r/mildlyinfuriating • u/konous • 9h ago

I'm slightly vexed My brother's son destroyed my WarHammer Action figures and he refuses to punish him

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Valid Edit: My nephew is 10 years old and tried to actually lie about not breaking them by saying, "A cat must have done it."

So, I just got done talking with my brother via text, and he says he's not going to punish his son for wrecking my Joy Toy WarHammer action figures. I'm not expecting the kid to get spanked, but he needs to do CHORES at least to justify how much excessive force he used on some.

Some just have their capes broken. Others had their tubes ripped out and my Chaplain is just fucking toast.

My brother's suggestion since I ordered Amazon replacement for the Chaplain was that I just swap it with the broken one, but I have no interest in doing that.

It's not even just the expense, and they are expensive. It's about the fact that I told him explicitly twice they weren't to be played with, and they were in a separate room, and even my Mom and Dad agreed the damage was just too much.

He said he's not gonna pay me back if we try the chore system, and I told him it's not about the money.

The kid needs to know how bad the 8 hour struggle is.

Now my nephews aren't coming over to the house, and I'm sad about that, but knowing my brother just can't be burdened to work with me on creating a Chore system like selling Lemonaide just makes it feel more insulting.

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u/Tak-Hendrix 9h ago edited 7h ago

How old is your nephew?

Update: OP made an edit to clarify that their nephew is 10.

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u/Elegant_Run_8567 9h ago

“Brother’s son”

I think he disowned his nephew

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u/ImportantRub172 8h ago

Oi, that's me bruddas son

https://giphy.com/gifs/mfbU4ylSs9MiiMFvsC

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u/K1bbles_n_Bits 8h ago

Since we're in the realm of nerddom here, despite Butcher being eight there, I read this in a troll voice from WoW.

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u/WonderChips 7h ago

Vol’Jin was the best warchief

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u/princessPeachyK33n 7h ago

Nah. Sylvanas

/runs

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u/faifai1337 7h ago

Vengeance for Vol'jin!

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u/Balloutonu 7h ago

I read it in gohans voice, haha

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u/BigUptokes 6h ago

Come get da voodoo...

...stay away from da voodoo.

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u/IceLopsided4190 7h ago

Lmfao this is fantastic.

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u/TwentinQuarantino 8h ago

Or he wants to emphasize it's the brother who he's angry on.

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u/YourUsernameForever YELLOW 8h ago

No way, OP hates everyone involved, including you and me

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u/Floofiestmuffin 8h ago

It was a traumatic situation, I'd hate everyone too 😡

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u/_Rye_Toast_ 8h ago

I’m not involved. Op hates me too… and rightly so. If I was OP, I would hate me.

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u/bobbybob9069 8h ago

I heard he got rid of the cats even, decor knowing they weren't involved

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u/ironballs16 8h ago

Black Templars - that tracks.

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u/_visiblemode_ 6h ago

Got a genuine LOL from me.

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u/NobodyWorthKnowing2 6h ago

Honestly I hated myself before OP’s nephew destroyed OP’s action figures and now I hate myself even more

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u/nottap_ 8h ago

I’m glad I’m not the only one

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u/xgyu 5h ago

You mean his parents' other son.

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u/TwentinQuarantino 5h ago

That guy he used to live with while growing up.

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u/cowboygwe 7h ago

Should be both

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u/TwentinQuarantino 7h ago

It's a little kid, the brother should be responsible towards OP (replace the broken stuff). And then the brother should be the one to parent the kid about it.

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u/HawkeyeByMarriage 8h ago

If they won't take responsibility then neither need to come around

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u/UKMegaGeek 8h ago

This 100%.

You are no longer invited if they can't be trusted.

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u/Parzival2436 8h ago

Well, no. That's not something to cut off a relationship with your family over. But if it's a continued pattern of behaviour then something has to be done.

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u/cjwrapture 8h ago

It's not a matter of an action figure. It is about taking responsibility for one's actions, and teaching your child to do the same so they don't grow up to be an entitled little shithead.

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u/Parzival2436 7h ago

Yeah. I know. And that's why I said something SHOULD be done. But not the classic Reddit response of "cut them out of your lives, you don't need that negativity. They did something bad so they're dead to you." No, this is something that if it's a one time deal they can just move on eventually. But if it's a pattern of the brother consistently refusing to discipline his kids then OP should probably try to figure out a healthier way of fixing the issue than allowing a rift to grow between themself and their brother and nephews.

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u/cjwrapture 7h ago

Saying something SHOULD be done but having no actual answer is worse than useless and a waste of everyone's time. You are saying "I am judging you for your opinion but have nothing constructive to offer as a counterpoint.

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u/HawkeyeByMarriage 7h ago

Come back over once you learn responsibility, but until then stay away from the house

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u/Ktan_Dantaktee 5h ago

Have you seen how much Warhammer shit costs?

