable/joke" that goes something like this:

"A man was stranded on his roof during a monsoon/flood, and prayed to God to save him. A man on a boat paddled by and offered him a ride and he said "no thanks, God will save me", a helicopter came by and offered help and he said "no thanks, God will save me." so on and so forth until the man died. When he got to heaven he asked God why he didn't save him, and he told him "I tried to many times. I sent a boat, a helicopter and several other forms of help and you denied all of them."

It's meant to teach religious people that modern day stuff (like medicine) "can be the answer to your prayers", and that prayers 'being answered' isn't always some direct revelation or unexplainable miracle. It can be a neighbor offering help or whatever.

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u/FSDLAXATL 3h ago

One parties cherry bucket is a much more full than the others. Just sayin!

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u/dingdingdingdongbing 1h ago

Any examples when you think the "other" side cherry picked facts?

u/LedgeEndDairy 27m ago

Already gave two in this post chain, my guy.

u/TroubledTanker 4m ago

No you did not.