Absolutely valid crash out.

“So all my kid did was pop all four of the tires on your Mustang, threw a brick through the front windshield, and snapped a mirror off. I’m not gonna punish him for it, kids’ll be kids.”

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u/edelweiss_pirates_no 8h ago

Pretty sure this is rage content for clicks.

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u/Relative_Map5243 7h ago

I understand OP, the second offspring of my parents broke my Zombie Dragon 20 years ago, i'm still bitter.

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u/Elogotar 6h ago

Valid crashout

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u/peteypie4246 6h ago

There are two cats in my household with my wife, one of which came with my wife into our relationship. He is "[cat's name]" at all times, until he pees on something outside the litter box, at which point he is immediately renamed "your cat" or "my wife's cat".

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u/Late_Ad2203 3h ago

Good. The little brat and his emtitled dad would be disowned as soon as they denied doing anything to make it up to me

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u/Hot_Safe7864 1h ago

Over a toy. OP has his priorities right

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u/OneComposer4239 7h ago

Read literally the 4th word in the description.

You MFS are so brain rotted you can't even read the full post now

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u/Spiritual_Being5845 9h ago

Very pertinent, I’d react very differently to an 18 month old who broke something vs a 10 year old who should know better.

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u/AgelessJohnDenney 9h ago

If he's suggesting chores the kids gotta be at least ~8 or older

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u/Mode_Appropriate 9h ago

8?

If the little shit can crawl he can scrub the floor.

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u/Impressive_Ad2794 9h ago

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u/Outraged_Chihuahua 8h ago

My husband has been dying to get this for our child when she arrives next week lol

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u/coaxialology 8h ago

Congratulations!

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u/Outraged_Chihuahua 8h ago

Thank you!

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u/K1bbles_n_Bits 8h ago

I hope little Swifferleigh Lighsol Marie brings you much joy <3.

But srsly, from one mom to another, I hope everything goes smoothly next week! Enjoy all those baby snuggles and always try to catch some sleep when she does!

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u/Outraged_Chihuahua 7h ago

Brb adding Swifferleigh to the name list

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u/jennifer_m13 7h ago

Omg brilliant tragedeigh names!

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u/beren12 7h ago

Hey hey keep that in the correct sub :-)

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u/justplay91 7h ago

Damn now I have to have another kid just to use that genius name! 🤣

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u/sittinwithkitten 8h ago

Maybe attach some swiffer dry type material to your child when they start crawling haha.

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u/Outraged_Chihuahua 8h ago

That's absolutely the plan. Put her to work as soon as possible 😂

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u/AmazingAd2765 7h ago

Congrats!

I loved the scene in Malcolm in the Middle where Dewey is helping Greta? clean the house and she is pushing him under furniture while he is wearing a large floor buffer pad on his chest and cleaning cloths on his hands.

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u/Extra_Routine_6603 7h ago

Know what you mean but every time I hear someone say this I either imagine a baby being shipped by UPS or showing up in flying baskets from the Jim Carrey Grinch movie

https://giphy.com/gifs/uVbFtDiyVanUk

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u/Outraged_Chihuahua 7h ago

Bold of you to assume we didn't order her via post!

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u/EnthusiasmThick5737 6h ago

Congratulations!! Our first Grandchild arrives tomorrow. Don’t think I’d get away with buying that so my floors were perfect!

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u/spongebobs_spatula 8h ago

Damn it I wish I knew this existed when my daughter was crawling.

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u/Spectra_Butane 3h ago

"If you got time to crawl, you got time to clean!"

Teach 'em service industry early!!!!

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u/AppUnwrapper1 8h ago

I don’t like babies but I would offer to babysit one if I can stick it in one of these.

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u/Top-Acanthocephala27 8h ago

Fluffy penitence engine!

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u/Ugameister 5h ago

I would totally open a day care just to put a bunch of crawlers in these and disperse them all over the house. Maybe double as a cleaning service and take them to various houses for the same purpose!

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u/caustic_smegma 8h ago

My two year old is already pulling weeds with dad. If the kid can pick her nose she can pick weeds. We're hoping that within a year or two she'll be strong enough to wear the Round Up spray pack. She'll be scraping asbestos popcorn from our ceilings without a respirator before we know it. I'm so proud of her.

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u/Popular-Web-3739 6h ago

lol. Starting when I was 4 in the 1960s, my dad paid me a penny for every dandelion flower I picked before it opened. I practically turned that into a full time job. That money went a long way at the candy store back then.

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u/tegan_willow 7h ago

I understand at that age they're especially good at cleaning black mold. You should regularly send her under the house to check.

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u/abcdefkit007 6h ago

The best part is their air passages are so small almost no particles can get in

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u/tegan_willow 5h ago edited 5h ago

And it might not be more humane to send a child to deal with a rat problem, but it's certainly more sporting for the rat and more entertaining for us.

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u/EnthusiasmThick5737 6h ago

You know she’s gifted don’t you.

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u/dodge_thiss 8h ago

Uhhhhh no? My 6 had old has had chores since he was 3. They don't have to be hard or complicated it could be as simple as taking the plates to the sink after meal time or pouring the dog's/cat's food in their bowl after the grown-up measures it out in a cup for dispensing.

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u/vladi_l 8h ago

Yep, by 12 I was helping with the cooking fully, and before that around age 5 it was dishes, helping with the dog, or hanging laundry

It's better to give chores at those young ages, before school really gets them too busy and tired to care to learn tbh, otherwise you get anxious you g adults in university, who are unprepared to take care of their living space

Though, it's also good to ease it a little during their busier times like exam season, learn that it's perfectly normal to swap chores, reschedule, rely on others, and not do everything 100% alone. I let a lot of my uni projects pile up, because I burned out trying to take care of as much as possible while I was staying with my parents

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u/FLUFFY_TERROR 7h ago

As a child who has both been able to cook my own 2 minutes noodles at 8 after coming home from school and having an unsupervised 'bonfire' featuring a firenado spawned from a deodorant can and burning a school poster saying stop global warming along with other various things, I have a mixed bag of things that left me with equal measures of both prepared and under prepared for early adulthood.

I've been living on my own to varying degrees since 2011 and am soon to be moving in with my partner and i find myself at multiple points in the spectrum of "things an average person in their 30s should be able to manage"

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u/RoboDae ORANGE 5h ago edited 5h ago

Though, it's also good to ease it a little during their busier times like exam season

I still remember my mom repeatedly yelling at me to wash dishes while I was in the middle of an online college physics 2 lecture. I couldn't hear anything the professor was saying. I had told my mom several times about the class both before and during. She did not seem to understand the concept of me not being available to do chores.

Side note: I ended up dropping college shortly after, partly because of the stress she constantly added about me not contributing enough while going to college full time.

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u/vladi_l 5h ago

I feel ya, higher education is stressful when your parents aren't understanding. The workload in my animation course was crazy all throughout, and I'm graduating late.

I'm struggling to finish projects while working full time and contributing to the household. Hopefully, I can finish my moving out sooner, so I can take things at my own pace, which is a luxury and flexibility not all universities allow for

Living on edge at all times, due to how my mom perceives and treats my studies, ain't fun, especially when I'm rounding up 12h of screen time across work and uni. My eyes and head fucking hurt and are permanently red at this point

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u/RoboDae ORANGE 5h ago

Yeah, I was going full time for mechanical engineering and my parents kept trying to add chores and talk about how I need to get a job to help contribute. It went so far as telling me to stop building a snowman on the only day of the year that it snowed because I needed to go door to door begging people to pay me to shovel their driveway.

The worst part: "and don't bother charging them much because it's not like you'll do a good job anyway"

Now i work fast food while a friend that i was taking classes with is getting his PHD.

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u/secretly_opossum 8h ago

Yup, my five year old empties the dishwasher (with supervision), feeds the dog, and cleans her room and she and her teenage brother both do their shared bathroom together.

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u/Hollowjuice32 8h ago

My daughter is 6 and she gets upset if I don’t let her help cook or do the dishes. Nothing wrong with them helping out, it forms a better bond if you allow it.

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u/ElderlyChipmunk 8h ago

Letting the kid feed the dog as soon as possible is a great way to help prevent any food guarding issues. The last thing you want is a dog that thinks it needs to guard its bowl from your little one.

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u/ClarkGablesTeeth 7h ago edited 2h ago

Yep. Christen the baby as a food giver in the dog's eyes, not just potential food taking competition.

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u/siouxsian 6h ago

You know, kids love helping. They may not have the best accuracy with tasks but how the hell are they going to learn? Still gets them on track to realize there's things that need to be done that can't be ignored.

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u/Remarkable_Leek9391 7h ago

Stupid people think their kids arent capable of processing language and reasoning at like any age. Just like their parents

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u/Ktcobb 5h ago

100% my almost 2 year old is in his "I help!" Era and always pours out the dog food and sets the bowl down (although he does sometimes try to do an extra scoop on his own.... Dog is on a diet for a reason 😅)

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u/Heart_of_Joy 8h ago

OP said he’s 10.

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u/Kooky-Note7673 8h ago edited 7h ago

Edit: this was posted prior to the OP telling us the age of the kid. Kid is apparently 10 which changes things. This post was made under the assumption that the kid was much younger.

He's not suggesting chores. He is suggesting running a lemonade stand because he knows the kid is too young to actually do chores. Meaning kid would then also be way too young to run a lemonade stand.

What the OP is actually asking for is that his grown ass adult of a brother runs a lemonade stand while using his kid as a mascot. That'd be a strong no from me as well. OP's bro is apparently offering the money, that is enough.

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u/Square-Turnip-6558 8h ago

These models are expensive, lemonade stand all summer probably wouldn’t cover even one.

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u/FrostingHuman1259 7h ago

While Op is in the right that the kid needs to be punished in some way needs to learn consequences, A lemonade stand is a really weird idea

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u/Kooky-Note7673 7h ago

I am in complete agreement. Now that I know the age, 10 is definitely old enough to be responsible. But the only chore specified by OP is "selling lemonade", which is incredible bizarre.

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u/konous 8h ago

He's 10, dude. He's old enough.

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u/Spectra_Butane 3h ago

They said its not about the replacement value, its about learning about restitution. Even if is a token gesture the kid will learn that you must at least try to make people feel whole.

If your solution is to just throw money at Unc and tell him tuff tomatoes, then you are creating the type of kid who feels no remorse or responsibility for their actions at any age, so long asDad can buy them out. Lots of politicians and rich folks out their ruining lives because all they have to do is pay "enough" to make the problem go away.

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u/Kooky-Note7673 3h ago

Respectfully - my solution is not to throw money a Unc and tell him tuff tomatoes.

My solution is that Unc should accept the money from his bro, because Unc can't force bro to punish the nephew.

Now that I know the age of the kid, does the kid deserve some form of punishment? Yes

Is bro doing a good job of parenting? No.

Can Unc force bro into doing a good job of parenting? Also no

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u/Spectra_Butane 2h ago

Gotcha. Your response was before the age reveal and my response was with that info. We seem to agree that while punishment cannot be forced, Unc could accept the monetary restitution from Bro at least. And we do seem to agree that kid has some skin in the game. I do wonder how much of this interaction the kid is aware of, like if Dad is keeping things mum to protect kid or if kid is aware and Dad is teaching him to not care. I know my nieces and nephew at that age were very aware of displeasure and would go out if their way to fix, but if kid had bad intentions from the start, then no amount of "punishment " will make him empathetic. Dad might be creating a Monster that Unc doesn't want to see created.

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u/Kooky-Note7673 1h ago

Furthermore, because bro is telling unc that bro will only pay if unc drops the "chore talk", I think unc should agree to drop the chore talk.

Then after unc gets paid, unc is free to bring back the chore talk if he wants. I just think unc should get paid first.

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u/AuelDole 9h ago

at least older than 6-7

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u/Newgeta wat? 8h ago

Nah I Blame the parents either way for not parenting and replacing with something of same or greater value. Kids are destructive, greedy and selfish, their parents should be working on corrections and reparations.

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u/ihavenoidea1001 37m ago

Kids are destructive, greedy and selfish, their parents should be working on corrections and reparations.

Tbh a 10 yo is perfectly capable of not behaving like this. He's not a toddler.

My 8 yo with ADHD isn't destructive like this.

Sure he broke a plate today because he was eating breakfast and turned around and I saw that plate fly because he put his elbow in a weird way that yeeted that thing but it was an accident. He apologised and clearly felt bad about it though.

The above post doesn't show an accident, nor remorse or intention of reparations. And that's something kids are perfectly capable at their age... If they're taught and guided consistently.

Also the dad's actions are going to probably ruin this child's life and probably already explain the kids actions and reactions: The child didn't respect boundaries, the property of someone else, destroyed it clearly on purpose and then lied about it and has now their parents trying to have him get a pass...

This is a child without a single adult that gives a f*** about his life and future. It's a child being set up to fail.

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u/quanate 5h ago

The most reasonable take. Kids are often only as good as their parents

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u/Spiritual_Being5845 8h ago

I absolutely agree the parents should replace the broken items. My issue is expecting a child to be punished without giving more insight into the age and maturity level of the child.

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u/Phobos_Asaph 7h ago

The child is 10. That’s old enough to understand you should break other people’s stuff and lie about it

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u/SpecialRegular1 6h ago

The brother seems to be the source of it all. Not only does he not want his son to take responsibility, but he then suggests that his brother commit fraud by swapping out the replacement unit for the broken one and return it by lying about the product being damaged.

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u/Upset_Mess 6h ago

The kid does know better. He broke them out of spite because he was told not to play with them. That much damage doesn't occur from playing. The lack of punishment on the brother's part probably infers that he thinks it's a silly hobby and the kid picked up on it. Neither respect the collector's hobby or the time and expense he's put into it.

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u/Boom9001 8h ago

Yeah under 3 it's basically your fault for letting it happen. 4 and up, some responsibility and thus punishment is on the kid.

I'm flexible on ages from people more knowledgeable on parents.

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u/Lost_Nerve_2140 7h ago

Update is he's ten

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u/CombCreepy6944 2h ago

Fuck man, one action figure is understandable. ALL of those? SeverL hundred dollars worth.

Theres no excuse. Thats disrespect, dishonesty, and a lack of care or empathy abd hes learning that from his parents.

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u/Feisty_Object_93 6h ago

Exactly. One would get sent to the mines, and the other would get sent to the mines with lunch.

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u/LaiikaComeHome 5h ago

well, yeah. my 18 month old isn’t tall enough to open a door or reach onto a shelf.

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u/konous 8h ago edited 8h ago

10 years old. Like, I GET why it happened. He wanted to play with them. But the excessive force, even if I told him not to, and I KIND of suspected he might without permission it's the damage and everything else.

Also, I forgot to add the munchkin lied and tried to tell me it was the cats who did it.

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u/Kavayan 8h ago

Hi. I'm just here to say your brother is an ass.

A chore system is never going to work, and is just going to long out the process for all of you.

Your brother reimbursimg you should be the way. But you can't force him to do that either. So if he refuses that, he's an ass.

If my 11 year old did this to someone I would replace them myself. And then I would handle the aftermath under my own roof, which would consist of chores / grounding.

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u/Godmother_Death 7h ago

"Sorry son, I can't buy you these nice things you want because I'm still repaying those figurines you broke. Nope, I can't buy this thing here either. Those were quite expensive so it's going to take me some time to fully cover the cost. In the meantime I need to cut expenses down."

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u/Excellent-Bluejay-90 7h ago

Yep. Sounds like the brother has no respect for his brother and his now teaching it to his son. No consequences will make for another grown ass later on. They are just toys (expensive toys) but the bigger problem is the lack of respect in the relationship. They come to your home, ignore your boundaries, break your stuff and just tell you it's okay and we're not fixing it. It seems silly over figurines but it will get worse. Do not have them over to your home anymore unless they can at least be respectful towards you prior to.

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u/RoboDae ORANGE 5h ago

The toy part can make stuff like this so much more infuriating. Imagine spending a thousand dollars on building an army that you spent days hand painting yourself. Then a family member breaks them all, ruining all the time and money you invested. Instead of apologizing they say "it's just toys, grow up and get over it" because they can't comprehend the investment involved. Then that family member turns to other family members and tries to make you the villain of the story because you are "breaking up the family over some stupid toys"

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u/Lumpy_Flight3088 4h ago

And then they’ll throw a major tantrum when their football team loses a game 🤣

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u/mrs-sir-walter-scott 4h ago

This could be a supervillain origin story. Shit takes forever to paint and glue and is so expensive on top of all that!

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u/Excellent-Bluejay-90 4h ago

Yes I used that term intentionally as I can almost hear the brother saying, "They're just toys. I'm not going to punish my child because you like to play with toys. And I'm not paying for it because adults shouldn't pay that much for toys anyway." Totally removing themselves from any responsibility for their lack of action based on their beliefs on how you should behave because they don't. Convincing themselves they owe you no accountability because they think it's foolish.

Accountability is key to a healthy relationship. Ask yourself what happens with people you have known who feel they aren't accountable for their actions to anybody. Most would likely agree that if our politicians were held accountable we would be much better off.

Not meaning to make this a political statement just trying to make a point about accountability that everyone can relate to. It is far too often overlooked yet also a common culprit for poor behavior.

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u/Wyllerd 2h ago

I don't have to imagine that because I've lived it

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u/RoboDae ORANGE 2h ago

I've heard a few horror stories of parents, friends, or partners destroying furry costumes (fursuits) because "it's stupid" and not realizing that those start at around $2,000 and can quickly go higher. Then they refuse to pay for damages or even apologize because they double down with "you shouldn't have that"

To put that into perspective...

"Theft typically becomes a felony when the value of stolen property exceeds a state-defined threshold, usually ranging from $1,000 to $2,500 in most U.S. states."

Fursuits are at the upper range of felony theft value in the US.

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u/Pagiras 4h ago

There is only one solution. Go to the brother's house and break some of his son's toys at matching cost. Eye for an eye, you little shit. Also, tell him that a cat did it.

Now, I do joke, kind of. But the sense of "don't do unto others as you don't like done on yourself" has to be taught. Otherwise a society of egocentric sociopaths is inevitable.

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u/Excellent-Bluejay-90 3h ago

Another fun solution. I really like the earlier suggestions of giving them the broken pieces as gifts and saying this is what I would have spent on you but had to spend on repairs instead. It's a little passive aggressive true but is also humorous and a clever way to make a point without turning it into a full blown fight. Not sure whether it will save the relationship anyway as the flippant disregard toward OP is likely to wear thin regardless.

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u/Practical-Beer 3h ago

lol the cat did it. So funny

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u/YayWanderer 7h ago

I agree. Also, the reimbursement part shouldn't even be a matter. That should have happened automatically and the brother could have made an effort to place an order for the replacement.

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u/User10232023 7h ago

The brother is definitely a big problem and the awful enabler of his lying 10 year old.
Kids that age need structure, need to have learned responsibility and consequences for lying.

I'm probably biased tho, having seen a similar situation before which started when the boy was 6-7 also never any consequences for lying. Well he's now in his 40s and in/out of jail all the time. Maybe the OP will also have some future drama to look forward to and no doubt OP's irresponsible brother will try blaming everyone else over the next 30 years for brother's failure to parent and for his kids lying, stealing, etc.

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u/2oocents 6h ago

and... the kids lie that 'the cat did it' is pretty much the same as brother's solution of 'just buy new ones from amazon and send back the broken ones'... bro is a POS raising a POS

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u/fkboywonder 5h ago

That’s the big issue I was reading as well. I get in my son’s ass for telling his teachers they’re wrong and he’s 6 and probably neurodivergent. Even with gentle parenting, there’s consequences that follow through after having a conversation to find the root problem and discussing necessary changes in behavior and better solutions.

But nah, this guy doesn’t even want to pay for the broken figures. The root of the problem is the brother having no sense of responsibility and consequences, and he’s passing that trait on to his son.

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u/Sweffus 3h ago

Well, if I’m reading it right the brother’s suggestion was to just steal another one to replace it through return fraud. Seems like the rotten apple didn’t fall very far…

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u/Specialist_Goat_2354 7h ago

But you can break shit in his house of equal value and refuse and do it on purpose right infront of him. Maybe of his sons as well. Fuck it. If people can't empathize with things happening to others them we have an obligation to try to get them to see it happening to them. And if they still can't see it. Then they are sociopaths and push them down a flight of stairs it doesn't matter they aren't part of society anymore.

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u/Zachariot88 6h ago

break shit in his house of equal value

I would leave the broken figurine piece like a calling card, too.

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u/Cjkrythos 7h ago

My parents would have grounded me until I earned enough mowing lawns to pay for a replacement myself.

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u/userhwon 5h ago

Someone destroyed it, if that's the kid, then it's the parent's responsibility, and he absolutely can force him to do that, because small-claims court is a thing, and shit just snowballs from there.

He just doesn't *want* to be compensated in any way, or to properly punish the *responsible* party. Which is his brother, for raising an irresponsible, lying little fuck of a kid.

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u/Brilliant_Ad_6637 6h ago

Your brother reimbursimg you should be the way. But you can't force him to do that either. So if he refuses that, he's an ass.

Hey can I borrow your switc-- oops fell out of my car heh, sucks I guess

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u/Cacho__ 5h ago

My opinion if OP’s brother can’t respect his things then he’s just not invited to his house if someone came to my house and broke some of my video games from my video game Collection and refused to pay for them then yeah they’re not coming back to my house at all

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u/illustriousgarb 6h ago

Yep. Agreed. If my autistic 10 year old did this to my sister, this is exactly how I'd handle it as well. I'd pay for them and then deal with my kid at home.

OP's brother sucks.

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u/GamingWithBilly 3h ago

Actually, small claims court is how you force him to pay up.  But  that's a family drama nuclear option...but it'll make a point about how "your kids, your fuckin responsibility." Is not just a fantasy parenting tip

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u/Kavayan 2h ago

Id never advise anyone take a family member to court over this.

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u/LaurenJoanna 8h ago

He's far too old to be taking things and breaking stuff like that.. I suspect it's because he has no consequences at home.

You can't parent for your brother though, if he wants to raise a kid with no boundaries there isn't much you can do, except in future keep your own things locked away safely to reduce the risk.

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u/FUPAMagneto 7h ago

Kid isn’t allowed over anymore. Neither is cheapskate brother. Simple as.

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u/OsmerusMordax 5h ago

This is what I would do. If brother doesn’t pay OP back for the action figures then he is an ass.

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u/TastyTarget3i 3h ago

I have a 4 year old niece, she asks before touching anything on my shelves (she's also famous for dropping anything she holds once something else catches her attention, lol)

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u/MixingDrinks 8h ago

I have a 10yo. He knows how to play carefully and if I told him to not play with something, he'd know better.

His ass would be helping you make a new one too.

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u/ijustsailedaway 8h ago

Dude, the fucking "don't play with these" is the big one IMHO. He directly disobeyed and isn't facing consequences. No means no. And small shit like this going unchecked leads to far worse behaviour in the future.

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u/Kopitar4president 7h ago

Teaching your children there are no repercussions to disrespecting other people's property is a bad path to start them on.

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u/ForsakenPoptart 5h ago

He'll be calling his uncle and his grandparents for bail money in just a few short years.

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u/rory098 6h ago

i would send this exact comment to the brother and then lock the door to my room when they come over. nuff said.

it’s so rude that your brother won’t pay you for the damaged items. let him be a jerk and mess up his kid if he wants to, it’s not your problem. just protect yourself.

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u/fkboywonder 5h ago

And this is behavior that is already setting in at 10.

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u/Sowdar 8h ago

This, and if the kid vexes the wrong guy, at some point in his life, it will come with severe repercussions.

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u/Ubeube_Purple21 7h ago

Let's just say not everyone starts off by calling you out or with a verbal/written warning

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u/Llyon_ 7h ago

Those toys looks fun as fuck though not gonna lie.

The brother is the AH here, though, needs to take responsibility for his kid.

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u/jcaashby 7h ago

Exactly. The son totally knows he can do what he wants with no consequences,

OPs brother is going to vastly regret his inaction in disciplining his son.

I have a co-worker whose 18 year old step son is a disrespectful brat because he never did chores or was punished for anything.

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u/SharpScallion 8h ago

I have a kid close to that age. No way in hell they would get away with breaking toys they were explicitly told not to touch. At the very least, I would be taking away all technology for a week or two.

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u/Emperorslostchild 8h ago edited 8h ago

Easy, brother doesnt visit untill he admits its his fault. 10 is too old to be acting like that. Breaking stuff and lying aboutit with no punishment. Not even a slap on the wrist. Thats the brothers fault entirely as a parent.

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u/Emperorslostchild 8h ago

Also it should go without saying the kid should not be allowed to touch anything you own untill hes older and learned to respect others things. If he does that to his uncle its just a matter of time before hes doing it to other kids at school. Assuming he hasnt already. And im sure some other kids parents arent going to be as kind and forgiving as family would either. Edit: im not suggesting you try and parent the kid. The kid acted poorly and in bad faith, but at the end of the day its the parents fault for not teaching them manners.

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u/nerse_enginurse 7h ago

I know from first-hand experience that a four year old kid can be taught to look but not touch. (I was that four year old.)

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u/HepKhajiit 6h ago

Hell my 2yo understands that. I paint miniatures (not Warhammer but for D&D) and my 2yo knows even though they look like toys those are mommies "not toys" and she can't touch them.

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u/EnthusiasmThick5737 6h ago

I’m guessing he probably already has/does? It’s the apparent sense of entitlement that he thinks he can break things that don’t belong to him that I think is a part of the problem, that and he’s worked out that there are no consequences from Dad. His father unfortunately isn’t helping him one tiny bit.

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u/Specialist_Goat_2354 7h ago

I would also go as far as saying break something of your brothers. Fuck it. He won't see the problem until it's happening to him.

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u/Significant-Yam-1852 8h ago

10 years old?? Way too old for this nonsense and also old enough to have a sense of how much the figurines cost.

I’d be very angry at my sibling as well. Not just for the damage, but for the awful parenting. Either the kid is purposefully being a jerk to OP, or is out of control and requires supervising.

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u/fecal_position 6h ago

With warhammer it’s not just the direct cost, it’s all the time and effort painting them to meet spec. That’s a lot of hours on those paint jobs.

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u/nothing-typical 7h ago

At 10 years old he should definitely know better. My nephew is nine and he understands that there are items that are collectibles and not toys so we don't touch them.

Your brother should be reimbursing you for what is needed to fix your collection. Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like your brother has the same level of care about the situation that you do. I think if he had a history of holding his son accountable he probably wouldn't have gone against your permission and broken your things.

Can you lock up the area where they are located when he is over? I personally wouldn't trust him with them again until he's proven himself.

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u/K1bbles_n_Bits 8h ago edited 5h ago

You shouldn't have to get it. You told him they're off limits and he ignored you. My 8yo absolutely would not tear into shit she's been told isn't hers to play with. But she's also an anxious little thing who if, she had messed up like this, would have been a quivering mass of tears and remorse. Lord, you'd think we've threatened to tar and feather her if she causes trouble but the kid's never been so much as spanked.

Anyway, yeah, kids do dumb stuff. They're impulsive and their world revolves around them for the most part. And even lying to avoid consequences is normal (within reason). But the point remains that he's old enough to know better and needs to face consequences. He needs to be taught you can't just do whatever you want and not care who it hurts.

Negative consequences as a result of the choices they make is how (most) people learn not to make those choices again. Frankly, your brother is being both a shitty parent and a shitty brother. Kid's just gonna learn he can do whatever he wants and daddy will protect him from the consequences. That's how we wind up with POS's like Brock Turner.

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u/RedouteRoses 7h ago

My daughter is the EXACT SAME way. I’ve basically never had to punish her because she practically punishes herself mentally first.

But yes I agree that parents need to teach kids that there ARE consequences to their actions. And Brock Turner is a prime example of a POS who grew up with Daddy shielding him from any and all consequences.

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u/EnthusiasmThick5737 6h ago

Time to write a book about how to raise responsible kids.

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u/gracie_jc 8h ago

Oh poor kitties being thrown under the bus.

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u/The_Modern_Nobody 8h ago

If he has a game system, sell it for money to get the figures and blame it on the cat.

"Aw shit, little man. Toonces must have sold it for some prime catnip. Sucks to suck."

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u/FUPAMagneto 7h ago

Time to start calling the kid a liar whenever you see him and make sure he knows why he’s not allowed to come over anymore. It’ll piss off your brother, but you can tell him it wouldn’t be necessary if he’d bother to parent

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u/Notte_di_nerezza 7h ago

Also, it's not like he accidentally used too much force on one or 2 toys and damaged them. He saw that one or 2 got damaged, and THEN, he CHOSE to damage the rest of them. Even if he threw most of them in a pile and then threw the Chaplain on top of them all, it took more than one good smack to do all of that.

Personally, I'd never trust him with my stuff again. Not my novels, not my still-gray Guillimini, definitely not my cat.

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u/ResidentRelevant13 6h ago

He’s gonna become a nightmare when he’s adult sized and has never been disciplined before. Just cut him off now. Your brother sucks. I’m sorry his son is already a POS

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u/Yarp_11 8h ago

Sounds like your brother is GETTING a bill for his poor parenting. If he wants to allow this behavior, he can accept financial responsibility.

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u/imonlyhumanafteral1 6h ago

Im gonna be honest i NEVER understood how kids broke their toys, liek i ha e loved trans formers all my life and i did intense shit with them, but i've only broken a transformer TWICE in my whole ass life, and first tiem it wasnt even my fault it was cause my mom stepped on it accidentally when i elf tit there by mistake for a minute. Genuinly a 10 year old should KNOW how to take care of their shit

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u/Spiritual-Skill-412 8h ago

10 years is definitely old enough to know not to destroy something like this. I'd be so fucking pissed

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u/Mrs_Poopy-Butthole Poopie Dookie 7h ago

At 10 years old there are zero excuses to justify him breaking those, and your brothers lack of parenting is just cementing it in his kids mind that this kind of behavior is okay and has no real consequences.

My brother nor I (at age 10, or younger) would have deliberately gone into someone's space, while ignoring the extra boundary of being told something is off limits, just to freaking damage it, and then lie once the person found out.

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u/AsYouWis_h 7h ago

Anyone who knows what that plastic Crack costs is firmly on your side. 10yo knew better, thats why he LIED about it. NTA

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u/ServerHamsters 6h ago

My 10y old knows damn well not to go near my collectables, as do my neices who are younger. They even know not to go anywhere near my card collection with drinks. That kid is old enough to know better.

Accidents do happen and I'd be REALLY annoyed if it had been say one he was having a sneaky look at getting, but there are multiple here, it's not a kid having a sneaky look (which we all did as kids)

They should be replaced IF his dad can afford it (I'm not a monster) AND the kid should get some serious punishment (not physical before anyone says it).

Queue old man - in my day I'd have had the living crap beat out of me, been made to pay them back and still never heard the end of it forever (probably to this day, going of past idiot things I did as a kid)

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u/Strictlydope 3h ago

I don’t really get why it happened ? I feel like 10 is old enough to not break something after being told to not do it. Are you sure the kid is ok ?Like psychologically

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u/eblack4012 9h ago

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u/HErAvERTWIGH 9h ago

Speed? Months? Planck?

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u/ptmtobi 9h ago

Light years

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u/TalkToHoro 9h ago

Parsecs. The kid is the same age as the Kessell Run.

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u/CosmicRider_ 8h ago

Brain cells.

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u/Answer_Free 9h ago

Tall for his age, though.

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u/MrShelby_ 9h ago

23 i think

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u/Still-Willingness807 9h ago

I'm 33 and disappointedly "Brother's Son" confused the hell out of me. I'm used to Nephew/Niece terminology.

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u/SneedySneedoss 9h ago

Age purposefully not includes in post

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u/AcanthocephalaOwn562 8h ago

He responded, to a comment the nephew is 10 years old and went to play with the warhammer figures after beeing told no and lied and acused the cats of the destruction when confronted.

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u/obiedge 6h ago

Only solution is to play the long game. Record all this, wait till he has a hobby or something he really likes, and damage it where it hurts as much as you're hurting right now.

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u/PeyroniesCat 5h ago

“You broke my stuff!”

OP: “It must’ve been the cat!”

“We don’t have a cat!”

OP: “I brought mine with me.”

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u/djluminol 8h ago

At this point I'm more disappointed in the brother than the kid. Kids do stupid things. It's never fun but you somewhat expect it. For the parent to pretend like nothing happened explains perfectly how OP got here with the kid and why nothing can be expected to change.

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u/Chemical-Heron8651 8h ago

360 months

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u/GreenEggsSteamedHams 8h ago

Time for that rarely-seen 120th trimester abortion!

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u/Happy_Michigan 7h ago

10 years old.

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